Fed up of neighbours side door always open!!!

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This is the 4th summer we’ve lived in our bungalow now and I am really fed up of listening to the elderly couple next door’s noise.
they have their kitchen door open for 6 months a year and they seem to spend 90% of their day in the kitchen. They are both nearly 80 but they seem to have rediculous amounts of energy and barely sit still, the phone is always ringing, they shout down the phone when talking to people. The radio and Tv is on loud and it’s bloody annoying!!
the problem is they are very nice people but they are pissing me off because in my opinion it is inconsiderate but they clearly don’t think it’s unusual to hear neighbour noise all summer long. We bought a detached house thinking we would hear less of our neighbours but with these people we hear them more.
The thing is they probably wouldn’t mind listening to us all day but that doesn’t make me comfortable with it.
AIBU?

What a shame they're not sufficiently geriatric for you. If you live in a detached property I don't see how the noise can be so terrible if your door is closed. Couldn't you just ask them to keep it down a bit? They're probably hard of hearing and don't realise how noisy they are.

Do you realise what a misery guts you sound OP? These people are elderly, they're living their lives, and you want them to slow down and become miserable like you? Glad you're not my neighbour!

my neighbours are living a perfectly normal life. I can't hear their tv, their phone ringing or their phone conversation because they are not twats and respect others.

I think I would go with the hedging idea, or trellis or very tall hedge things in pots. Do you have parallel doors op? Is your side door always open too?

Whilst there are fence height restrictions I don't think there are regarding hedges so perhaps grow something along that side which will act as a sound barrier.

They aren't doing anything wrong.

I haven’t spoken to them about it because we’ve already dealt with some other issues and I really don’t feel I can complain about this. The first issue was the man calling to us whenever we went in the garden and waiting for us to come home from work every day so he could talk to us. If we were leaving the house and they heard us locking up they would appear out the front instantly asking where we were going. When I fell pregnant they were constantly asking when it was due and laughing at my bump (I’m very slim so it looked like a bowling ball) but I didn’t like being laughed at every time I saw them. So we have already sorted these issues by having a very busy edge and not stopping to chat for an hour at a time, like they would like.
The fact they are noisy and busy seems small fry but it still pisses me off.

My inlaws are the loveliest people ever, both in their early 80’s, but my god I wouldn’t want to be their neighbour. Their tv is on full blast and they yell down the phone. They don’t even realise how loud they are.

I hear you. My neighbours got a side return. Doors open April onwards. Hear everything in kitchen. So noisy and annoying and constant. We have no grounds for anything as it is ‘normal living noise at not anti social hours. Can you put your own radio on low or something just enough to block the noise?

How could these people be twats because op can hear their phone ringing?
Either she has astoundingly sharp hearing it she’s deliberately hovering close to their door.

I can never fathom why people want the neighbours to hear their every move. Lives played out in public. Don’t get it. Go in. Shut the door ffs

What's lacking in decency about answering the phone and spending time on your own property?

I'm so glad MN doesn't reflect real life when it comes to people using their gardens.

I would enjoy it...you may in the future have neighbours that are less
amienable xxx

www.rhs.org.uk/garden-design/sustainable-planting-combinations/problem-solving/noise-reduction

That's the point

If you can’t hear their phone ringing it suggests you have a greater distance between the houses.

After reading your update OP they sound absolutely dreadful! I like my privacy and anonymity and it would really bother me if I were being watched and approached by my neighbours. I also wonder if they are now being 'performative' neighbours as someone else has alluded to, I think. In other words, doing it all to gain your attention, since you are refusing (rightly) to engage with them very much. Do you think they are in the early stages of dementia or something?

I hear you. My neighbours got a side return. Doors open April onwards. Hear everything in kitchen. So noisy and annoying and constant. We have no grounds for anything as it is ‘normal living noise at not anti social hours. Can you put your own radio on low or something just enough to block the noise?

Buy an air horn and give them a blast every time they're too noisy. If they complain about the noise tell them you can hear everything they say and do when their door is open.

And yet you led with “we can hear their phone ringing”, and only drip fed this lot when it didn’t get much traction? 🙄

Are you having a laugh regarding their age? So because they are 80 should they be sitting in front of the tv knitting and reading subtitles so not to piss you off 🙄

I believe the man might be developing something. He is 80 this year. He seems unable to sit still, like totally unable, even if he has a fall and the doctors advises him to rest, he won’t be able to stop himself moving around all day every day.
I do also think he is a bit angry we shunned him and so he’s constantly acting like “hello I’m here” type thing.

Exactly I don’t want the loud ins and outs of your life. Please

Jesus Christ!!

Imagine hating your neighbours having a conversation in their house near their own garden.

Alpine are AMAZING 😎