To be fuming at her for this!

[Sicksicksick9]

I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

Yeah I would have refused. Especially after she slagged off your four year old.

I have emetophobia, It started when I had hg 8 years ago, it's not fun, especially when the kids are ill. That being said this thread isn't that bad and having a trigger warning is a bit much!

Get a grip, seriously!!

I take it you’ve never had to deal with someone with emetophobia, never mind a 4 year old child.

Of course he’s going to be behaving like this, he’s scared

Its partly your own fault for not refusing to leave

Yeah that’s a myth. Being fully comp does not give you 3rd party on any car. I know people who got 2 year bans for this mistake.

How did you get so many people into your car on the way down?edit missed it was a 7 seater.

7 of you in a tourering caravan with kids being sick! Yeah id head for home.

How long is the holiday? I would have her drive to her house, chuck her and the kids out of the car and turn around and go back. Make it a car adventure for your child and have the remaining few days away in peace and quiet!

Just refuse. Say as you will be driving and it's your caravan it's your rules. If she doesn't like it did sound ring a taxi and go to a hotel. Don't let her drive your car. Why are you letting her make the rules.

Right?! Imagine dealing with a kid having a tantrum because you and your kids are being sick 😫 no wonder she snapped at him.

I voted YABU as you should not have invited someone with 4 kids of such different ages to your baby to a caravan with no bedrooms.

And if it was her who suggested it - you should not have agreed.

If you are genuinely happy for her to use it, then let her holiday there but separately.

For the rest of it how dare she drive your car without your agreement! And why did you get in!

Your baby needs you to find your big girl pants!

Sorry - your DS. The baby is hers. But my point still stands. Too many kids in too little space. Your car, not hers. Big girl 🩳

Sorry OP but more fool you if you allow yourself to be bossed around! I would have told her she'll have to wait till the morning to get picked up. And I would certainly have called her out on moaning about your child!

So would she have been happy to pay for the costs of fixing your car, should she have had an accident. Because 3rd party insurance wouldn't have paid for that.

He’s not having a tantrum, he’s scared. This is Very hard faced and lacking empathy

I would think kids being sick in a car would be even worse. I would have stayed till the morning then her dh could come and collect. If she drove your car who was going to deal with the sick kids you! You need boundaries in place op.

I would be really cross. I’d want them out of the caravan given they’re being sick and contagious and your DS has a phobia but the way they’ve handled it is unacceptable. Her partner should have picked her up or she could have got a taxi.

Can you go back with your son and continue your holiday? I sincerely hope she’s going to pay you petrol costs and a financial contribution.

I wouldn’t confront her though - just freeze her out. She sounds entitled & aggressive. You are allowed to drop friendships without explaining why. 4 kids and 1 adult is a lot of people to ask as guests even if she wasn’t pushy. Next time I’d suggest 1 adult and 1 child and it will feel more balanced.

Its not all about you!
It is up to you manage your "triggers" not anyone else and certainly not a forum on the internet!

Are you sure, have you SEEN her insurance documents? I'm not sure I would just trust her just telling me that she can.

@Sicksicksick9 you need to grow a bloody backbone! You have allowed her to drive your car, which she may not be insured for, and now you're expected to drive back from where you have left her and clean the caravan up yourself!

Hopefully the drive back was fine, as I very much doubt she’s insured to drive your car. Most comprehensive policies nowadays don’t automatically allow the driving other cars extension - it’s now an optional extra on most policies and comes with an extra premium. Even if she does have it, she’s insured Third Party Only. No way would I let her drive 3 hours on this basis, especially at night with vomiting kids and screaming going on!

Your friend probably has a point that there is a window to get home before both of you come down with it too.

Then who would be fit to drive?

She's not behaved well but I can also see how in those circumstances you'd just want home. It's not a good situation but also not one that is really anyone's fault.

That's not what third party means btw.

This sounds horrendous, if youre not sick by the time you get back then I would come back to the caravan without her tomorrow and then not speak to her again.

For the future, not all insurance companies offer third party on other vehicles if you're fully comp.

Every policy I take out includes it as standard.