Fed up of neighbours side door always open!!!

[exceptionale]

This is the 4th summer we’ve lived in our bungalow now and I am really fed up of listening to the elderly couple next door’s noise.
they have their kitchen door open for 6 months a year and they seem to spend 90% of their day in the kitchen. They are both nearly 80 but they seem to have rediculous amounts of energy and barely sit still, the phone is always ringing, they shout down the phone when talking to people. The radio and Tv is on loud and it’s bloody annoying!!
the problem is they are very nice people but they are pissing me off because in my opinion it is inconsiderate but they clearly don’t think it’s unusual to hear neighbour noise all summer long. We bought a detached house thinking we would hear less of our neighbours but with these people we hear them more.
The thing is they probably wouldn’t mind listening to us all day but that doesn’t make me comfortable with it.
AIBU?

Could you say “ I’m ever so sorry, I don’t know if you realise how much sound travels when you have your kitchen door open , we hear everything, would you mind being a bit quieter when you have your door open ?

You need to move. Old people do need to shout, do need the TV and radio up loud to be able to hear it and have every right to potter around their garden and leave the door open. YABVU. If they are that sprightly I imagine they have another 10-20 years of life left, so please let them enjoy it.

You say they are nearly 80.
In which case they are going to be gone sooner rather than later.
Then you can look forward to a young family with lots of screaming children.
Problem solved.

I thought of you today, OP, when I - a mere 70 year old - and my pushing 80 (with, you’ll probably be pleased to know, a life-limiting illness) had our youngest granddaughter over, with paddling pool, water fights, tree climbing, guitar playing, and much laughter and shrieking.

I sincerely hope your next neighbours are very loud heavy metal fans, who run a crack house, rev loud bikes at antisocial hours and who have constantly barking large dogs.

@BankHolidayBonanza gardening and pottering around listening to the radio, talking on the phone, living active lives is a waste? Wow. How absolutely patronising and frankly, short sighted.

I would be as annoyed as you are at their lack of respect for another's right to live their lives in peace.
i also value privacy very highly!
Some people will never NEVER learn to respect and your elderly neighbours are just that and have the hides of a rhinosaurus.
Put a 6' high fence all along the boundary but on your side of it. On your side of the fence make a channel of soil and plant some pleached trees. Maybe photonic? If cost is a problem, plant young yew which you can probably grow to 7-8 feet over time as a tall hedge and it will be easy to keep once it's reached the required height. I hope you have the space to do that! Should blot out their noise a lot and you certainly won't be able to see them, or any new neighbours who might move in later.
I wish you luck.

I think this is best idea l

Omg my parents are 80, love to potter in their garden when the weather is nice and have their door open. I mean how dare your neighbours have a phone ringing, be out in their garden the cheek of them. Your neighbours tried to be friendly but you didn't want to. I really think you should give your head a wobble and remember you too will be that age one day @exceptionale

I'm 70 too but I completely disagree with you. Just because people are older doesn't automatically grant them god-given respect. Respect, yes but respect works both ways!
My husband, 75, is the one still playing our old vinyl - Crosby Stills & Nash, Steeled Dan, Jefferson Airplane, Chris Farlowe, Love, Led Zeppelin and so so many others. But we're so aware that our neighbours might hear and it might piss them off so we're really careful with the volume and close the windows etc.

You shouldn't expect special treatment just because you're older than some of your neighbours but everyone has a right to kindness and consideration and be allowed to live at home peacefully.

So unreasonable. Good on them making the most of their life.

Steeled Dan!?
Better than the original!

OP sounds unhinged.

My MIL's still incredibly active and will be 87 in a few weeks.

She's out in her garden in all weathers, cutting hedges, pruning roses, planting summer bedding, weeding. And she takes the radio out there to listen!

There are loads of older people like this, op’s wish that her neighbours will “slow down” soon is nothing short of disgusting.
Shame on her.

None of the noise in the OP seems unreasonable to me, it's all normal everyday stuff, albeit it a slightly louder level. Most people's hearing gets less acute as they age. Mine is still pretty good, but I have Meniere's which gives me tinnitus. I find I need everything a little louder to overcome the constant high-pitched whistle I can hear.

And there's nothing unreasonable about leaving the back door open in nice weather, either. Mine's been open until around 10pm the last few days.

I think people who don't want to hear a sound from their neighbours should move to houses on very large plots in rural areas. Even then they'd probably moan about harvesting going on till 10pm at night and the noisy lorry arriving to collect the milk every day.

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