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Labour say transwomen should use the men’s toilet

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Kindersurprising · 22/04/2025 12:15

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

Squeak squeak burrow burrow. Is that a ferret reversing?

Use men’s or women’s toilets based on biological sex, minister says

Supreme Court ruling must be applied ‘right across the board’, Bridget Phillipson stresses as Sir Keir Starmer hails judgment as a ‘welcome step forward’

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

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justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:42

MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 17:41

Just as men can and do get breast cancer.

I have a receding hairline in a similar pattern to a mans.

Luckily I have 5ft 1 LOL

Annascaul · 22/04/2025 17:43

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:41

Because they tend not to say "oh excuse me, are you a man" - one friend received really incredibly nasty abuse, which carried on in public when she left, and she was followed down the street by the two women and people with them.

The other had all her personal details put online to millions of followers. She's an adult woman and can handle shit. And luckily her employer put up with the hundreds and hundreds of phone calls and emails. But she has teenage daughters at high school - imagine what they had to put up with at school when someone has broadcast that their mother is actually a man.

Hundreds and hundreds of random people phoned this woman’s employer because someone said she’s a man?
What?!

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 17:43

juldan · 22/04/2025 17:25

@TeenagersAngst
A woman is a biological woman. That’s how they defined it.

Hmm. Not sure that will satisfy the TRAs. Trans women are biological women.

ghostyslovesheets · 22/04/2025 17:43

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:38

Oh get you, lecturing me on trans identifying children.

Pre-puberty my daughter thought she might be a boy. She's autistic and impressionable and likes sport and other things that TRAs like to put girls in the 'boy' box for.

We told her we loved her and that there's nothing a girl can't do, except be a boy, because that's nonsense because humans can't change sex and guess what? Post puberty she's happy in her own skin, still fantastic, likely lesbian happy child whose not been led down a harmful misogynistic pathway that tells girls that they can be born wrong.

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Same - my DD2 aged about 12 would only wear clothes from the boys department of shops, wore boxer shorts and caps - she’s now 21 and a beautiful, boxer shorts wearing, tattooed lesbian!

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:43

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:34

Or men could just act decently and stay out.

Whether they identify as trans or not.

You appear to have a very low opinion of men if you think they are incapable of complying with laws designed to keep women safe.

If men could act decently we wouldn't even be having this conversation, would we?!!

LobeliaBaggins · 22/04/2025 17:44

Pretty certain Dadsnet is not awash with convos about how to make transpeople feel safe.

ScribblingPixie · 22/04/2025 17:44

MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 17:39

Agreed, and yet this is what happens when the media creates such a nationwide fear of a very few people. They could be anyone. Are they a trans? Oh, that person has big hands. This one is tall. Should they really be here or are they one of them!

Well, half the women in my family are around the 6ft mark so I'll probably hear if this starts happening (nothing so far!).

BundleBoogie · 22/04/2025 17:44

Onetimeonlyftw · 22/04/2025 13:17

Who here is excited about big, bearded trans men using the women’s toilets? Unintended consequences, anyone?

99.9% of trans identifying females are 5’ 4” tops with tiny heads, delicate little hands and feet, child bearing hips and are doing very well if they can grow more whiskers than my Great Aunty Evelyn (God rest her soul) who spiked me with her hairy chin every time I was made to kiss her 🤣

We’ll take our chances with them thanks. And no, men are not going to pretend to be ‘transmen’ to invade women’s spaces. That is an extremely ridiculous argument.

Christwosheds · 22/04/2025 17:45

Indianajet · 22/04/2025 13:08

This makes me sad - do we really want transwomen to have to use men's toilets, and transmen to have to use women's toilets? This will put transwomen at risk - I hate the hysteria that has arisen over this issue.

How will this put transwomen at risk ? Even if they were at risk in the gents, which I don’t believe is true, they would be at risk from other men. You really think it’s ok to put women and girls at risk to stop men assaulting other men ?

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:46

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:43

If men could act decently we wouldn't even be having this conversation, would we?!!

Absolutely.

Decent trans women already stay out.

It's not too much to ask them to now comply with the law.

TheKeatingFive · 22/04/2025 17:46

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:43

If men could act decently we wouldn't even be having this conversation, would we?!!

So why are we making this women's problem to solve then?

ghostyslovesheets · 22/04/2025 17:46

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 17:43

Hmm. Not sure that will satisfy the TRAs. Trans women are biological women.

They are tying themselves up in so many nots 😂 how can you be a trans woman without being born a biological man! Erm oh well we are now biological women because feelings and stuff

ghostyslovesheets · 22/04/2025 17:46

Knots!

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 17:46

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miraxxx · 22/04/2025 17:47

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:40

I'm starting to think this is a 'tall women are men' sterotype.

What a load of bollocks.

My mother in law is just shy of 6 foot and has short hair. Never in her life has she ever been confused for being a man.

Just be relieved they are not dragging black women into it. Not yet anyway.

Annascaul · 22/04/2025 17:48

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 17:43

Hmm. Not sure that will satisfy the TRAs. Trans women are biological women.

Well, they aren’t, just as the grass is not orange.
A gang of idiots continuing to tantrum because they can’t make words mean whatever they say they mean won’t change a thing.

LobeliaBaggins · 22/04/2025 17:48

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So the courts have sorted it out. As far as I know the SC is not made up of MN posters.

SheRasBra · 22/04/2025 17:48

Onetimeonlyftw · 22/04/2025 13:17

Who here is excited about big, bearded trans men using the women’s toilets? Unintended consequences, anyone?

They might look very manly in photos but they are of course typically the size of your average woman. Bearded maybe, 'big' not so much.

Annoyedone · 22/04/2025 17:48

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Have you tried chamomile tea and a rich tea biscuit? I’ve found it helps when I had a hysterical attack of hyperbole.

DrPrunesqualer · 22/04/2025 17:48

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 17:43

Hmm. Not sure that will satisfy the TRAs. Trans women are biological women.

They can’t be
They are born male
They are XY………that’s it.

Biological fact

Didn't you read the SC judgement ?!

Helleofabore · 22/04/2025 17:48

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The word cis is meaningless. If you believe that it means something, tell us what it means so we all know.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/04/2025 17:49

LobeliaBaggins · 22/04/2025 17:44

Pretty certain Dadsnet is not awash with convos about how to make transpeople feel safe.

Yep. Considering how much the TRA’s appear to hate women (the ones with vaginas) yet still want them to go into their spaces shows how much it’s not about safety but about validation and not liking when women say no/stand up to men. If trans women safety was so important they’d be campaigning for their own spaces alongside the women who also deny material reality.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 22/04/2025 17:49

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:40

I'm starting to think this is a 'tall women are men' sterotype.

What a load of bollocks.

My mother in law is just shy of 6 foot and has short hair. Never in her life has she ever been confused for being a man.

I reckon these are the arguments of a side that's lost - who's been comprehensively told by the highest court in the land that transwomen are not women and that biological sex - facts, biology, science are what matters in the law.

The levels of emotional incontinence, aggression, lashing out are a sight to behold. But it's inevitable as considering the rights of others has been completely absent from queer theory / trans ideology.

Now what really matters is doing something to support the vulnerable young who've been led down this path and are wrecking their bodies and minds in pursuit of an unachievable sex change. No matter how badly they may be behaving in response to this, they are victims of this ideology and as the dust settles as responsible adults we need to be thinking how to support them and surround them with responsible adults, loving families and communities who can help them heal. No apologies for sounding "soft". They've been in the grip of the cynical users for too long.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/04/2025 17:50

Indianajet · 22/04/2025 13:08

This makes me sad - do we really want transwomen to have to use men's toilets, and transmen to have to use women's toilets? This will put transwomen at risk - I hate the hysteria that has arisen over this issue.

Yes, I can confirm that that is absolutely what I do want.

And what trans people want is not more important than what I want. Is it?

afig · 22/04/2025 17:50

I'm as far from a TRA as you can get and don't want transwomen in women's toilets, locker rooms, sports, changing rooms, or any group or space that is supposed to be for women only. However, I do have a female friend who is over 6 feet tall and somewhat androgynous in body shape. She doesn't wear make-up, but she has long hair, and her clothing and jewellery all clearly point to "woman". She hasn't been challenged in a toilet or other place, so far as I know, but she has had a bitchy colleague openly ask her if she was transwoman and then pretend (?) to be shocked when informed that my friend is in fact female. This obviously hurt my friend, who is sensitive about her appearance.

So it does happen that some few women get things wrong (or are possibly willing to use this as a way to bully women who stand out). I just hope people will be careful and tactful to avoid emotionally harming actual women who have every right to be in women's spaces.

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