To be fuming at her for this!

[Sicksicksick9]

I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

This sounds like a holiday of horrors and I'm glad you're home and safe now.
But OP I mean this from the kindest place, dont be a doormat. I'm the most non confrontational person you could meet but I don't let people walk over me. She dictated a drive home and by the sound of it you sat there and just seethed quietly at her. That's how these types of people get their way because they are surrounded by people who don't challenge them and just let them carry on the way they do. Even if you decided going home was right, why did you let her drive your car after making a nasty comment about your driving? I would have told her if she doesn't like it she can get a bloody taxi.
I don't think there's a friendship to salvage after this, but it is not bad or wrong to advocate for yourself and stand up for yourself and your family. You can be kind and loving whilst not suffering fools.

Sounds like an absolute nightmare, hope you're at least home now and away from selfish 'friend'. I wouldn't bother mentioning the text but I wouldn't be seeing them again either.

Exactly. Your car, your rules

Tell her she’s been absolutely unspeakable and you are disgusted at her behaviour. Find your voice and use it. Stop caring what she thinks of you and care a great deal what you think of her. Horrible rude woman. Your poor ds and poor you.

More fool you driving them all back!
That's not your friend, I'd block and move on

I wouldn’t have agreed to do it
being in a caravan with everyone sick would not be ideal but a car would be so much worse

You seriously can't be complaining about a 9 month old crying?

It would be nothing short of miraculous if she and her DS don’t end up with it as well, they’d go down with it on the way back probably 😬

I was thinking the same thing. That poor little boy stuck in the car with 5 vomiting people - he sounds like he has emetophobia.

I’m not being funny but you’re SERIOUSLY OTT!! Trigger warning for vomit? I’ve heard it all now, so with your logic EVERY phobia should have a trigger warning, someone mentions spiders….trigger warning, someone talks about heights…..trigger warning, someone talks about blood or needles…..trigger warning 🤦🏼‍♀️ You see where I’m going with this? Do you expect kids to shout trigger warning before the vomit when you’re around? Trigger warnings are for actual serious issues like stillbirths, rape, murder etc Not someone’s phobia no matter what the hell it is!! You’re being ridiculous expecting that and you know it!! But the fact you repeatedly replied to people telling you how daft your request was shows you’re not as bothered as you try to convince yourself you are 🙄

😂you are bold @Hwi

You should have said 'I'm not driving home now. Please ring your partneer and get him/her to pick you up in the morning'.

Very only yourself to blame really fir choosing to go along with her request.

And her son clearly has it too 😔 poor kid is going to be traumatised for life by this and I don’t say that lightly but it could be the catalyst to completely ruin his life.

She insisted on driving because she doesn’t want to sit in the back with her spewing kids.

Tell her to pull over and then you take the keys.

You obviously have no idea how debilitating this phobia is and how reading something like this can send you into a deep dark spiral. I’m extremely jealous that this wouldn’t affect you.

Please realise that not everyone is as mentally well as you.

This.

They are presumably home by now

I think it’s all shit for you but I also can’t get over the comparison of her bitching about your son crying and you saying you’ve had to listen to her youngest crying. Isn’t he nine months old? 😆

She’s rude, bossy and controlling, forcing everyone to pack up and drive 4 sick kids in the early hours of the morning on a 3 hour car ride home was ridiculous, they would’ve being better sleeping it off, definitely cut her off. As for her complaining about your son crying over not getting a donut, you can’t really compare him to a 9 month old baby, does your son continually whinge and cry for things? He’s probably spoiled and you are oblivious to his crying and 5 mins is a long time to be crying over not getting a donut, you saying it was only 5 mins means it was likely longer but because you’re used to his whinging you block it out, I’d lose my shit with my own kids if they continued to cry that long over something so trivial acting spoilt, so listening to someone else’s kid would wreck anyone’s head in fairness 🤣 But it sounds like he’s a fear of vomit and it stresses him out so that was unfair for him to be stuck in the car with them all, did he at least sleep? Also look into your insurance, I think people just assume because they’re FC on their own car that they’re TP on anyone else’s when this isn’t true, I think you need an open driven policy or something to allow it that anyone can drive your car so check that for future reference. Hope you and your little man are ok now and had a long lie in this morning after that ridiculous bs last night, but definitely keep your distance because she sounds like hard work.

OP I hope you're back home in your house now away from "friend" and her dc. Hopefully you and your dc won't have caught it.

Yeah.

Five small children, two adults, crammed in a caravan, in England, with loads of chucking up going on … what fresh Hell is this?

And this is described as a ‘holiday’? 🤣

Unless it’s some kind of massive Winnebago with multiple bedrooms and showers, it was madness to invite them in the first place.

And the other father can’t help because he’s been out on the piss. Wise man! 😀

Only got part way through so far but was she even insured to drive your car !

Ok I get all that but my point still stands, what makes your phobia more important than others? Same thing goes for people with real bad phobias of anything seeing or reading about it can put the person into a “deep dark spiral” so where does the trigger warnings end? In that sense every single post needs a trigger warning for ALL phobias…..TRIGGER WARNING your phobia may be mentioned in ANY comment in this thread!! You literally can’t control what people talk about so at any given time anyone’s phobia can be spoke about in any thread because you just don’t know what way a conversation will go 🫣

Really hope you are home safely @Sicksicksick9

all the self righteous comments can’t be helpful. Hope you’ve managed to escape the bug too