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Uncomfortable comment from a work colleague I don’t know

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JenJen94 · 28/04/2025 18:41

I’m a bit unsure how to feel after a comment made to me this morning - whether it’s right I’m creeped out or if I’m over-reacting.

Without being too outing, I work at the head office for a big national company so several thousand employees on site across the week and obviously I don’t know everyone.

I usually park in the same spot every morning (in office 3 days a week) and quite often a man is parked a few spots along who will start at a similar time to me. I don’t know him, never see him in the office or know what department he’s in etc.

Today, he was parked up before me but I saw he was sat in his car when I arrived. I got my stuff out and began to walk to the office. I heard him get out of his car about 15/20 seconds after I walked past.

I got stuck behind someone at the entrance to the office and he had caught up by that point. He said to me ‘got your legs out today then’ as I was wearing a skirt given the hot weather.

I smiled/sheepishly laughed and walked on into the office.

Is this creepy given I don’t know this person or is it just me?

OP posts:
LadyKenya · 28/04/2025 18:53

I would not be bothered by a comment like that, but I am not you. You feel, how you feel, imo.

SheldonandAmyFarahFowler · 28/04/2025 18:55

I’d ignore it unless something else happens. It could just be his awkward way of trying to strike up a conversation with you.

andweallloveclover · 28/04/2025 18:55

I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest by this. He seems to have just noticed you are dressed appropriately for the weather as its a nice day. I would just take this as a friendly observant comment.

nam3c4ang3 · 28/04/2025 18:57

wouldn't bother me.

PinotDragon86 · 28/04/2025 18:57

As a one off I would let it go. If more comments are made then I would take it more seriously and go through the appropriate channels.

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 28/04/2025 18:58

I think it's a fairly common run of the mill thing to say really, so no I wouldn't be bothered.

I've heard it said a few times before during nice weather.

MelliC · 28/04/2025 18:58

He likes you and said something personal to see how you'd react. I imagine he's got the message you're not that interested now.

dudsville · 28/04/2025 18:59

Ha! I don't think this is just friendly and observant of appropriate clothing. It's a come on, or a flirt, and it seems like he waited for you. But as a one off, at best, he's wasted an opportunity to get to know you better, so I would let it go.

Sofiewoo · 28/04/2025 19:00

It’s not really creepy in and of itself, it’s a factual comment.

Spirallingdownwards · 28/04/2025 19:02

It's a comment that the weather is nice and nothing personal about your legs.

SummerFeverVenice · 28/04/2025 19:03

I wouldn’t have an issue with it. If after you make it plain you’re not interested and he keeps up with the flirty compliments, then I’d be uncomfortable and say something about it.

GustyBaloo · 28/04/2025 19:05

The look. The disdain. The I'm sorry, I don't know you, but yes.

As you were.

Eyerollexpert · 28/04/2025 19:06

That is the sort of thing I would say🙄 what I thought before now was a friendly comment in passing. Opps

Screamingabdabz · 28/04/2025 19:07

Jeez these comments ‘he’s being nice and friendly’ 🙄

The key test of objectivity is would he say it to a man? I suspect not.

So no, it isn’t an innocent comment. He is looking at your body and clothes in a sexist way. Whether that’s offensive to you or not is your call.

SheldonandAmyFarahFowler · 28/04/2025 19:08

I do feel a bit sorry for men these days when an innocent comment can be taken as weird and creepy

missmollygreen · 28/04/2025 19:08

It was just a factual comment no?

MakeItToTheMoon · 28/04/2025 19:09

I find it odd that he made a comment about when he has never spoken to you before. If he was a work colleague that you spoke to on a regular basis it may not feel so creepy… but he’s pretty much a stranger acting like he knows you. It may all be innocent but I get why you found it odd especially when you aren’t even in conversation with him

Also annoying when you have to fake a smile/ laugh!

Comedycook · 28/04/2025 19:11

Im pretty easy going but I would be less than impressed with that comment. I'm surprised by some of these responses defending it.

LoveIndubitably · 28/04/2025 19:12

That's a fairly common comment I used to hear mainly from other women (as I would wear trousers for most of the year!). I wouldn't think anything of it myself and of itself but you're allowed to feel annoyed by it and keep an eye out for him!

andweallloveclover · 28/04/2025 19:13

Screamingabdabz · 28/04/2025 19:07

Jeez these comments ‘he’s being nice and friendly’ 🙄

The key test of objectivity is would he say it to a man? I suspect not.

So no, it isn’t an innocent comment. He is looking at your body and clothes in a sexist way. Whether that’s offensive to you or not is your call.

This comment when the sun comes out has been around for years. FFS my Nan used to say it to me when I would turn up in shorts to her house rather than my usual jeans. Pretty sure she didn't want to shag me 😂

Not every comment made to a female by a man is sexual. You can't assume, after one comment that he was looking at her in a sexual way. What a conclusion to jump to. 🙄

Raininginparadise2 · 28/04/2025 19:13

No issue with it at all. It's a factual comment. Don't stress about it.

Comedycook · 28/04/2025 19:15

Raininginparadise2 · 28/04/2025 19:13

No issue with it at all. It's a factual comment. Don't stress about it.

This is a silly comment. There are all types of factual things you could say to someone that would be inappropriate.

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 28/04/2025 19:15

Screamingabdabz · 28/04/2025 19:07

Jeez these comments ‘he’s being nice and friendly’ 🙄

The key test of objectivity is would he say it to a man? I suspect not.

So no, it isn’t an innocent comment. He is looking at your body and clothes in a sexist way. Whether that’s offensive to you or not is your call.

Agree with this.

I’m the wussiest wuss in existence but I don’t think I’d smile or be nice to this comment.

Why can’t these men just be normal? There are a thousand ways to strike up a normal conversation using normal topics.

MuggleMe · 28/04/2025 19:16

It's the 'waiting' until after you'd got out the car that I think makes me wary. But sounds like he would have missed you if you hadn't been caught up at reception?

Lanzarotelady · 28/04/2025 19:17

Oh for Goodness sake really, really, you feel uncomfortable, really

One comment about your legs. Bloody hell OP, are you married, have a partner?