Fed up of neighbours side door always open!!!

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This is the 4th summer we’ve lived in our bungalow now and I am really fed up of listening to the elderly couple next door’s noise.
they have their kitchen door open for 6 months a year and they seem to spend 90% of their day in the kitchen. They are both nearly 80 but they seem to have rediculous amounts of energy and barely sit still, the phone is always ringing, they shout down the phone when talking to people. The radio and Tv is on loud and it’s bloody annoying!!
the problem is they are very nice people but they are pissing me off because in my opinion it is inconsiderate but they clearly don’t think it’s unusual to hear neighbour noise all summer long. We bought a detached house thinking we would hear less of our neighbours but with these people we hear them more.
The thing is they probably wouldn’t mind listening to us all day but that doesn’t make me comfortable with it.
AIBU?

I have my door open most of the time when I'm home in warmer weather and so does my neighbour - and we live in attached flats. She often has visitors or I can hear her talking on the phone, and she plays music, as does the man over the fence - and I couldn't care less. If you can't cope with normal neighbourhood noise maybe move somewhere remote. Your neighbours are perfectly entitled to have their door open, whether you like it or not.

I do see that this might be noisy - but did you not realise that a house next to traffic lights might be noisy? Going out to shout at cars for braking and accelerating from traffic lights is quite an odd thing to do.

They sound a bit annoying but honestly, don't expect them to act "old"! I'm nearly 76, still work at quite a physical job and have to do everything in my house and garden or it doesn't get done!
They are lucky and obviously happy to still have each other.

I had this problem with my neighbours (although much much younger with multiple dogs barking) so I just started playing music in the garden to drown out the noise, eventually they've taken the hint and are a lot quieter now.

Try playing music to drown it out, we used to have a neighbour whi left their dog in the garden barking for long periods of time. We installed a summerhouse/bar with a music system and as soon as dog started we went out and put music on.

They will be hard of hearing. So responding with your own noise wont help. Plus you would have two lots of noise to endure. Being 80 seems to mean being nearly deaf and also set in their ways and so there is no solution

Get a Bluetooth speaker of decent quality and play classical music on it, placing the speaker between the noisy neighbours and you. Even when you’re in different parts of the house, you can carry the “buffer speaker”with you.

My DH does this plays Beethoven Tchaikovsky & Rachmaninov when he's really pissed off, with neighbours mowing lawns at 8:00 in the morning. Beethoven & Tchaikovsky tend to start with a huge 'sit down & shut up' set of chords before the actual music - boy did they know what they were doing(!). If they're talking too loud he puts on some opera such as Carmen & bit of Baroque music such as W Byrd, H Purcell &, if all else fails the Queen of the Night song from Mozart's The Magic Flute - max volume with him singing along to it.😨😂

If he really wants to piss noisy neighbours off her will put on Undertones 'Teenage Kicks' or The Who - take your pick but his favourite is 'Won't get Fooled Again'.

No complaints so far.

There's nothing you can do. It's everyday living. Not like it's something the council wil deal with.

Best thing ive heard on here they r living their life to the best of the years they prob have left so me personally i would look up and respect them for it not very many 80yrs olds left nowadays leave em to it i say good on them!!

Off topic but I'm 60 and hope I'm still going strong and embracing life when I'm 80. I'm not a noisy neighbour I have to add. I would pop round and ask if they could be a little bit quieter. They may just ignore you but at least you have tried. I also would say hello to them when I saw them. Or wave.

We’re on a road of detached houses only one side (fields the other) and 90% are over 70 (we’re 40/50) and all the back doors are open, everyone is making noise at some point.

Some are sharing drinks over the hedge. 😂

For complete silence you need a LOT of space around you.

If they shout down the phone and have everything turned up they've probably got age related hearing loss.

Yes agreed... there old...and nice you say... bite the bullet

YABU
This is a you problem not a them problem. If you're that sensitive to noise you need to move further away from people. Having the door open in summer and carrying on day to day life is not inconsiderate at all.

Personally leave them to it. They're at the end of their lifetime! Think about the things they have gone through in order to be able to live like they do. You may find that you miss the noise when they eventually croak it?? Not trying to be horrible here but I don't think it hurts any. It's not like they're playing music really loud all night long. If it really bothers you that much go and ask them if they would mind turning it down during the day a little if they're really lovely then they probably won't mind at all.

He sounds a right passive aggressive prick. Could not be doing with that. All because they cut the grass before the sun is too hot?!

I agree. How embarrassing. Imagine wanting to dictate someone's talking volume in their own garden 😳

Let them live the rest of their existence how they want without Karen

So what happens if their phone rings, do they pop round to OP to check if they’re allowed to speak to whoever is calling and then ring them back?

She said they are 80 but are so full of energy they are like they are like 60. She wasn't saying 60 was old, quite the opposite.

Agreed

That’s not it though is it? It’s loud convestations with door open & sound travelling
OP shouldn’t have to listen to them all day

This

This is normal everyday living noise. YABU

and your ageism is totally appalling

Turning point?

what is it that you are hoping for here?

to lose their zest for life?
to decline?
to die?

You are a horrible human being