Room allocation for SC

[Withoutfearorfavour]

House being purchased 50/50 deposit and mortgage.
4 bedrooms
I have one child full time.
He has one twice a week.
I am adamant she has her room decorated in her preferred style. A lovely bed. Wardrobe with her own belongings etc.

Shes not a guest.
We do however need a guest room and we (he) will have guests weekly. He needs a study.
So do we have the study combined with the guest room? That feels fair.
But then I wonder if he should contribute more as he has more use of more rooms.

What do you think?

I would be concerned about the constant guests.
I do not think that is fair on your child in their home.
I think you need to have a conversation about it being under constant review.
Your child should not feel they are living in a B&B.

Who will be doing all the work involved with constant guests?
More thought about your child in all of this would be wise.
I think it seems rushed.

This isn't about bedrooms is it? Are you genuinely ready to buy a house with him,share it as a home and share your lives without resentment?.

I don’t think you’ve answered why you shouldn’t pay more being that your child is in the house longer?

I agree. I think you should reconsider.

That’s very much what I’m thinking out loud about on Mum’s net

Yes,plus isn't he a teenage boy?

You're not ready. Stop this before it's too late.

This exactly this!

Because my child’s father pays child-support which covers his allocation of the bills and food.

And by the same token, he has less to contribute to the family pot - holidays, days out etc because obviously he’s paying child-support to his child’s mother.

You don't sound like you are in a good relationship. The fact you want to charge him more for having more rooms in what should be a family home is bonkers! You also say you earn more but don't want to contribute more to the household finances again is mean, and if it was a woman posting on here that her male partner was earning more but expecting her to contribute the same people would be saying to leave them.
I really think you should get your own home and then you can use the rooms how you want and not have the worry.

I'm on the other side of this question. I bring in much less than my DH at the moment and he insists on putting more into our joint expenses account. Says he'd feel mean not doing so. He's always been the higher earner, but when our incomes were closer we put in the same.
There's no right and wrong about this, but it is quite common for the higher earner to put in more. Are you maybe feeling uncertain about the way practicalities and finances will work out between the two of you long term?

If needs change and rooms are reassigned will you make a lump sum payment to him?

it doesn’t sound like you should be cohabitating yet, let alone buying property together.

I don’t think you realise how bat shit this sounds. Don’t move in together.

If you’re buying together and he pays more in to the home because he’s using more of the rooms, surely he would want a bigger percentage of the capital in the home as he’s paying a bigger contribution?

Yes, of course and that’s absolutely fine.

Would allow me to invest in other assets.

What a strange way to carry on. I’m very glad my husband doesn’t begrudge me having an ‘extra’ room in the house as my painting studio, and charging me for it 😂
How bizarre

It seems a bit petty to be splitting costs according to how much the rooms will be used by you. Presumably one bedroom for you and DP, one for your DC which will be used full time, one for SC who will only use the room twice a week and one guest room which will be used by both your guests and when not a guest room a study for your DP. Does he work from home? Do you and where will you work? What will the SC room be used for the rest of the week (5 days)? It seems a fairly even split to me unless you also work from home but do not get a study because the room is used twice a week by SC?

As long as you clearly document the ownership in case of a split, and have a will incase of death, what’s the issue?

You said the bills will be split 50:50. But you have 2 people consuming utilities/food etc vs his 1. something people. So if you’re going to nitpick over who pays more on the house it would only be fair to do the same for bills.
It’s a petty way to look at things op, and as pp pointed out, 50% ownership means 50% of the profit back if you ever split and sell.
Is there something else you wanted to use that room for? What rooms are there downstairs? Is there one you could claim for a hobby?

Op it’s a family home not a rented house share. You sound very tight fisted and grabby if it were a man being like this you’d have been told LTB. Your own dc lives there full time yet you want dh to pay bedroom tax?
I’d off like a shot what a liberty.

The Idea is that her room is her room. Nobody will be going in there when she’s not in there it’s her room.

What! You mean your child isn’t using their room 24/7? That alters everything. Maybe the overseas and friend guests can rotate, sometimes in the guest room office, or the SDs room or your child’s room, that way all the rooms are being fully utilised and the expense of buying the new house will be justified.

Is there a loft?Just asking.

If you are quibbling about the usage of bedrooms when you are the higher earner and he is doing a 50/50 split on all bills, I would say you should not move in with this man. You sound selfish and he should run for his life! 🤦🏽‍♀️😅

@Withoutfearorfavour you are cautious, rightly so.

Not bizarre or any other negative some posters throw at you.

Be comfortable, within your own terms, lovely 🌼

That is ridiculous. It isn't a holiday villa.
Maybe breakdown, divide the electricity, heating, food bill, you can use a chart to monitor which child is using the most and split accordingly.