Offended by friend’s comments about party food

[LinsMum22]

We hosted my friend, her husband and three kids yesterday afternoon. Our sons are in the same football team and we said we’d put some food on at ours after and watch the Liverpool match who they both support. My friend agreed to party style food being the best option as everyone could pick at it as and when.

Amongst other things, there was - Indian selection, tempura prawns, sausage rolls, mini pizza’s, mini sausages, chips, breaded chicken. So a good mix all from Iceland where we’ve had positive comments on the food before.

I could tell my friends’ youngest looked unimpressed when they tried one of the items, and pulled a face to my friend. She made no
attempt to get them to try another item and basically said ‘I know’. I noticed five minutes later she had barely ate anything herself either.

15/20 minutes later, the youngest moaned again and this time my friend said ‘don’t worry, we will stop at McDonald’s on the way back as I’m hungry too.’

I text her after they left to say sorry if they didn’t enjoy the food. She replied to say they didn’t realise it would be that sort of food and that they’d have got something else before coming round if they realised!!

AIBU to find this really snobby and ungrateful? The fact she then took the kids to get a McDonald’s makes no sense!!

Crudités and dips 😆😆

it's also not universal "party food" as demonstrated by this thread anyway.

If people cannot imagine eating anything else that what THEY would serve, I am guessing they stay home and never accept an invitation?

Hummus, salads, that's what you have for a quick lunch on a normal working day anyway.

It's rude AF.

Some people are just stuck up. Nothing wrong with a day of frozen party food, or that it's from Iceland.

Who has crudités and dips as party food? 😭 It's not a mum's wine brunch.

And sorry but if I'm having buffet party food, there's no way on earth I'm picking fruit or salad. Give me my cheap sausage rolls and spring rolls!

Wow they were rude OP. And I am a cook-from-scratch kind of person and I’ve never been to Iceland in my life. But I would have eaten it, prob enjoyed it and and been appreciative - it sounds like fine telly-watching food and stuff most kids like. Tbh honest if you’d gone the other direction and cooked some gourmet fancy pants stuff, they’d probably have pulled faces then too.

and yes going to McDonald’s is the icing on the cake! Numpties.

I haven't eaten McDonald's for about 25 years but I'd still rather have a Big Mac than Iceland party food.

I bet she was expecting M&S party food, the CF twat.

And all that food must have cost you loads.

Maybe next time just make a vat of cheesy pasta.

Not sure if you can be snobby if you eat at McDonald's!

Well great for you then gracefully decline the invitation and save the op going out her way to provide food for everyone....

Thank you. I didn't mean it was raw, more that it might have cooled down. Some people serve sausage rolls, battered things, quiche etc cold, but cooked. Which I personally am not mad on.

I just thought that could be the only reason they had grounds to complain about it?

But I'm sure they were just arseholes and your food was lovely! X

They were rude and I wouldn’t have behaved like that but also a full deck of beige Iceland packets is quite shit and I wouldn’t want it either. That’s not snobby, it’s just like pp I also think party food includes sandwiches and crudités dip etc and genuinely if you look at the ingredients and processing of that food; it’s not good. I say this as someone who would eat it among other stuff from a buffet. However, nothing excuses such rudeness.

This! Makes zero sense, just ignore!

Very rude! I would have scoffed the tempura prawns and mini pizzas if nothing else. It’s not like you were hosting a sit down dinner party. They wouldn’t be getting another invite from me.

Crudités and dips are rubbish party food. You can eat the crudités without the dip [boring] but as a method of delivering the dip, they're rubbish so you end up with loads of uneaten dip. And then there's the horror of "double dunking".

I'd never serve them at a party [for purposes of demographics my party food comes from M & S , independent butchers , bakers and delis and very, very very occasionally Fortnum and Mason - not saying that to boast (ok maybe a little) just that I'd never serve crudités and dips]

Agree, but she went to McDonalds afterwards.

Still going on though, even after your comment! Alternative menus, I always do x and it's sooooo much better etc. I did smile at one poster who said her food "always goes down a treat" - i.e., her friends aren't rude and politely eat what she puts out.

If you are that uptight about "party food", genuine question, why don't you host yourself?

If you have such "high standards", surely nothing will be good enough but what you are serving.

I just don't think people come across as superior as they think they are 😂

My child wouldn't have eaten this because he's picky but I always bring snacks because I know he is picky.

I however would have loved everything you put out and even if I didn't I wouldn't have complained.

Even if I hated food at someone else’s home I would still thank them hugely for being kind enough to get it for us all! Especially if my husband and child were digging in! She sounds like an arse and I’d not be hosting them again.

and genuinely if you look at the ingredients and processing of that food; it’s not good

It's not like they're eating it all the time though, is it?
It's putting on some party food for the football!
Pretty miserable to be thinking about balance and processed count at a party.

I did food like that once and because there were kids there it went down like a lead balloon. We ended up ordering pizzas for the kids (the adults like the buffet).

I personally thing MacDs tastes better than Iceland, perhaps they do too. I don’t think the friend was necessarily passing comment on nutritional value, more just in general. I dont think frozen party food holds up well once cooked and then cooled, it probably goes a bit naff quickly. Point stands these people were bloody rude!

She was incredibly rude.

It seems completely bizarre to look down her nose at food from Iceland but then go to McDs.

Personally, I'd eat either, but if you are so particular you couldn't possibly consider eating something from Iceland, then it would be very unlikely your "standards" could accept a MaccieDs.

Bizarre.
I'm not sure how you can bring it up, but I'm dying to know what she says, if you do manage it

I don’t know if that’s what they were thinking of, I doubt it; I mostly just mean taste. Clearly they had different expectations of party food (as the thread shows) but under no circumstances should they have been so rude to a host.

She's an obnoxious twat. I can't believe people here are commenting on whether they'd like the food as if that's relevant.