I got injured on a dog meet up

[FluffyPaw]

A few months ago I met up with a woman on a dog breed Facebook page - idea was that we would walk our dogs together /potentially start up a friendship. That walk went well and I thought the woman was lovely, we messaged back and forth after that and arranged to meet up again yesterday.

We met at a local forest. Both dogs have great recall so we let them off lead for a play. Everything going great until I tripped over a vine and fell to the ground. This sent her dog absolutely crazy who then began lunging at me and barking - I went to get up and the dog bounced off me and knocked me down again. I expected a bit of assistance but this woman was doubled over in stitches laughing. I asked her to grab her dog and she half heartedly called her dog who began making its way back to her, I started to get up at which point her dog turned around and came flying back towards me, my dog then got excited and went to get involved before both dogs knock into me and I go tumbling down a big hill. My arm was scratched to pieces and this woman was laughing so much she could barely talk. I shouted up at her that I’ve hurt my arm and she needs to get her dog. She recalled her dog. At this point I realised she was filming the whole thing and I also realised I had damaged my hip and was finding it difficult to stand up.

long story short, I used my dog to drag me up the hill. I cut the wall short as in lots of pain. She messaged me later and asked how I was so I said I was battered and bruised. She then said “if it makes you feel any better, you’re going viral on TikTok. I can’t believe she would do that! I’ve not even looked on TikTok as I’m far too embarrassed.

I need a well thought out message to send back - or do I just leave it??!

If it was a few months ago why are you asking for suggestions on a reply now? But if you feel the need to I’d say ‘hi Anne, seeing as you ask I really hurt myself. But what hurt more was your behaviour. Not sure which made me more upset; you laughing at me or filming me.’ I would elaborate on your physical injuries and leave it there, see what she has to say…
She should not have filmed/uploaded anything.

Report the dog for being aggressive.

You both need to keep your dogs on a lead, because as you can see - They can turn at any second!!

It says it happened yesterday on the day of the first post.

The OP said It happened yesterday, she met her a few months ago.
Hopefully you are feeling better OP.💐,
I would decline any further meet up's tbh. It is extremely nasty of her to put a video up of your call which was made worse by her dog.

They first made contact a few months ago, but met up again yesterday, as stated in the OP original post.

What a horrible woman. What has this world come to when rather than help someone people get their phones out to film their distress. Honestly makes me sick.
i hope your ok. I would definitely be inclined to say something. She thinks it is perfectly normal and hasn’t even tried to hide the tik tok thing from you. Don’t meet up with her again. I’m sorry this happened to you x

They met for the very first time a few months ago. The incident occurred only yesterday.

I'm not a dog lover so you probably don't need my opinion and I'm satan in disguise and all that ...but this is beyond horrible!
Hard to believe someone could be so vile and cruel. Her dog was out of control and it could be dangerous.
I hope you have blocked her and never engage with her again.
You can report the video on tiktok.
Hope you are ok.

Falling over is funny?
Yeah if you're about 10 years old.
Even if you do ever laugh at someone falling over you have to make sure they are ok first!
This stupid woman could see that you were hurt and being attacked by her dog ...plus she filmed it!

What kind of dog was it? I hope you are ok. So nasty to laugh and film. She needs to remove it. So immature and insensitive

i think she has breached your privacy filming that and posting it online. Here I checked with AI and below is the response. I would state that she didnt ask for your consent to film you or post it online, and that if asked you would have not given your consent. Therefore she has 24 hours to take the film off social media and delete it and provide evidence to you that it has been deleted otherwise you will take further action - that should do it ! Who needs friends like this !

In the UK, filming someone without their consent and posting the footage online can be illegal, depending on the context and how the recording is used.
Filming in Public vs. Private Spaces
Generally, it is not illegal to film someone in a public space (like a street or park) where there is no reasonable expectation of privacy. However, even in public, filming can become unlawful if it is done for malicious purposes or constitutes harassment .internetlawcentre.co.uk+4qredible.co.uk+4wavetelbusiness.co.uk+4rocketlawyer.com
In contrast, filming someone in a private setting—such as inside a home, store, or restaurant—without their consent may breach privacy laws. These locations, while accessible to the public, are considered private spaces where individuals have a reasonable expectation of privacy .internetlawcentre.co.uk
Posting Footage Online
Sharing videos of identifiable individuals online without their consent can violate data protection laws, as their image is considered personal data. This applies even if the footage was captured in a public space. Additionally, if the content is defamatory, misleading, or portrays someone in a false light, it could lead to legal action for defamation or harassment .internetlawcentre.co.uk+1rocketlawyer.com+1
Criminal Offences
Certain types of recordings are explicitly criminal offences. For example, "upskirting" and secretly filming intimate acts without consent are offences under the Sexual Offences Act 2003. Furthermore, the UK government has plans to introduce new laws that would criminalize the act of taking intimate images without consent, with penalties of up to two years' imprisonment .familylawassistance.co.uk+2Law Stack Exchange+2The Guardian+2Law Stack Exchange+4The Guardian+4en.wikipedia.org+4
In a recent case, a man was arrested for filming women without their consent during nights out and posting the videos on social media. The videos included non-consensual nudity and voyeuristic content, leading to charges of harassment and stalking .The Guardian+1thetimes.co.uk+1
Summary

• Filming in public is generally legal, but context matters.
• Filming in private spaces without consent can breach privacy laws.
• Posting videos online without consent may violate data protection and defamation laws.
• Certain recordings, like intimate images taken without consent, are criminal offences.thetimes.co.ukqredible.co.uk

If you believe someone has filmed you without consent and shared the footage online, you may have legal grounds to request its removal and potentially pursue legal action. It's advisable to consult with a legal professional to understand your rights and options.

Oh OP, I’m so sorry that you’ve been hurt and humiliated in this way. I feel incredibly angry with this woman on your behalf.

Yes, I get that you might laugh initially when someone does a comedy type fall but when it’s clear that your friend is hurt and struggling, what sort of nasty bitch would whip out their phone to film it and post it on TikTok and invite strangers to join in and mock you?

She needs telling to get the video taken down immediately and if it was me, to never come within 20ft of me again otherwise, I won’t be responsible for my actions!!!

The dog didn't attack her. It bundled her over with over-ebullience.

Her own dog did the same too.

Send her a cease and desist letter

Stay well clear of her in future. What an idiot.

I know loads of smart people

I doubt it. What could they possibly want to talk to you about?

This! She sounds deranged!!

I do hope you’re ok.

Look, falling over is funny sometimes. That's not a new idea.

You seem to enjoy calling people names on the internet. Each to their own.

It’s also not a new idea that laughing at the expense of people hurting themselves is being unkind, totally lacking compassion and basically being a twat.

So many threads around that idea that shows this divide.

HTH

I don't feel like I need to cede you the moral highground when you're name-calling anonymously on the internet.

I have laughed at loads of falls, including my own. I don't withhold help, and nobody ever broke anything. It's just a trip over. Really not a big deal. Do you struggle to laugh at yourself in general?

Here is a link to show you're wrong about lacking compassion...

theconversation.com/why-do-we-laugh-when-someone-falls-down-heres-what-science-says-199367?utm_medium=article_native_share&utm_source=theconversation.com

Laughing WITH someone is fine. They know, you know all ok.
But like all jokes, when the recipient isn’t laughing then it’s not a joke anymore. It’s laughing at someone who is struggling, is being humiliated, might well be in pain. It’s getting closer to bullying.
And that trend of laughing at people and normalising that is so strong that nowadays instead of helping someone (which really should be the first reaction), peoole film and rejoice at having their videos going viral. Way to humiliate the person even further just for likes….

Im sure that ‘very optimistic’ article you linked to made feel better. But I’m sure you also know that in psychology, things are never as clear cut. And many others think differently.

Now yes I was really pissed off at comments like yours. Why?
I have EDS. Now in a wheelchair. You have no idea the number of times I fell over for no reason at all. Humiliated myself with my skirt going over my backside showing my underwear etc etc… and people laughing. Because that’s funny isn’t it? So funny to have twisted my ankle multiple times, unable to put my foot on the floor, ending up in hospital etc… right? Never mind things are now so bad, I have to use a wheelchair. People won’t see that. Because no one ever wondered if I was ok first or after. Nope they laughed instead. Or thought I was drunk. Rejoicing at my fall, the humiliation and probably happy it was me and not them. Because what else right?
If you think that laughing at someone with no idea of their background, which can easily be illness and disability , fine, go ahead.
If it makes you and others feel better, I still think it says a lot about you and your inability to put yourself in other people’s shoes.
And if you feel that it’s just a ‘human emotion’ so it’s ok, then maybe you’d want to wonder if jealousy, a human emotion, is ok too? Should we indulge in it? Or anger? Not all human emotions are positive and there to be encouraged.

Did you read the article? It literally says that when people show pain or distress it's not funny. So the comedy is in the confusion in the facial expression and not the suffering. When there's suffering it's not funny.

I'm not talking about hospitalising disabled people, I'm talking about a healthy woman tripping over a dog.

You could have read that article and thought 'oh okay, so it might not be lack of compassion after all, it's the surprise' but instead you seem to want to believe differently, assuming people found your pain funny when I've given you good evidence that's not actually true. That's your prerogative and if science won't persuade you otherwise then nothing will. That doesn't mean you're not wrong though. Perhaps look into the rest of the psychology on this if you're questioning what I found, but it certainly ties with my perspective. Here's another one, saying the fall has to be benign or it isn't funny.

www.scienceabc.com/humans/why-is-it-funny-to-watch-people-fall.html

I don't know what you mean about the human emotion thing, I've not mentioned that so maybe you're answering someone else? Obviously not all human emotions are positive in all circumstances.

I hope you’re feeling better.

I can’t believe a grown woman would do such a thing. It’s bad enough to laugh, but to record it and upload it to TikTok, without your consent, almost sounds unbelievable. I think most young teens would know not to do such a thing