Offended by friend’s comments about party food

[LinsMum22]

We hosted my friend, her husband and three kids yesterday afternoon. Our sons are in the same football team and we said we’d put some food on at ours after and watch the Liverpool match who they both support. My friend agreed to party style food being the best option as everyone could pick at it as and when.

Amongst other things, there was - Indian selection, tempura prawns, sausage rolls, mini pizza’s, mini sausages, chips, breaded chicken. So a good mix all from Iceland where we’ve had positive comments on the food before.

I could tell my friends’ youngest looked unimpressed when they tried one of the items, and pulled a face to my friend. She made no
attempt to get them to try another item and basically said ‘I know’. I noticed five minutes later she had barely ate anything herself either.

15/20 minutes later, the youngest moaned again and this time my friend said ‘don’t worry, we will stop at McDonald’s on the way back as I’m hungry too.’

I text her after they left to say sorry if they didn’t enjoy the food. She replied to say they didn’t realise it would be that sort of food and that they’d have got something else before coming round if they realised!!

AIBU to find this really snobby and ungrateful? The fact she then took the kids to get a McDonald’s makes no sense!!

This is true, my autistic son loves Iceland mini sausage rolls which have actual meat and they are genuinely better than the mushy mess version of mini sausage rolls that Sainsbury's serve up. UK people's are not experts, they just think paying more means better. Same as those idiots that ponce around in Land Rovers, anyone with half a brain who reads What Car, Parkers and Autocar will know utterly unreliable and facile they are.

I don’t watch sport. Not everyone is interested in it.
The food was fine though. If I was going to do sandwiches I’d say I’d do sandwiches. If I said party food I’d mean nibbles like Iceland do.

Straight to the point. Ignore all other comments (including mine).

@SunnyViper nails it

Same here!

"Here is the food its...."
"Dont care"
"But do you like..."
"If I didnt have to cook it, then I bloody love it, thank you!"

It’s all very dry and with a similar mouthfeel. And the dehydrated oven taste of it’s all the same.

i suppose McDonald’s has more than one texture but is very much the same salt taste.

I wouldn’t take it personally it’s not like you made it from scratch. Next time she can host

So you would say "Yes I know darling, we will go to McDonalds later" loudly enough for the host hear when your child pulled a face?

Because this isnt about the food, its about the rudeness. Are you rude?

I'm afraid I'd have struggled with that kind of food and wouldn't have eaten it. I find that processed breaded/fried food often makes me feel queasy and some of it (to me) has a horrible smell which is really off-putting.

This ⬆️

How ungrateful are some people. OP has gone to the effort of putting on food having told the visitors it would be party type food - for them to behave like that - how rude!!! It does not matter where the food came from - manners cost nothing!!

That's absolutely fine...but clearly as the "friend" was off to McDonald's afterwards, it wasn't that much of an issue for her!

A cheese board with chutneys and hummus etc to watch football?

It isn't a wedding or a milestone birthday, it's just a bit of footie.

You should have taken the advice of a previous post last week and done pulled pork, salad and rolls 🙄. For what it’s worth it sounds like a perfect Saturday picky tea and my lot would love you forever!!! Love random days where we can just graze!!!

You and I go to different milestone birthdays and weddings then. As what I’ve posted is low key nibbles with minimum effort, so you grab some hummus and olives and sit and watch the footie. Weddings and milestones birthdays would be a sit down meal.

This is also low effort and what I’d do as a feed the masses with minimum effort.

Exactly.

Posters preferred choice of food is irrelevant.
It’s the absence of good manners and the explicit put down.

Buffets for either are hardly unusual, sometimes with a wedding the buffet is in the evening.

I can't say I've ever grabbed some hummus and olives to watch footie, no. Especially with friends.

Assuming the buffet food such as pizza, tempura, sausage rolls etc were hot/warm, I don't see why it wouldn't be appropriate and enjoyed by most people, including young kids?

I guess some people are fussy. You can't please everyone!

If it was served cold then I can see why it wouldn't be as nice. I'd probably just do sandwiches and crisps, sweets, bread sticks, crudités etc if I couldn't serve hot food. But they'd probably dislike that as well!

But either way I wouldn't let it bother you. Maybe just don't bother feed that particular family at all next time as they'll just turn their noses up?
Or just tell them to bring something they know their kid will eat.

Agree, unbelievably rude!
Also saying "I know" to their kid?!
Not hard to see where they get their manners from, is it.
I'm interested what she thought party food was?!
Sounds like a typical party buffet to me (invite me next time, I bloody love bhajis, samosas and sausage rolls ❤️😁

I can confirm all food was thoroughly cooked!

“Shine as a hostess”? 😆😆 It wasn’t a gourmet dinner party! It’s a few nibbles during the football, FFS.

Loving the posters pretending to be so precious and delicate they could not possibly tolerate one bite of an Iceland mini-pizza. It's priceless.

I am not really into junk food, and I consider sandwiches to be junk food frankly- not ultra-processed junk food, but absolutely not a proper meal. But people need to unclench. First It's polite to eat a little bit even if you don't like it, you won't be damaged by eating a bit of Iceland food.

Who cares if YOU would serve something else, that's the beauty of being invited by different people, you experience different food. The pearl-clutchers are beyond ridiculous.

I am cringing at so many of these replies. ‘Shine as a hostess’ ‘listing the fruit tour kid eats’ ‘deliberate misunderstandings’

You are what my teenager would call ‘pick mes’

That’s party food for adults

not kids watching football

Cheese and pineapple? I haven't seen that as party food since the 1970s.

Cheese and pineapple 🍍 hedgehogs! 😍

It was rude, ignorant and spiteful.