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Labour say transwomen should use the men’s toilet

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Kindersurprising · 22/04/2025 12:15

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

Squeak squeak burrow burrow. Is that a ferret reversing?

Use men’s or women’s toilets based on biological sex, minister says

Supreme Court ruling must be applied ‘right across the board’, Bridget Phillipson stresses as Sir Keir Starmer hails judgment as a ‘welcome step forward’

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

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SaveMeFromHumanity · 22/04/2025 17:12

The number of cis men who are violent against women is significantly higher. Why aren’t you concerned about that?

I'm afraid you're wrong there.

The number of trans identifying male inmates in prison for violent and sexual crimes against women is higher than in the general male population.

Crime patterns in general are no different between TW and other men.

Annascaul · 22/04/2025 17:12

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 17:02

If biological women belong in women’s spaces whatcha gonna do when a 6 ft beardy trans man (yes bio women can be 6 ft and hormones can make you grow a beard) - with a 10 inch prosthetic penis (cos when you get to pick em you can go as big as you want) bulging through his cycling shorts rocks up next to you in David Lloyd while your walking about naked? You ain’t gonna know he’s “not a bloke”. Then you’re going to look a right tit complaining to the management if your stance is bio women belong in women’s spaces and bio men belong in men’s spaces 🤣🤣🤣

If you’d read the judgement, you’d know that such a person (unlikely as they are) could also legitimately be removed from a biological woman’s space.
Jog on.

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:12

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:11

We can tell the difference. I personally know two middle age trans men. Both look like women who've taken testosterone and grown facial hair! You do a double take then you know they are women.

It's a complete farce to suggest that we can't tell.

But men can't masquerade as trans men any way to get access to spaces as the Supreme Court has anticipated the issue and said that service providers should provide alternative facilities.

So again. If everyone can "just tell", WHY have my two friends been abused / doxxed?

Because, again, I am willing to bet my house that you can't just tell the majority of the time.

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:12

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:09

How do you know that they are men not trans men?

Why does it matter, if there is doubt the trans man can be provided with alternative provision.

Why should the fact that some women take testosterone to make themselves look more like men mean women shouldn't have single sex spaces?

Make it make sense!

SaveMeFromHumanity · 22/04/2025 17:12

Posted twice somehow!

ghostyslovesheets · 22/04/2025 17:12

Also odd to describe sexual assault as a fun fact

Helleofabore · 22/04/2025 17:13

Onetimeonlyftw · 22/04/2025 17:08

Fun fact: Women in prison are more likely to sexually assault one another than men are. Rates of sexual assault are highest in women’s prisons. Nothing to do with trans people.

Fucking hell!

You call this a 'fun fact'?

Besides which, you seem to lack the understanding of the needs of women in prison. Not just to not be at high risk of rape, or sexual abuse, but also simply because they have a right to privacy away from male people. They have the right also to not be caused distress by being in a situation where they cannot leave when they perceive a male person has come into their space.

But fuck! Fun fact? That is grim.

And you did it to centre male people.

MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 17:13

RedToothBrush · 22/04/2025 17:08

If anyone can explain how my friend's 6'3" son who has declared himself trans is going to reasonably pass, please do explain it in a rational and logical way.

Its just not going to happen.

It might be rarer but tall women do exist 💀

Labour say transwomen should use the men’s toilet
FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 17:13

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 16:56

I’m so tired of this crowing on here. With a bit of luck, trans women will continue to use female toilets and trans men male ones, because the vast, vast majority of the time no one would be able to tell anyway.
As for Labour, I don’t think there is a single person left on the planet for them to sell out

Wrong, @Thegreyhound 99.999% of the time trans are obvious. Almost none of them pass. And no, suggesting they continue to violate female only spaces and boundaries makes you look bad and like you are actively seeking to undermine womens rights.

spannasaurus · 22/04/2025 17:13

Indianajet · 22/04/2025 13:21

I am obviously a lone voice here, however I just want to make the point not all women agree with the ruling - I am a woman, by the way in case you wondered. I have friends I care about who will be affected by this, and it makes me sad - and worried for them.

We're you worried or sad about the female prisoners forced to share with male sex offenders and were assaulted by those men?

lifeturnsonadime · 22/04/2025 17:13

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:12

So again. If everyone can "just tell", WHY have my two friends been abused / doxxed?

Because, again, I am willing to bet my house that you can't just tell the majority of the time.

Of course you can. I truly think you are deluded and / or looking through rose tinted glasses, isn't your own partner a trans man? or have I remembered that wrong?

TheAmpleBalonz · 22/04/2025 17:13

I work with a trans woman. They come into the women’s and hang around trying to have conversations about tampax and periods. It’s really weird, it’s like they get off on it, and I can’t wait for that to stop.

sellotape12 · 22/04/2025 17:14

The News Agents podcast last week talked about this. It annoyed me as Lewis Goodall, who I usually love listening to, likened it to a media hysteria. His suggestions were
a) that most trans identifying people wouldn't go to the lengths of dressing as a women to rape etc, that this isn't fair on most trans people who want to just live and
b) that most people (women inc) were live and let live, and this was all a big media hysteria. He quoted some survey that the general British public weren't too bothered about the toilets thing, just the males in sport thing.

Until Emily Maitlis had to point out his faulty logic: the bad actors use trans-identification to exploit the loophole that is female-only access. Honestly. Goodall needs to take some A-Level lessons in logic and fallacious arguments. I wish journalists would stop hiding behind the yawn some 'media hysteria' defence. It's incredibly important to a lot of mainstream women; to lesbians, to women of faith groups, to survivors of DV etc etc. The reason these views don't seem to be represented in mainstream media (and therefore it must only be a hysterical few!) is the bloody point Lewis - these women were threatened, socially ostracised, name-called and taken to court.

miraxxx · 22/04/2025 17:14

MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 17:08

I really do think most people on here form their opinions without actively engaging in any way with the trans community. Many people who are trans are not out publicly and I’ll say it again, you would never know. This includes trans men who by your definition should be protected. Would you feel comfortable seeing Leo Macallan in your single sex toilet? And would you feel better if he said “Don’t worry, I do have a vagina.”
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DHlndkhsjqM/?igsh=dXdmNnh4Y2RiMDN2

Men being able to walk into the ladies and say “don’t worry, I’m actually a trans man. Promise I don’t have a penis!” doesn’t make me feel safe as a woman or as a rape and DA survivor.

You would never know. They all look like the delicately fragile trans Ms Universe from Thailand or burly MMA fighters (except transmen never make into any male sport, funny that). Of course. Like we all dont know any trans people.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 22/04/2025 17:14

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 17:02

If biological women belong in women’s spaces whatcha gonna do when a 6 ft beardy trans man (yes bio women can be 6 ft and hormones can make you grow a beard) - with a 10 inch prosthetic penis (cos when you get to pick em you can go as big as you want) bulging through his cycling shorts rocks up next to you in David Lloyd while your walking about naked? You ain’t gonna know he’s “not a bloke”. Then you’re going to look a right tit complaining to the management if your stance is bio women belong in women’s spaces and bio men belong in men’s spaces 🤣🤣🤣

Rather take my chances with big pretend Derek with her big pretend penis than Denise with all the physiological advantages (and real penis) Denise has being male, no matter how ‘feminine’ Denise is.

TheAmpleBalonz · 22/04/2025 17:15

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 17:13

Wrong, @Thegreyhound 99.999% of the time trans are obvious. Almost none of them pass. And no, suggesting they continue to violate female only spaces and boundaries makes you look bad and like you are actively seeking to undermine womens rights.

Agreed. I keep seeing posts from trans men saying ‘so you want me in your bathroom’ as if it’s a gotcha. And yet, they always look like trans men. There’s something ‘off.’ There always is and you can always tell.

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:15

Naunet · 22/04/2025 17:11

I dont need to know, both can be removed. Keep up.

Ah, OK.

So, people that aren't allowed to use women's toilets:

Trans women
Trans men
Women 6ft and over who might, under certain lights, look a little masculine

Cailin66 · 22/04/2025 17:16

TheAmpleBalonz · 22/04/2025 17:13

I work with a trans woman. They come into the women’s and hang around trying to have conversations about tampax and periods. It’s really weird, it’s like they get off on it, and I can’t wait for that to stop.

That’s exactly what it’s about. Do you not know about AGP? It’s a sexual fetish.

ghostyslovesheets · 22/04/2025 17:16

Even dressed in full armour Gwendoline Christie wasn’t viewed as a man

Kardamyli2 · 22/04/2025 17:16

So many bonkers takes on this thread. All that's needed is for RMW to rock up and tell everyone that the SC judgment said transwomen can still use single sex facilities for women. Good for a laugh I suppose, but it's alarming how many people are determined that men should be allowed to violate biological women's boundaries.

GreenFriedTomato · 22/04/2025 17:16

Hotandbothered222 · 22/04/2025 13:11

The trouble is, this is the attitude of transwomen (see attached Twitter photo). They are prepared to physically fight to be allowed to stay in a female space. They are in fact, better women than actual women. I wouldn’t want to challenge one of these people in a toilet or anywhere else, for my own safety.

for anyone with a strong stomach, this transwoman, Meja is a prolific poster on Twitter, and is extremely aggressive in a way that we tend to associate with male behaviour, no matter what they say.

Completely delusional and must have those fairground magic mirrors in his home

ghostyslovesheets · 22/04/2025 17:17

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:15

Ah, OK.

So, people that aren't allowed to use women's toilets:

Trans women
Trans men
Women 6ft and over who might, under certain lights, look a little masculine

No just men hth

CantStopMoving · 22/04/2025 17:17

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 17:12

So again. If everyone can "just tell", WHY have my two friends been abused / doxxed?

Because, again, I am willing to bet my house that you can't just tell the majority of the time.

I don’t understand this- if no one can tell why would they be abused as surely no one knows ?

LakieLady · 22/04/2025 17:17

Cornishclio · 22/04/2025 16:51

I think this is ridiculous. Are we really saying trans women have to use male toilets with urinals and trans men have to use female toilets? Are people going to be challenging women who look trans and vice versa?

It already happens.

A butch-looking lesbian colleague was called out for using the women's toilet in a pub years ago.

The woman who challenged her was mortified and apologetic afterwards and colleague saw the funny side of it, thankfully. But it makes me wonder if her assertion that she was female would be accepted so willingly now.

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 17:18

ChessorBuckaroo · 22/04/2025 17:02

It's complete BS, and wishful thinking on their part.

So many transwomen are 100% passable.

As I said before on here, there is a reason why transwomen are warned to tell men they meet their identity prior to any sexual encounter. If men could "just tell" this wouldn't be a thing.

It's fantasy on your part. Almost zero transwomen pass to females, because it's hardwired into us as a survival instinct to spot a man. Men don't have that same survival instinct. Hence why they don't have the same skill. This is basic Sociological knowledge.

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