To be fuming at her for this!

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I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

Your friend sounds horrendous, OP, but I’m afraid I lost all sympathy when not only did you agree to come home at gone midnight, but that you seriously let her drive and you were stuck in the back of your own car! I do have to say this sounds a bit unbelievable.

I'd be telling her straight to get out the driver's seat and sit in the back with HER spewing kids and let you drive your car yourself. whos sat in the front with her driving and why has she had you sat up back dealing with her sick kids? I'd have made her wait til morning she's stupid dragging four poorly kids on a 3hour drive in the middle of the night

End this friendship . I feel sorry for your DS. 4 kids is too much anyway. URGH. I’m petrified of sick aswell and I would be livid if she shouted at my kid.

Her poor children, nothing worse than travelling while sick!

Absolutely no way I would have been letting that happen. The only thing worse than being stuck in a caravan with puking kids is being stuck in the car with them! I agree with the people saying your friend wanted to drive so she wasn't sat with them!

In fairness though, the whole scenario sounds horrendous to me. I wouldn't want to be stuck in a caravan, that is essentially one room, with my own family! I sure as hell wouldn't invite another family.....with 4 kids to my 1.....including a baby. Utter madness!

I'd've said 'No, I'm not going anywhere this time of night and anyway DS and I will probably be sick too before long.
I'm staying put. Ring your partner to come for you in the morning.'

That still means if she has an accident your car won’t be insured. She’s taking that risk cos it doesn’t effect her in anyway as only you will be out of pocket.
Travelling whilst everyone is still being sick is ridiculous!

Is your tourer caravan permanently in place or are you currently towing it!!!

OP you need to take a stance as she has gone and made a horrible situation much worse, and she does not get to boot you out of your own drivers seat!!!!

Im so angry for you!!

I was, but came to terms with it because I had to. (No, I'm not being dismissive of those who can't - I'm just explaining...or trying to.)

Specifically, I was scared of being sick myself. Hated it and had a fear of being set off by others.

However, years of working in schools and being the carer for 3 adults forces you to get over it. Again, I'm not saying that people should get over it - just explaining that I had no other choice.

I think that when you work as a teacher, you're putting on an act anyway - pretending that you're competent and in charge - so that extends to mini-emergencies such as a child throwing up in your class.

You’re wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy, way too soft. My god.

What about the other people saying on the site whilst she is packing in the car in the night ,bet she woke everyone up too.

Why are you a pushover?

So is loads of stuff.

Why dis you invite so many people to your caravan. The kids are not even similar ages?

I wouldn’t be cutting short my DC’s holiday. They can stay in their rooms. I certainly wouldn’t be leaving in the middle of the night

Not unreasonable at all. I can see that it's stressful for her to have her kids come down with a sickness bug far from home, but it doesn't excuse the way she's acting. Bullying you is bad enough; bullying your 4 year old is beyond the pale. And not letting you drive your own car; WTAF!

There's no way on this earth she'd be nasty to my child, be grabbing my keys and dictating to me. She'd be arranging for someone to collect her and her pukey sprogs. Cheeky bitch after you'd let her stay for free!

Why in this world did you allow this to happen? You just had to say No. Its unbelievable that you passively allowed her to push you and DS who must have been traumatised, if he hates sick, not to menton put at risk of infection, into a journey you don't want, in your OWN car. What?

Your poor son.
You allowed her to behave like this and your son pays the price.

As for inviting someone with 4 children and you have only one?
Very foolish.

You put your awful friend ahead of your own child.
You need to focus on fixing yourself.
Your poor son in the midst of all this.

Oh this person is not your friend. Imagine texting her partner that your son is a fucking nightmare when you have gifted her 4 kids a holiday and I'm quite sure being around 4 extra kids is a fucking nightmare frankly. Can't believe you agreed to drive home tbh - that is on you and hopefully you'll learn to say no after this. She could have got a taxi if she couldn't have waited until morning. Feel sorry for all the kids.

She sounds quite demanding and ungrateful. Yes, I'd be fuming and I'd be done with the friendship.

You cannot compare a fear of sick to the trauma of experiencing a miscarriage, stillbirth, sexual assault etc. They're incomparable. Maybe stop continuing to respond to this thread if it's so triggering for you.

Seriously OP , it’s a tourer, even a 6 berth is going to be cramped with 2 adults and 5 children. it was always going to end badly .

Goodness me, you’ve tried to be gracious with a free holiday for them.

I have to say I no longer drive others to holidays as I just don’t want anything like this to happen (and me being liable). You however have been a legend here, I’d have refused her driving my car or letting untold be sick in my car esp at night. Sometimes it’s times like these that test a friendship, and now you’ve seen the light.

You did a nice thing though inviting her, remember that and not how she repaid you, especially the unkind text message.

You should never have agreed for her to drive your car back, its very simple to say no im sorry that's not going to work from us and have her partner collect her in the morning

There are a lot of things going on here.

It’s no one’s fault the kids got sick.

But you are not obliged to drive them back IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. You are not obliged to cut short your holiday to drive them back. Get a grip woman, someone else can collect them.
Why on earth are you letting her dictate who drives in YOUR car?
Why are you accepting her rude behaviour about your driving? And the remarks about your kid’s crying? You are being a massive doormat and letting her walk all over you. Do you not see how utterly disrespectful, mean and rude she is? She is totally using you for a free holiday.
I would have told her to pack her stuff and get a taxi back the first time she complsined about your kid’s crying or your driving. But I’m guessing this isn’t the first time she’s been rude to you. This kind of behaviour doesn’t come out of the blue. She just sounds like a horrible person. If you can’t stand up for yourself, do it for your kid. Be a role model and show them they should not accept being treated like shit by others.