Offended by friend’s comments about party food

[LinsMum22]

We hosted my friend, her husband and three kids yesterday afternoon. Our sons are in the same football team and we said we’d put some food on at ours after and watch the Liverpool match who they both support. My friend agreed to party style food being the best option as everyone could pick at it as and when.

Amongst other things, there was - Indian selection, tempura prawns, sausage rolls, mini pizza’s, mini sausages, chips, breaded chicken. So a good mix all from Iceland where we’ve had positive comments on the food before.

I could tell my friends’ youngest looked unimpressed when they tried one of the items, and pulled a face to my friend. She made no
attempt to get them to try another item and basically said ‘I know’. I noticed five minutes later she had barely ate anything herself either.

15/20 minutes later, the youngest moaned again and this time my friend said ‘don’t worry, we will stop at McDonald’s on the way back as I’m hungry too.’

I text her after they left to say sorry if they didn’t enjoy the food. She replied to say they didn’t realise it would be that sort of food and that they’d have got something else before coming round if they realised!!

AIBU to find this really snobby and ungrateful? The fact she then took the kids to get a McDonald’s makes no sense!!

What did she think party food would be!? Ask her out of interest (pretending you’d like to know for next time).

I was going to say it sounded like a bit of a brown buffet (no shade, I love all that sort of party food) but maybe she wanted cucumber sticks and something green. But going to Macdonalds as the alternative seems odd! And yes they were rude.

They sound like fussy eaters and pretty rude too! Did you ask her what she was expecting?

They were rude......but I wouldn't want Iceland party food either.

If it's good enough for Kerry Katona it should be good enough for everyone.

I'm not a fan of Iceland party food but it's as good as McDonalds.

They were rude and if I were you I wouldn't bother offering to feed them again. My children would have loved an opportunity to gorge on party food, with nobody trying to force broccoli into them! It was supposed to be a treat and they were ungrateful.

I wouldn't like that sort of food either.

If someone said party food to me I would expect sandwiches and cheese and pineapple and things like that not stuff from Iceland.

But then I also haven't been to McDonald's for over 30 years so I'm surprised that she was going there if she turned her nose up at your food.

They were rude. Even if you don’t like the food there is no need to behave that way.
Having MacDonalds though doesn’t exactly elevate them so I wouldn’t say they are snobby.

They were incredibly rude, not like they were going for anything healthy afterwards. If someone says party food this is what the op offered would be one of the options I would have expected.

The Iceland tempura prawns, brie bites and duck rolls from Icelands party range were lovely. But I would have had something colourful in there fruit/ veg as well, and maybe some meats and cheese.

Your friends are very rude though.

But surely, even if you were expecting different food, you'd have the manners not to say anything and to teach your DC to do the same!

Doesn’t matter whether anyone “wouldn’t like that food either”.
whether you like it or not, it’s really fucking rude to pull faces and comment on food that someone has kindly provided for you. She wants to teach her children some manners (and get some herself while she’s at it!).

She shouldn't have been so rude and neither should her child. Even if they didn't like the food on offer, they could have been polite since someone else paid for and cooked it.

She might have expected bread, ham, cheese, carrot sticks, crisps and sausage roll type party food.

Yes this. It's hardly special, certainly not what I'd use to host with as I'd want to shine as a hostess.

Little kids are fussy, picky - that’s understandable. So is whining to Mum.
But Mum whining back within earshot of their hosts? Terribly rude. Inexcusable.

Get better friends. Never invite these folks back.

Its not a banquet though is it. Its a little nibble and quick buffet for some football watching.

Nothing wrong with it at all for that purpose.

I would also love to know what she considers 'party food'?!

Personally think Iceland upped their game quite a bit with party food around 10 years ago, it's not M&S but its as good as the other supermarkets.

im not keen on frozen party food, but I’d 100% eat it. I think they were rude. I can’t see how McDonald’s is in any way better though.

That's more like a party for a 5 year-old.

Who the hell eats carrot sticks anyway. They always smell of mould when you buy them ready sticked. Awful things.

I wouldn’t like that food myself but agree can’t be snobby if going via maccies ????

Really unforgivably rude.

Totally honestly though, I’d say party food is sandwiches, fruit, crisps and cucumber sticks, for kids. I guess it’s one of those where everyone probably has different ideas.

its party food, I think it’s fine.

Your friend is awfully rude, no manners lost there