DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

[Whatslovegottodo25]

As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

Er, I think you mean millennials, my gen x kids are 18 and 21!

Edited- just saw your update, phew! 😄

This pretty much sums it up.

I also didn’t even know insta had a collaboration function!

What's wrong with just giving the kids their easter eggs, doing some arts and craft and having family time over some easter food. Low budget, no pressure, everyone is having fun. Instagram people are raising kids who will end up demanding more and more until the parents cannot keep up financially anymore. I've just spent two hours messing around with my kids on the sofa. They loved it, said they had the best Easter ever

Grow up.

I’m cringing at this. Just do the post on your own insta and tag him in like anyone else would do. I wouldn’t be want to be doing joint posts all the time.

If you want to post stuff on social media then go ahead but your husband doesn't have to share in it. Nobody will pay any attention if you do or don't do it (assuming you're just a regular human like the rest of us and not some huge celebrity)

It really isn't worth picking a fight with your husband over.

I post stuff on a fairly regular basis but nobody would notice or care if I didn't just like I wouldn't notice if others didn't. I enjoy reading post/watching videos when they are uploaded but 99% of the time I'm not waiting for the next "installment"

This is a serious question @Whatslovegottodo25 . What was lacking in your upbringing that you think you need validation from strangers, never mind all these relatives and friends you claim you need to send photos to? Your need or theirs btw?

I don’t get people doing stuff specifically for insta unless it’s their job/source of income.
I share photos I like that I think my family might want to see but staging pics with props etc is just weird.

If your kids are 18 and 21 they’re gen Z!

I’d say most Gen X have teens to grown up kids now. I’m 1977 l, so late gen X 🤷‍♀️ definitely not gen X behaviour lol
edited to add just seen update 😂

Is that other website still going? This feels like a nethuns thing

I think this might be a typo. GenX doesn’t act like this. I’m wondering if Alpha is old enough to procreate.

I doubt if anyone will be looking at both your pages and judging you if something doesn't appear on both.

This post really makes me despair for the future.

Yes, I’m struggling to imagine what the OP thinks a random who for some reason crosschecks the two accounts will conclude if Baby’s First Easter doesn’t appear on both, complete with banner and props. Imminent divorce? An alternative reality?

Sorry but I hate those sort of pictures. Don't even look at them. It's all a bit show offy like their just doing it for the gram. Did you have a load of balloons as well just for the photos that you no longer have use for? 🤔🙄

YABVVU.

Why are you doing all this? Isn't life meaningful without putting it online as a show? How will your DC feel when they grow up and see their entire life has been put online for people to gurn at? You know people's images can be captured and altered for nefarious purposes, right? I think your DH is being entirely reasonable and you should have a think about why you feel the need to do all that to the extent you would fall out with your DH over it.

One day you’ll remember this post and think what was I thinking…..🤦‍♀️

Yes, I also really dislike these heavily posed, typically with tacky props, blatantly contrived photos on social media. Everyone knows they're fake, so what's the point?

Natural, reportage style photos that genuinely capture the moment are infinitely nicer.

With kindness, he probably finds the whole set up cringy. My husband wouldn’t entertain this either. He sounds like he’s got his head screwed on.x

I'd think having an easter outfit itself was pretty strange, unless you're the pope or the archbishop of Canterbury!

All the easter shite that's been in the shops for what feels like months makes me feel like easter's the new Christmas.

Nobody cares about your socials. You need to get over it. In fact I’d suggest deleting socials all together. You’re not using them healthily and it’s damaging your marriage.

Do we know what props OP organised? Come on, I need a break from gardening and cheering up! 🤣

I don’t post pictures of my kids on social media. They can choose to do so when they’re old enough to decide.

Of all the things to row about, whether he wants to do a joint social post is as inane as it comes. Then again, me and my DH had a massive row about bread once so…