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Childcare is so expensive I’m considering just going off sick for summer holidays

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CoolMoose · 23/04/2025 19:18

I'm almost through the Easter holidays with my children (one of whom has significant special needs and goes to special school). My husband and I both work full time, but childcare for holidays wipes out more than our wage so we try to muddle through. However, AIBU that I’m seriously considering going off sick for some of the summer holidays because I’m completely stressed out juggling caring for my children and working at the same time. I can work from home some of the time, but a colleague made some days over Easter compulsory in the office (& I had to go in and take one of my children with me). Is going off sick for a couple of weeks in the big summer holiday the best way to manage this?Of course, I will be booking all the annual leave I have and buying extra leave to cover whatever I can, but it still does not cover school holidays. I’m utterly exhausted from the 2-week Easter holiday and I’m already completely dreading the summer period.

For context, both my husband and I have good jobs, but my husband works away. We have a preschooler (about £45 a day is the cheapest holiday care) and our older boy who has special needs requires specialist care that costs a little over £20ph which works out about £250 a day). We don’t have any family that can help, unfortunately.

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Notsuchafattynow · 28/04/2025 18:44

Could you ask for a term time contract?

PaleRosePlease · 08/05/2025 22:31

TheHerboriste · 23/04/2025 20:10

They should. It’s hardly uncommon.
”Dear, before we ttc, how will we cope if one of us becomes ill or disabled? What will we do if one of our children has high needs or disability?”

You are so high & mighty aren’t you? 👏🏽😂

0ohLarLar · 24/07/2025 21:51

Parental leave is a game changer. We need to normalise men & women each taking a couple of weeks a year for this - it can be quite tax efficient depending what you earn and its literally what its there for.

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