DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

[Whatslovegottodo25]

As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

I agree with your DH.

I cannot believe anybody that would care about this is old enough to have children nevermind be married.

Definitely a first world problem!

I really find the desire to post every detail of ones life on Instagram or similar truly awful. Why would anyone care. It's only interesting to immediate family so send a Wattsapp with a pic if this is your thing but tge whole Instagram thing is well over the time and daft.

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I deleted my Instagram account today and I've never felt a decision so reinforced by what I've just read. Social media is turning perfectly sane people insane, conducting PR campaigns as if we are all celebrities in our own bubbles.

This is not what life is about and I want nothing to do with these platforms.

I hoped this was a joke!
Enjoy the present time with your family not taking staged photos thinking people enjoy them and forcing your husband to join in!
I can’t believe he’s already picked out anniversary pictures! Surely he can tell you he loves you without posting pictures for the world to see.

I am shocked people really act this way!

Poor guy was probably brow beaten into posting. Anything for a quiet life

If you mean you got lots of likes, that's probably because everyone knew you'd just harangue them if they didn't like your post.

OP - you say the insta post was really popular with friends and family. Was it though ? Does anyone really give a shit ? I don't use Instagram but presumably they just press something to say 'like' or whatever on your photo (similar to Facebook). It literally takes a second to do that, doesn't mean anyone gives a shit, they're just being polite.

Maybe just enjoy your day next time with DC and DH, instead of arguing about the most stupid thing.

This fascination for people posting everything on social media rather than just living their one life baffles me.

This is truly bonkers. But then I find joint posts on Instagram really cringe tbh. Or any posts that are super staged like the one you described. How about just live your life & not worry about making it into a curated production.

Nobody.Cares

Anyone whose relationship is governed by their narcissistic use of social media needs therapy.

You really need to consider your life choices @Whatslovegottodo25

Just be careful he’s not carefully considering which photos of the decree nisi to post on his grid

Awww, I'm so chuffed for you! 😆How many 'likes' did ya get?

How old are you?

My guess, everyone in OP's life is very well trained to immediately click like and comment positively on all her posts, else she'll kick off with a wee tantrum and a public shaming complaining about how neglectful they all are.

I’m muting notifications now. At the end of the day, us ladies need to know our worth - if you aren’t happy with something your
partner has or hasn’t done, then tell them.

@Whatslovegottodo25
Its a pity you consider your worth to be defined by Instagram

Lost any possibility of sympathy from me with use of the word ‘hun’. I hope the well documented child had a lovely day.

You measure your "worth" by Insta?

Seriously???!!! You really need to take a long, hard look at yourself!

And in years to come what will your baby think of what you have done to her?

The 'popularity' of the post is completely meaningless, OP. Friends and family would like your post no matter what, because they don't want to hurt your feelings. They probably think it was a spontaneous decision to share. If they knew how you'd manufactured the whole thing - buying "props" and browbeating your husband into posting in sync with you - I imagine they'd feel differently. Maybe they do. Maybe you're known for this kind of behaviour, and they just hit 'like' for an easy life.

I don't think many of us buy that you really had a "lovely Easter", by the way. It seems unlikely, with a 'D' H you keep arguing with, who you complained didn't contribute anything to the day or care it was your daughter's first Easter, and who you don't trust to make you feel special on your upcoming wedding anniversary. I think this is just another instance of you creating a fantasy perfect life on social media, to be honest. It's giving Gen Z Bree van de Kamp.

Hmm the other poster banging on about Instagram also kept saying "know your worth".

It's a completely pointless phrase.

Stop trolling, there's better things to do on Easter Sunday.

Hopefully she met the Easter Bun x

Yep this. ^ I expect the OP's family and people who know her are terrified to NOT like her posts. They will get a war of words against them demanding to know why. WHY did you not love my gorgeous Easter pics I put up? How f**king dare you not put a love heart emoji against them? ARGH!!! 😠

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Also struggling to believe the OP and her DH had a lovely Easter. Sounds majorly stressful - for the DH especially.! 😬

Personally, only having read the OP - you need to give your head a wobble and get on with living life real time