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Labour say transwomen should use the men’s toilet

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Kindersurprising · 22/04/2025 12:15

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

Squeak squeak burrow burrow. Is that a ferret reversing?

Use men’s or women’s toilets based on biological sex, minister says

Supreme Court ruling must be applied ‘right across the board’, Bridget Phillipson stresses as Sir Keir Starmer hails judgment as a ‘welcome step forward’

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/trans-women-men-toilets-b8gt6l22c?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0BMQABHlJe7BiT-kgvjfusJpz2eq_AUSGDRI9eAMe5VNA0iX6U2qOUk-U0wPhPI98-_aem_Vfuvll1ZYKrZUa-vjh4QSA#Echobox=1745317525

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Gloriia · 22/04/2025 15:52

Shessweetbutapsycho · 22/04/2025 15:43

Broaden your horizons a little, I’ve come across multiple trans men who appear far more “masculine” than many bio males: tall, strong, full beards. You’ve probably just never “spotted” them…

The point is they are women so it's fine if they use women's toilets..

As an aside a full beard doesn't fool anyone.

TheKeatingFive · 22/04/2025 15:53

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 15:52

Is Beth Upton not a GMC registered doctor?

He is a registered doctor who has declared in court that he is a biological female. So we should all be questioning his judgement on this one.

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 15:54

Another2Cats · 22/04/2025 15:11

The definition is in para 265 of the judgment and follows that given in the Equality Act 2010:

"The meaning of the terms “sex”, “man” and “woman” in the EA 2010 is biological and not certificated sex. Any other interpretation would render the EA 2010 incoherent and impracticable to operate"

For the purposes of the EA 2010 a person with a gender recognition certificate is not treated as being a woman but is still a man.

The law is that sex is binary and that you are either male or female from birth.

If you are asking a different question of what is the definition of sex at birth then the EA 2010 gives that as being the sex that is recorded on the birth certificate.

So, that's down to doctors.

I can't see a definition of the word 'biological' in that paragraph.

I am firmly GC, but I think this will be the direction of travel. If the SC ruling is based on the word 'biological', the TRAs will seek to redefine it.

I'm not saying that will be successful, but this SC ruling is by no means the end of the argument. It's the end of the beginning.

dogcatkitten · 22/04/2025 15:54

summer265 · 22/04/2025 15:49

I worked at a school with an 18 year old autistic trans student who went by a male name and pronouns (born female). They frequently wore bows in their hair and wore gender neutral clothes.
I absolutely hate the idea of them using the men's toilet as they are clearly an incredibly vulnerable female.

Men need to start being concerned for trans women in their spaces in the same way and accept there are different ways you can present as a man - or trans women need to campaign for third spaces for themselves if they don't feel safe around men. Women shouldn't have to take responsibility for the threat men pose to trans women, they already have to deal with enough due to the threat men pose to women.

There always were and always will be frail men, maybe effeminate, maybe just not well developed, maybe dim, or with all sorts of problems that make them vulnerable in male only spaces, they don't get to use the ladies facilities.

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 15:55

Youmeanyouvelostyourkey · 22/04/2025 14:26

He won’t be happy using a female toilets as he doesn’t see himself as female. That’s the flaming point.

once he does transition, And looks male, sounds male etc, Will you still be happy with him in the female toilets then?

Edited

She is a female. That's her biological sex that is in ever chromosome and cell in her body. She would be better off getting therapy/psychiatric help/hospitalised than encouraged to damage her body and live in denial.

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 15:55

TheKeatingFive · 22/04/2025 15:53

He is a registered doctor who has declared in court that he is a biological female. So we should all be questioning his judgement on this one.

Well exactly. That's my point. If a registered doctor believes this to be true, where does it end?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 22/04/2025 15:55

Youmeanyouvelostyourkey · 22/04/2025 14:26

He won’t be happy using a female toilets as he doesn’t see himself as female. That’s the flaming point.

once he does transition, And looks male, sounds male etc, Will you still be happy with him in the female toilets then?

Edited

You maybe need to take a breath and consider that the world doesn’t revolve around your child, and explain that to them. It’s largely irrelevant how he/she sees themselves when you’re talking about single sex spaces, they don’t get to make the rules.

I’ve got news for you, he won’t look and sound male, he’ll look like a woman pretending to be a man. I’m assuming your sense of entitlement is behaviour you’ve learnt from them, you’d both do well to try respecting other people’s boundaries.

Guinessandafire · 22/04/2025 15:56

Well, I've found all the Reform voting Daily Mail & Daily Express readers.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/04/2025 15:56

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 15:54

I can't see a definition of the word 'biological' in that paragraph.

I am firmly GC, but I think this will be the direction of travel. If the SC ruling is based on the word 'biological', the TRAs will seek to redefine it.

I'm not saying that will be successful, but this SC ruling is by no means the end of the argument. It's the end of the beginning.

What would “certificated sex” mean if “biological” didn’t exclude men?

BunfightBetty · 22/04/2025 15:56

Shessweetbutapsycho · 22/04/2025 15:24

I’d wager that you’ll sure as hell have a problem when a fully transitioned trans man is forced to use “your” space, just because he was born bio female…
👀🍿

Why would you wager that? Do you have a hard time accepting that not everyone is shallow enough to be overly-focused on external appearance to the detriment of all else?

Nobody cares if trans men are in women's single sex spaces, because they are biologically female and, as such, don't pose any extra risk to us in the way that all males do, regardless of how they present or identify.

In any case, the SC ruling makes clear that if a trans man 'passes' they should be using the men's facilities.

inamarina · 22/04/2025 15:57

macaroniandcheeze · 22/04/2025 13:37

Indeed. It’s a total self-own. It’s just made it easier for men to walk into the women’s toilets, presenting as men.

Whereas up until last week they could have done it presenting as trans women.

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 15:58

PlanetJanette · 22/04/2025 14:27

The poster was claiming that it is always possible to tell someone's biological sex.

If that were the case, there wouldn't be lots of examples of women being harassed by people who think they look like men, and therefore challenging their use of women's bathrooms.

"We can always tell" is a lie told by anti-trans folk to sidestep the very real issues faced by androgynous, masculine and gender non-conforming women arising from their views.

When any female is challenged it's normally very apparent as soon as they reply/speak that they are female, and then it's 'ok, no worries'.

Simple. Not a big deal.

You're making excuses to defend wanting to erase womens hard won sex-based spaces. How can you look at the mirror doing that?

TheKeatingFive · 22/04/2025 15:58

Guinessandafire · 22/04/2025 15:56

Well, I've found all the Reform voting Daily Mail & Daily Express readers.

What are you saying here? Wanting women to have their own spaces makes you a Reform voter?

Is this for real?

inamarina · 22/04/2025 15:59

macaroniandcheeze · 22/04/2025 13:39

What about men pretending to be trans men though? It’s a lot easier all of a sudden for male presenting people to enter the women’s loos now. I can’t imagine any woman wants to ask a big burly fella if he is really a trans man?

I can’t imagine any woman wants to ask a big burly fella if he is really a trans man?

But you assume a woman would be comfortable with a big burly fella in a skirt?

Naunet · 22/04/2025 16:00

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 15:54

I can't see a definition of the word 'biological' in that paragraph.

I am firmly GC, but I think this will be the direction of travel. If the SC ruling is based on the word 'biological', the TRAs will seek to redefine it.

I'm not saying that will be successful, but this SC ruling is by no means the end of the argument. It's the end of the beginning.

If companies and insistutions want to ignore the very clear law, and open themselves up to being sued by pretending they don't know what the word 'biological' means, bring it on. Women have spent a lot of money on all these court challenges, might be time for us to make some money back.

literallyarabbit · 22/04/2025 16:00

About time for Labour but do they actually mean it? There's still so much work to be done.

Clearly the mostly logical way forward is to reiterate that the law has not changed - biological men (which means all trans women) are to use mens's single sex spaces such as toilets, and that anyone doing otherwise before the Supreme Clarification was in actually fact, breaking the law (in part aided by many a council, employer and/organisation who bent over backward to prove they weren't transphobic/supported TW). Yes India Willoughby, am looking at you to name just one TW). The other thing that needs to happen is to make men's toilets third spaces - open to men and men whom identify as women. However that said, I know that for a minority of trasnwomen and the majority of TRAs, this won't be good enough as the former need the validation that they are real women that only accessing a single sex/woman's space brings, and the latter hate women having anything that excludes them.

Really male on male violence needs to be address and that men need to be more tolerant of men who don't confirm to gender norms. We also need to talk about two elephants in the room:

  1. 92% of TW retain their penis
  2. AGP - and that some TWs are fetishists who get aroused in female spaces.

These two things alone will go a long way to reinforce why most women do not TW in their single sex spaces. It's really not rocket science. Now the days of no debate finally seem to be over, it's time for politicians to talk about the FACTS behind all this, after all, and thank god, it's facts that have won, not feelings.

BeingScouseIsMySuperpower · 22/04/2025 16:00

Indianajet · 22/04/2025 13:08

This makes me sad - do we really want transwomen to have to use men's toilets, and transmen to have to use women's toilets? This will put transwomen at risk - I hate the hysteria that has arisen over this issue.

This morning I watched a breakfast show with a woman and a trans woman discussing both sides. The woman had to lean to the side as the trans woman was taking up so much space. Most Trans women I have come across have the stature of a large man.

I love how Trans women are aggressive when they don't get what they want, and threaten to kill and rape Terfs but when it comes to going in a mans toilet they turn into damsels in distress.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 22/04/2025 16:02

FlakyCritic · 22/04/2025 15:58

When any female is challenged it's normally very apparent as soon as they reply/speak that they are female, and then it's 'ok, no worries'.

Simple. Not a big deal.

You're making excuses to defend wanting to erase womens hard won sex-based spaces. How can you look at the mirror doing that?

They've borrowed that mirror from Harry Potter... the fantasy mirror of Erised.

I'm fed up reading posts from men on this subject and their opinions have ceased to matter to me.

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 22/04/2025 16:02

It is good to see the three random letters CIS no longer have any excuse to be put together with a delusion of meaning.
Also can we stop talking about toilets?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 22/04/2025 16:03

ThisFluentBiscuit · 22/04/2025 15:36

I don't understand the hysteria. People who have transitioned pass as their chosen sex just fine, despite what the terfs would have you believe. They'll go on using the loos of their chosen sex and no one will be any the wiser, same as before the trans extremists and anarchists took over.

The only people displaying any hysteria are those who were out pissing in the streets at the weekend, and those holding signs suggesting women who don’t subscribe to an ideology that has no basis in in biological, or legal, fact, should be murdered.

Please continue to show us who you really are by using pathetic, little insults, it’s only what we’ve come to expect from people who are so clearly divorced from reality.

literallyarabbit · 22/04/2025 16:04

I do think a great many TW are deluded as to how well they pass, and besides, isn't that deception anyway?

PlanetJanette · 22/04/2025 16:04

cardibach · 22/04/2025 14:43

Well, as others have said that isn’t true. Let’s assume it happens somewhere though - why would anyone be arrested? If you can’t prove you are the right sex with ID then go to a loo somewhere else as we do now if the ladies is out of order where we happen to be.

How do you think someone should prove that they are entitled to use the women's bathroom?

Naunet · 22/04/2025 16:05

BeingScouseIsMySuperpower · 22/04/2025 16:00

This morning I watched a breakfast show with a woman and a trans woman discussing both sides. The woman had to lean to the side as the trans woman was taking up so much space. Most Trans women I have come across have the stature of a large man.

I love how Trans women are aggressive when they don't get what they want, and threaten to kill and rape Terfs but when it comes to going in a mans toilet they turn into damsels in distress.

There's also the odd one now saying how they'll be 'stealing our husbands' in the mens toilets 🤣

TriesNotToBeCynical · 22/04/2025 16:05

TeenagersAngst · 22/04/2025 15:54

I can't see a definition of the word 'biological' in that paragraph.

I am firmly GC, but I think this will be the direction of travel. If the SC ruling is based on the word 'biological', the TRAs will seek to redefine it.

I'm not saying that will be successful, but this SC ruling is by no means the end of the argument. It's the end of the beginning.

The SC went to some lengths to say that what they called biological women were women born as female.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 22/04/2025 16:06

TheKeatingFive · 22/04/2025 15:58

What are you saying here? Wanting women to have their own spaces makes you a Reform voter?

Is this for real?

It’s just another thinly disguised ‘you’re all Trump supporting, right wing bigots’ trope, I feel sorry that that’s all the have. We have biological fact and the law.

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