Things you've noticed that are frowned upon on mums net

[ChitterChatter1987]

I'll go first 😆

-Kids sharing rooms
-Complaining about schools or teachers
-Feeling upset about a friend hurting you
-Having more than 1 kid on an income under circa 50-100k, or having more than two on an income under circa 100-150k
-Renting long term
Complaining about dogs being given human rights.
Complaining about grandparents care of DC's 'because it's free so like it or lump it!'

Is that frowned upon? I haven't seen that. I wouldn’t frown upon it, I just wish it applied to me! 😭

I think one thing we can derive from this thread, is that the majority of Mumsnetters are actually not very nice people….

Not having a ‘BIG’ salad - just a normal sized salad here

Not making a chicken last for a week and feed 50 people then making a 100 years worth of stock with the carcass.

Loving dogs and taking them for walks where there may be other humans of any size or age

Liking rubber ham

Answering the door / phone etc to see who is there

Not liking London

Using weight loss jabs to take control of your life long obesity rather than just eating BIG salads and moving more (because the 59 years I did that for totally worked)

Using weight loss jabs at all and not just sitting here waiting for a stroke/ heart failure to kill me - but not to worry because the side effects will get me anyway

The majority of posting mumsnetters are not very nice people.

I'd like to think a lot of MN users live by my mantra of swiftly moving on if I have nothing constructive to add.

So many posting MNetters see a pile on and join in. So sad that they've nothing better to do with their lives.

Putting up with a husband who has any faults at all, however minor

Being comfortable with your husband seeing his female friends

Revealing what your husband's interests are

Not having sex very often, even if both partners are perfectly content with that

Not being massively overprotective with your children

Not driving your children everywhere

Not driving at all, especially if it's by choice

Being happy to call a trans person by their chosen name and pronouns

Being happy to accommodate vegetarian and vegan friends' preferences, and being happy to eat vegetarian and vegan yourself if you're not actually one of those things

Giving your baby the same name as any other child in your extended family or circle of friends

Holidays with loads of Brits Abroad types goes down well on mumsnet - especially if there’s loads of Phoenix Nights style evening entertainment!!

Sitting next to Brian Potter for your Benidorm cabaret??

BRING IT ON !!!

It's good to have differences of opinion and to debate. I've learnt a lot through MN. Particularly when by exH left me and was still trying to control me and I needed to realise I needed to change my communication to protect myself.

Having kids under 30.

Weight loss injections. How dare the obese become thin…

Criticising poor customer service (to the point on one thread that a particularly vitriolic poster kept posting “waitress” in quote marks as if the OP had used some appalling insult). I KNOW waiting staff don’t get paid much - but it’s not me who sets their wages. I pay for service and will say if it isn’t up to scratch!

Nothing wrong with caring about children's diets, having a balanced variety etc, but shouldn't mean an unacceptance of those who don't have time or money to cook homemade meals from scratch all the time.

Oh yes...only a villa or a 5* are acceptable of course 😉

Children existing in public spaces....YES and also on public transport.

Also, having a proper christening with a party after, and having more than 2 godparents (one of each gender)

Someone mentioned quoting the OP and that gives me the rage more than anything, especially on the first page. Why do people thing that someone comes onto a thread and doesn’t read the OP (I know people don’t always read it properly) but will read their post.

Wanting a baby over 40 is met with disgust on many, many threads but there was a recent one where a 52 year old man wasn’t seen as old at all 🤔

Someone said cooking every meal from scratch is basic parenting. If you don’t do this you are not worthy of being a parent.

Step kids? Urghhh. They don’t like those.

Oh my goodness yes, the showers thing is crazy!
If you don't shower every day you're filthy and smell 😒

Interested about the fabric conditioner (why that's an issue) and loo brushes?! Have seen both mentioned afew times on this thread.Not sure how on earth someone could NOT use a loo brush....or shouldn't I ask :-/

Yes I think claiming benefits of any kind is frowned upon on here, even if someone is working too.

Probably related to the anti-working class attitudes PP mentioned, and the fact that many on here have never needed to claim benefits and don't get what it's like being in that position (lucky them!)

My great gran had 6 babies over 40 - last at 49 - what would people make of her ? 🤣

Well CIO is scientifically proven to be emotionally damaging to children and parent/child attachments.
But agree gentler methods of sleep training are better than a parent who is for example feeling constantly depressed or is driving or caring for a young child on a dangerously low amount of sleep.

That may be the case for some, but having been in relationships in the past with two men who were heavy weed smokers, they were both anti-social/paranoid/aggressive/lazy and skint.
I've also seen many similar behaviours in weed smoking males in my job.
Maybe light social use in an otherwise stable person might be less of an issue....i haven't met those users...but still not convinced its the innocent drug some make it out to be :-/

Not being absolutely up-to-speed on the latest terminology for certain SEND conditions. I remember being flamed for using the term 'mild Aspergers' about my daughter (now 34 and only diagnosed as an adult).

I'd even humbly prefaced my post by saying that I wasn't sure of the correct current terminology, but that the term was used at the time of her diagnosis.

Blimey - the venom and aggression my mistake unleashed was unreal! Some pps pitied my daughter for having such an appalling parent as me etc etc.

(My daughter and I have a great, warm and loving relationship, btw!)

Some professionals need to understand that not everyone is aware of every new nuance in their particular areas (why on earth would they be?) and that an honest mistake should be understood and corrected politely and kindly.

Dogs are being more and more humanised! Cafes and restaurants are full of them, there are more and more 'outfits' in the shops for them, friends i know use video monitoring cameras if god forbid they decide to go out without them! And only last week I discovered an isofix car seat and carrycot pram travel system in halfords....for dogs!! 😂

Criticising lockdown is very frowned upon, as is blaming children’s behaviour on lockdown.

As is wearing shoes indoors, because it’s a “global standard” that everyone takes them off inside.

That's ridiculous!
Aspergers isn't exactly an offensive term, and it's not that long ago it was recognised.
(And yes I'm a parent of a child with ASD)

Tbf, it’s really important to secure dogs safely in cars, for their own safety and the safety of others. And dog pushchairs are good for dogs who have had operations or are older and can’t manage longer walks but still enjoy the park or shorter walks.