Fed up of neighbours side door always open!!!

[exceptionale]

This is the 4th summer we’ve lived in our bungalow now and I am really fed up of listening to the elderly couple next door’s noise.
they have their kitchen door open for 6 months a year and they seem to spend 90% of their day in the kitchen. They are both nearly 80 but they seem to have rediculous amounts of energy and barely sit still, the phone is always ringing, they shout down the phone when talking to people. The radio and Tv is on loud and it’s bloody annoying!!
the problem is they are very nice people but they are pissing me off because in my opinion it is inconsiderate but they clearly don’t think it’s unusual to hear neighbour noise all summer long. We bought a detached house thinking we would hear less of our neighbours but with these people we hear them more.
The thing is they probably wouldn’t mind listening to us all day but that doesn’t make me comfortable with it.
AIBU?

If it’s not after 10/ 11pm and they are otherwise good neighbours you need to find a way to deal with it. You should read some of the horror stories on here about weed smoking, parties all night, people living in a tip, cars dismantled in the front garden, aggression/ intimidation and so on. This sounds like normal house noise.

And just because someone is 80 they don’t have to spend the day dribbling in a reclining chair. That’s a bit of a backward assumption.

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Of please
You cannot talk about noise without triggering??

you are BU to judge folk by their age.

Its normal household noise and wouldn't hold up were you trying a formal noise complaint.

Do you have your door open too or just poor double glazing? It may be time to get better windows/doors fitted if you can hear them with yours shut.

As you mention being pregnant do you have a baby? Does the baby noise disturb them at all ever because I wouldn't go throwing stones if your household is potentially as noisy but in a different manner.

Such a charming neighbour.

They could be a bit deaf and don’t hear their own noise.

You're actually vile.

What are you hoping for? Dementia? A stroke? Heart attack?

@exceptionale I'm guessing this couple have lived in their bungalow for decades and you're the newbie having moved in just four years ago, but you've already had "reason" to complain to them several times. Maybe they're missing their old neighbours and thought you'd be a nice young couple, but you sound joyless, unfriendly and utterly intolerant. They're not doing anything wrong - just living their lives. How would you like it if you had an intolerant neighbour who complained about the noise your DC make playing in the garden (another perfectly reasonable noise)? I'd rather live next door to your elderly neighbours than you.

Move out of a bungalow ed area. Generally a sign of an old community, as most of them have sold their 'massive fucking houses wgich they don't actually need' according to some on MN.
You clearly think ageism is acceptable

Don't forget as ppl get older their hearing gets worse so they may not realise, my 21 year old just said a neighbour is playing crap music(we have a window open) I am 60 could not hear it!

Fingers crossed

No, I can't. Even hearing my trigger noises discussed will cause a physical reaction and a great deal of stress. And jeering at someone for being unable to deal with noise is like jeering at someone for being autistic or having PTSD.

I'd find it endearing. But I'm someone who finds city noise (trains, people, ambulances) comforting. I freak out when its quiet.

Don’t engage in a thread about noisy neighbours, and tell people what noises they can mention!!
Jesus wept…

I feel your pain , I have the same.

Their age isn't irrelevant because it's likely the reason for the noise. At 80 their hearing will have deteriorated, hence the TV volume being turned up and having loud phone conversations. Sadly, this is what happens with age - it will happen to all of us. If OP complains the only thing they could do is buy hearing aids, assuming they don't already have them, but if they do then the TV and their conversations are the volume they need them to be.

This is madness. Actual lost your sense of reason- madness

Definitely I’d choose the neighbours over this poster. And she even took them asking when her baby was due as a criticism. Have they mentioned hearing the baby crying by the way? Or are they just normal tolerant and understanding people?

Acoustic fencing.
I would be fencing my perimeter with acoustic fencing and an extra layer of greenery against the fence nearest your neighbours. Should stop the noise and the chats :)

I didn't 'tell people what noise they can mention'. I said that that particular comment was triggering for misophonia sufferers. The reason it was triggering was because it said 'Good luck to them I hope they turn their radio up a lot louder this year!'

If you suffer from misophonia - I don't know whether the OP does but it's not impossible - and someone says they hope the noise gets even louder, that causes a huge amount of anxiety and stress. Imagine someone who couldn't stand certain noises because they triggered PTSD - would you say 'I hope the noise gets even louder'? Imagine an autistic child hiding under a desk because of classroom noise - would you say 'I hope there's more noise?'

Totally vile. and so self absorbed. There’s a baby or toddler who will be making normal noise too but all focus is on wishing the elderly couple ill health. May it all come back on you op

OP is the hostile, anti-social neighbour! 😂

They're 80 - do you really think they have "decent hearing"?

Would love to have this couple as my neighbours. I would go round and get to know them. They will have been born just after the war and have a really interesting history. Think of all the things they have seen and gone through. Make the most of it OP.

Op hasn’t said she suffers from any such thing.
Maybe stop making it all about you and step away if you’re reading anything you can’t handle?
Like a grownup?