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Labour say transwomen should use the men’s toilet

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Kindersurprising · 22/04/2025 12:15

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

Squeak squeak burrow burrow. Is that a ferret reversing?

Use men’s or women’s toilets based on biological sex, minister says

Supreme Court ruling must be applied ‘right across the board’, Bridget Phillipson stresses as Sir Keir Starmer hails judgment as a ‘welcome step forward’

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

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CantStopMoving · 22/04/2025 16:57

Boreded · 22/04/2025 16:54

Wrong place, posters here hate the trans community. They’ll claim not to, but it’s quite evident

I have seen zero hate. Fighting for women’s rights is not the same as hating trans people. You have to stop with this rhetoric now

TheKeatingFive · 22/04/2025 16:58

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 16:52

@TheKeatingFive also sorry but your post is super ignorant. Do you know any trans people? Does your world have any LGBT people in it? (who have much more diverse opinions than MNers). Do you know how much hate trans women get by straight men? I have trans friends, every one of them has at the very least been verbally abused by almost always straight men. Many have been beaten up. So of course they’re going to be at risk in a fucking toilet. Of at the very, very least verbal abuse, but most likely physical violence and sexual assault. Geez your world is small if you don’t know that 🤣

But as I said I ain’t getting into it. I’m in the middle and MN is very much anti trans so obviously there’s no point in having a debate because I can see both points of view. I also can’t be arsed arguing with strangers on the internet

So hang on. What you're saying is that men will be abused by other men, in men's spaces.

Firstly, why are we not tackling this horrendous transphobia amongst men. Why are women being berated instead of the culprits?

Secondly, why would this be women's problem to solve? Why are we always been asked to clean up messes made by men - at detriment to ourselves? 🤯

TheKeatingFive · 22/04/2025 16:59

Can anyone actually post some data that shows that men are attacking transwomen with this kind of regularity?

ArabellaScott · 22/04/2025 16:59

Thegreyhound · 22/04/2025 16:56

I’m so tired of this crowing on here. With a bit of luck, trans women will continue to use female toilets and trans men male ones, because the vast, vast majority of the time no one would be able to tell anyway.
As for Labour, I don’t think there is a single person left on the planet for them to sell out

A bit of luck?!

You mean, men will choose to break the law and ignore women's rights and boundaries, and you say that's a good thing?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 22/04/2025 16:59

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 16:42

I don't just mean toilets. Because legally there is nothing stopping men from entering women's toilets anyway. It's just societal pressure. And I'm not justifying anything.

I am laughing at the "we can always tell" brigade, but I am 100% certain you can't "always tell". That is a ridiculous thing to claim.

A discussion about it, without name calling, or making utterly ridiculous claims would be great. Find a way that everyone is supported. Because there are just as many trans men as there are trans women. And trans men need to be included in the conversation.

Making utterly ridiculous claims like ‘TWAW’? People can’t change sex, and stating that as a fact isn’t name calling or hateful or bigoted.

The only way everyone can be supported is for trans people to use a third space, but they have made it very clear that that isn’t what they want, because what they really want is to force women to comply with their delusion that they are women. I refuse to do that as they are men. This is all about male power and control.

TM are welcome in our spaces as they are women.

ThatCyanCat · 22/04/2025 16:59

miraxxx · 22/04/2025 16:55

The bat signal went out and that's the latest gotcha : 6 foot beardy, muscular trans men. We are not dealing with rational people.

I'm not kidding... the other night, one of them tried to gotcha us with seven foot women and four foot men (yes, really), and then told us we "probably haven't" heard of the Samoan fa'afafine. Last seen limping out, wheezing, "I meant to do that..."

DrPrunesqualer · 22/04/2025 16:59

TheDevilWearPrimarni · 22/04/2025 16:52

I don’t vote Reform or read the Mail or Express, so you are wrong. I’m not a fan of Brexit either.
@Guinessandafirewhat a pathetic right wing trope you’ve come out with.

Classic misogynistic attack from Guinness there.

Are we crying cos the boys don’t get their own way all the time anymore ….didums

MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 16:59

miraxxx · 22/04/2025 16:55

The bat signal went out and that's the latest gotcha : 6 foot beardy, muscular trans men. We are not dealing with rational people.

I was talking about 6ft + cis women, not trans women, who are often mistaken and falsely accused of being trans women. Sometimes this is a seemingly harmless assumption, sometimes it is more. I’ve been out and had the “oh is your friend Trans” type comments, while they’ve had “you look lovely and pass very well” given to them as a misplaced but well meaning compliment.

miraxxx · 22/04/2025 17:00

Mumble12 · 22/04/2025 13:49

They are transwomen. You can advocate for what you think is right for women, without sneering down your nose at other people.

That is correct sexing. Sneering is what many blokes in dresses have been doing to women for years on end. Did you scold any of them?

Annascaul · 22/04/2025 17:00

Annoyedone · 22/04/2025 16:43

Please may I politely ask, how would a woman encountering such a male in the female bathroom know he had no penis? Surely if the person was as nice as you are saying, they would know female spaces are for females and as they were not female, they should not be there. So they can’t be that nice if they are purposefully going somewhere they know they should not be,

If gender non conforming men are not safe in men’s spaces, why is that women’s problem to solve? If gender non conforming men are not safe in men’s toilets, why would making women’s spaces mixed sex (which they would be if they let in GNC men) make women safer? Or do women not count in your view?

I agree. The “this person only wants to go quietly about their lives, with dignity and peace” rhetoric really doesn’t really wash with me; when they’re happily removing all those things from women by bulldozing into women’s spaces.
It’s the absolute epitome of self absorption.

EasternStandard · 22/04/2025 17:01

DrPrunesqualer · 22/04/2025 16:38

Women don’t recognise the ‘cis’ term…..it’s offensive

If you mean women, just say it.

Agree

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 22/04/2025 17:01

DrPrunesqualer · 22/04/2025 16:54

They will still have the strength of a man.
You don’t need a penis to assault someone.
They are a danger to women irrespective of surgery.

Their presence takes away woman's privacy, dignity and a right to safety

No
They are not allowed in single sex spaces….with or without a penis.

You need one to rape, though....at least under UK law

Whatthechicken · 22/04/2025 17:01

Indianajet · 22/04/2025 13:08

This makes me sad - do we really want transwomen to have to use men's toilets, and transmen to have to use women's toilets? This will put transwomen at risk - I hate the hysteria that has arisen over this issue.

Why all this sadness and upset feelings for men who say they are women having to use male toilets? And this is not just about toilets. Where was all the sadness when a 6’5 ‘Katie’ Dolatowski sexually assaulted a 10 year old in the women’s toilets? Where was the sadness when convicted rapist ‘Karen’ White sexually assaulted incarcerated women in prison? Where was the sadness when a woman was raped on a hospital ward, but NHS bosses gaslighted her for a year saying ‘it couldn’t have happened as there were no men on the ward’, Where was the sadness and outrage when a woman was denied cancer treatment because she didn’t want a man who said he was a woman to examine her?

All of this happened because as a society, we put women’s needs, safety, dignity and privacy second to men’s feelings. If the ruling had gone the other way last week, women wouldn’t even be distinguishable in law as a separate sex class.

I’m upset that so many of the comments about feeling sorry for men who say they are women actually come from women. We really do need to wake up to the impact female socialisation and ‘be kind’ has had.

Helleofabore · 22/04/2025 17:01

Cornishclio · 22/04/2025 16:51

I think this is ridiculous. Are we really saying trans women have to use male toilets with urinals and trans men have to use female toilets? Are people going to be challenging women who look trans and vice versa?

Some women may challenge male people with transgender identities who will still unlawfully use the toilets. But I doubt it. Because if they are like me, they will not. And not just because I have been abused and intimidated by male people with transgender identities in the past, but because they are MALE. And generally female people will avoid angering any male person in such a space.

But I reckon that plenty of women will contact security and report it. And discretely let other women know that a man is in the toilet if they meet others coming in.

Gosh.... what did we all do in the past? It is almost like people have forgotten that we once lived in an era when it was considered unacceptable for male people to enter a female single sex space regardless of what philosophical belief they had about themselves.

Frenchbluesea · 22/04/2025 17:01

Naunet · 22/04/2025 16:53

I think you're conflating hate crime reports (i.e, misgendering) with actuaul violent attacks. It's irrelevant though, as yes, men, not just transwomen, are more likely to be involved in attacks in public, than women are.

No I’m not conflating anything. And attacks on trans people are not irrelevant.

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 17:02

juldan · 22/04/2025 16:52

@Indianajet
Biological women belong in women’s spaces, biological men belong in men’s spaces. Supreme Court clarified it last week. Why is it still confusing for you?

If biological women belong in women’s spaces whatcha gonna do when a 6 ft beardy trans man (yes bio women can be 6 ft and hormones can make you grow a beard) - with a 10 inch prosthetic penis (cos when you get to pick em you can go as big as you want) bulging through his cycling shorts rocks up next to you in David Lloyd while your walking about naked? You ain’t gonna know he’s “not a bloke”. Then you’re going to look a right tit complaining to the management if your stance is bio women belong in women’s spaces and bio men belong in men’s spaces 🤣🤣🤣

Lentilweaver · 22/04/2025 17:02

I hope with time the focus moves on from toilets. i think it's very important too that women like Maya Forstater be able to speak their mind in the workplace.
I work in a very left liberal environment- indeed I am a left liberal long time Labour voter myself- but I cannot say a single word about this issue for fear of being cancelled. I hope now things will change slowly, and people can discuss this in the workplace without being sacked.

DrPrunesqualer · 22/04/2025 17:02

ArabellaScott · 22/04/2025 16:59

A bit of luck?!

You mean, men will choose to break the law and ignore women's rights and boundaries, and you say that's a good thing?

Mmm
in your dreams Greyhound
those days are gone 🥳

Annoyeddd · 22/04/2025 17:02

What happens when someone born a girl becomes a woman and just happens to have large hands and feet, wide jaw, very small boobs and may have facial hair (and has never had a penis) goes into the ladies toilet - are the anti trans brigade going to forcefully throw her out for looking like a trans woman.
Who is going to do the test at the main entrance?

ChessorBuckaroo · 22/04/2025 17:02

justteanbiscuits · 22/04/2025 16:37

I'd forgotten that I wouldn't get a sensible discussion or opinion about it on here. Because Mumsnetters have a special ability to "just tell". 😂

It's complete BS, and wishful thinking on their part.

So many transwomen are 100% passable.

As I said before on here, there is a reason why transwomen are warned to tell men they meet their identity prior to any sexual encounter. If men could "just tell" this wouldn't be a thing.

Naunet · 22/04/2025 17:02

Frenchbluesea · 22/04/2025 17:01

No I’m not conflating anything. And attacks on trans people are not irrelevant.

Link to the stats then

Marieb19 · 22/04/2025 17:03

The judgement doesn't say transwomen should use the gents, it clarifies that they should not use the ladies. The vast majority of buildings have unisex accessible loos and many smaller establishments have one or two individual loos. This isn't the cataclysmic event it is being painted.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/04/2025 17:03

MissDoubleU · 22/04/2025 16:59

I was talking about 6ft + cis women, not trans women, who are often mistaken and falsely accused of being trans women. Sometimes this is a seemingly harmless assumption, sometimes it is more. I’ve been out and had the “oh is your friend Trans” type comments, while they’ve had “you look lovely and pass very well” given to them as a misplaced but well meaning compliment.

There’s no such thing as a “cis woman”. Women are female. But you know that.

Lentilweaver · 22/04/2025 17:04

Roxietrees · 22/04/2025 17:02

If biological women belong in women’s spaces whatcha gonna do when a 6 ft beardy trans man (yes bio women can be 6 ft and hormones can make you grow a beard) - with a 10 inch prosthetic penis (cos when you get to pick em you can go as big as you want) bulging through his cycling shorts rocks up next to you in David Lloyd while your walking about naked? You ain’t gonna know he’s “not a bloke”. Then you’re going to look a right tit complaining to the management if your stance is bio women belong in women’s spaces and bio men belong in men’s spaces 🤣🤣🤣

This scenario seems unlikely. Most of the trans men I know are small, slight, tomboyish and look like Juno Page. ( and yes, deadnaming is no longer a crime either).

Perhaps there are some who are beardy, bepenised and huge, but this scenario seems far more unlikely than men muscling their way into women's spaces.

Naunet · 22/04/2025 17:04

Annoyeddd · 22/04/2025 17:02

What happens when someone born a girl becomes a woman and just happens to have large hands and feet, wide jaw, very small boobs and may have facial hair (and has never had a penis) goes into the ladies toilet - are the anti trans brigade going to forcefully throw her out for looking like a trans woman.
Who is going to do the test at the main entrance?

Dont be stupid.

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