To be fuming at her for this!

[Sicksicksick9]

I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

Is she insured to drive your car ?

And even if they did offer it it wouldn't help OP if her car were damaged

WTF wouldn’t say anything about the text? Your friend wrote very unkind things about your child and you stayed silent?! Grow a back bone.

Honestly if my child screamed for 5 minutes because he wanted a donut I'd be writing shit about him to his DF. It's called venting.

Hope you're home safely and recovered from a 'nightmare' trip

she’s refusing to let me drive my own car

Do these kind of "I don't like confrontation" people really exist?

I have heard of them (on MN) but never actually seen one in the wild.

A bit like Bigfoot - only heard stories about them and heard they are usually seen trembling in a corner while their big, scary friends talk badly about their kids, take their car keys and force them into a car.

OP - last seen hopefully heading for the "backbone" shop 😁

Phobias of everything are a thing, you can't TW every single thread.

Tbh her having third party insurance would still make her a no for driving - is she going to pay for repairs if she damages your car?

I bet not.

So…your friend was being sick herself but insisted on driving for 3 hours?
is she still being sick as she drives?
that sounds incredibly dangerous even without the added distractions of her children being sick and your DS screaming.
what a horrible situation.
equally though, 7 people all being sick in a tourer caravan sounds horrendous.
I hope you’re home safely now and don’t get too ill.
please never invite her again!

This.

I would have given her a lift to the nearest public transport, she’s a cheeky mare. And sorry, you sound a walkover

YANBU to be annoyed at being disturbed, but absolutely BU to agree to going home early and dragging your poor DC out of bed. If you feel that you are a people pleaser, think about the behaviour you have just advocated in front of your child. Is that how you want him to grow up?

I’ve read so many posts on here where women have said they aren’t good at asserting themselves, not good with conflict etc. I get it. It’s sad and makes for an unhappy life of being treated badly and resentment. But if that’s more comfortable than ensuring they are treated well, it’s their life their choice.

But your child suffered because you didn’t want the discomfort of telling that bag of rubbish to fuck off and sort her shit out without ruining your child’s holiday. I’m stunned you actually let her commandeer your car because your driving wasn’t to the standard she required for her free loading holiday.

I don’t believe for a minute that you are planning to sit your child down at some point and tell him he is worthless and if he ever finds anyone who is prepared to spend time with him he is going to have accept any shitty behaviour they throw at him, just so that he has company and can pretend he has a friend. Unless you get a grip, you won’t have to say those words because you are showing him that is what he can expect.

The whole thing sounds fucking awful before everyone started being sick tbh. There is no way in hell I would be in a touring caravan with 7 people. Her 9 month old constantly crying and im sorry a 4 year old screaming and shaking at sick would do my head in too. I doubt either of you will want to spend time together after this.

it must be a big caravan.

What a horrible situation.
It's hard to think straight on the spur of the moment, but in retrospect it would have been better to say that her partner would have to pick them up.

End the friendship. Just send a text saying this event was the final straw and the friendship can’t continue. Then block and remove from everything. Don’t engage in any back and forth.

What is going to happen to her car? Sorry if I missed something in the story about how she got to you in the first place.

FFS no there can't be a trigger warning at the start of every post to cover everyone's anxiety.

Trigger warning is for things like sexual abuse etc.

A parenting forum is going to have tales of kids & sick.

If it included a graphic video with sound of someone retching & vomiting then it would be reasonable to warn people but otherwise your anxiety is your issue.

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This is your wake up call @Sicksicksick9

stop allowing this BS, stand up for yourself and your kids and sayNO.

You should have said that she is out of order waking everyone up like this, that you’re not driving anyone anywhere and if she wants to go home she can wait til tomorrow morning like a normal person and make arrangements to be collected.

Hopefully you're all safely home by now OP and you and your DS aren't showing any signs of having caught this vomiting bug (possibly Norovirus?). I feel for your DS - I also suffer with emetophobia.
For future reference, I wanted to make you aware of your commonly held misconception about comprehensive car insurance. Some people assume having comprehensive car insurance means they’re covered to drive any car, but that’s not the case. You either have to be a named driver on the policy of the other car you intend to drive, or your policy must included the "Drive other cars" (DOC) clause. (NB: Only six out of the 295 comprehensive car insurance policies on Defaqto include cover for driving other cars as standard.) So, if you didn't have your friend as a named driver on your policy and her policy doesn't include the DOC clause, you were breaking the law on your drive home.

Grow up!

Why did you agree
You just had to say no

She’s selfish! This would be the end of the friendship for me, holidays are one thing that can make or break friendships I feel.

Personally had that been my little one I would have waited til morning and found an alternative way home. I know when you aren’t well you want your own space but to demand it at 2am I would be livid.

Hope you and little one managed to get some rest when you got home.