Things you've noticed that are frowned upon on mums net

[ChitterChatter1987]

I'll go first 😆

-Kids sharing rooms
-Complaining about schools or teachers
-Feeling upset about a friend hurting you
-Having more than 1 kid on an income under circa 50-100k, or having more than two on an income under circa 100-150k
-Renting long term
Complaining about dogs being given human rights.
Complaining about grandparents care of DC's 'because it's free so like it or lump it!'

It's wild that anyone needs this pointing out.

Eating anything other than a massive salad.

Exposing your children to any risk at all - much safer and more sensible to keep them wrapped in cotton wool all the time. Then, at 18, they will have learned all the independence they need (none).

Not cooking from scratch.

Not batch cooking every spare moment

Toilet brushes
Answering your front door
MILs
Dogs
Health Visitors
Not making a chicken last a week
Calling DH hubby

Leaving offspring of 18/19 alone for a weekend, unless the grandparents/neighbours are checking on them hourly and cooking all their meals.

Your mind will be blown if you check out the feminist board!

Being a SAHM (because your husband is secretly impregnating a 20-year-old, employing prostitutes, and emptying your bank account; also, because your children are too stupid to realize that women are able to work outside the home unless they see you doing it)

Saying “mom,” even if the mother in question is your own

Having a baby shower (because it is a vulgar American tradition, and because your sister’s co-worker’s cousin had one and her baby died, so you “wouldn’t risk it”)

Giving your child a name that sounds “working-class”; also, giving your child a name that sounds pretentiously posh

Knocking on doors on Halloween (because you might give an elderly person a heart attack, and because trick-or-treating is “begging for sweets”)

Buying “cheap plastic tat”

My friends’ teenage kids do call men Karen all the time. They also use it as a verb. As in ‘Ugh, Dad was Karening at the waiter and it was so embarrassing’.

I'm sympathetic to both sides

Step mums
SAHMs
Working mums
Mums in general

The only accepted way to have kids on here is to have them between 28-34 and to only have two children, 2 years apart.

Other things that seem to be frowned apon are:
Only children and similarly large families.
Working mums, stay at home mums. Basically any mum at all
Using nurseries is seen by some as akin to child abuse and can "you not get a nanny instead"
Eating fruit
Ditto supermarket bread
Expecting any help whatsoever from husband/partner while on maternity leave. A husband must get a full night's sleep each night and downtime at a weekend priortised as working full time is so much more harder and more important than staying at home with a baby. No matter how difficult the baby is, how sleep deprived or how much the mum is struggling she must do all the night feeds, housework and have a home cooked meal for when her husband comes home.
Ditto expecting adult children or teenagers at home to take any responsibility or independence at all.
Using pouches or any continence food occasionally for babies. Yes of course these being used all day, every day is a problem. But using pouches when you're exhausted or out and about isn't a problem.

Yes having a child late 30s is not recommended often is it 'due to age' as 35 plus seems to be some sort of high alert danger zone.

Having another child when youngest is circa 5 plus DEFINITELY not recommended....I mean why would you not 'want your life back' once they are at school! 😂

Saying that you intend to send your kid to a very predominantly ‘working class school’

OH LORDY!!!!!!!!!!! 😭

Enjoying anything other than a very mundane and basic sex life. Anything out of the ordinary is viewed as ‘disgusting’, ‘gross’ and ‘a result of porn’.

Men with ED - they don’t have a medical problem and deserve love and patience - they must wank too hard to the hours and hours of porn they’re watching.

Easy then. Doesn’t ever, never need to be discussed or mentioned or debated on MN or anywhere then….

(In case women might get accused of thinking trans people shouldn’t ‘exist’ or that we are ‘negative’ for being gaslighted, sacked and silenced about our rights, safety and dignity being given away to men and scolded and told to stfu...)

But hey ho. We can all sing kumbya and live happily now that’s cleared up.

Actually disciplining kids and not letting them to whatever they want

See also not enough Christmas presents for your DC. If they're not piled high under the tree you are mean and cruel and have ruined Christmas and everyone feels sorry for your poor neglected children.

Asking people why they're surprised to be pregnant. Or not understanding why they're surprised.

Surely many of the things mentioned are frowned upon in the real world (like children and technology, fake grass, dog poo, using Karen as an insult)

I've complained here about schools/ teachers before and had great support. Being in the teaching profession is not enough to get unconditional respect, as once it used to be - in every job we are now interested to know how good they actually are at what they do

American words and turns of phrase. They pose an existential threat.
Wedding showers.
Baby showers.
Also, giving presents for a baby before he or she is born.
Proms.
Sweatshirts emblazoned with names of famous American places, American universities, or sports teams. (See existential threat...)
Hallowe'en. Asking strangers for sweets is the height of bad manners and who in their right mind would open a door to a stranger? Hallowe'en is the double whammy, or maybe even the triple threat, as there are some who believe it's all about sorcery and is anti-Christian.
The quality of American education at all levels.
Open coffins and other cultures' traditions around death.
Loo brushes.

What's wrong with that?

Being overweight.

Not being able to immediately LTB as you have nowhere to go and no support.

Not taking at least 4 holidays a year, at least 2 of which must be exotic.

Not cooking from scratch.

Yeah I find this ridiculous too. Unless the dh is a brain surgeon or air traffic controller they can help at night! A sahm shouldn’t have to be on call 247 when the person working gets complete rest at home.