To be fuming at her for this!

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I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

You are either too lovely or too spineless, but she'd be fucking walking home before I'd be cutting my kids holiday short, especially when all the misery is down to her vomity children and her rude text messages. Train, walking, or waiting for her OH to sober up.

You don’t need an overbearing, impulsive bully around being mean to and about your son. If you go near this vile woman again you will be letting your son down.

It seems to me from OPs description of this friend as a bulldozer, then she was the one who bulldozed for an invite for a free holiday.

As others noted, 5 kids and 2 adults in one bed caravan was a disaster waiting to happen.

And the bulldozing friend bulldozed her way again to get herself home and I bet she doesn’t offer to have the car valeted either.

Wake up OP you’re being used.

Please tell me you had time to empty the toilet cassette before you all left. If you didn’t it’ll be rank when you go back to it.

Being ill in a caravan is challenging, (to say the least) having been part of a family that went down with Norovirus on day 2 of a holiday. Holiday from hell doesn’t adequately describe it.

Emetophobia isn’t a dislike, it’s a severe mental health issue that can control peoples lives to the extent that they can’t eat or leave the house.

A lot of people are ashamed of it. My wife didn't tell me about her having it until we had been together for a few years, and she would absolutely not be wanting me telling anyone she has it.

I am really hoping she doesn’t see this thread. Not that I expect people not talk about being sick, but it will paralyse her with fear for the entire evening.

It’s just how it is.

She's a cheeky cow, fire her off for good!

I think you are being a bit harsh here. I mean being sick in someone else's caravan and having your 4 kids also vomming is just awful. I think it's a little unfai5to judge her at this time. She needs to wait for her bf to sober up enough or arrange someone etlkse to collect her

As someone who lives with someone with this, I can honestly tell you it can be absolutely paralysing.

You're mad.

There's absolutely no way I'd have let her drive home at midnight in my car.

I'd have just said no, and that DS4 is sleeping now so she needs to turn the lights off and be quiet.

Why are you still in the post if you're so 'triggered'? Should people posting about children's birthday parties put TW on incase the word 'balloon' is mentioned, and someone with globophobia reads it? FFS, really!

Yeah, it is defo not on.

why you agreed to it is really beyond me. She could have called anyone to come and pick her up and just wait the morning 👎🏼

how do you all fit in 1 car thats what i wondered

Everyone was stressed, but your son really needs to toughen up a bit on the sick front. She had 4 children, one of them a 9 month old baby, she was unwell, her kids were unwell, she was having to listen to your child make it about him and his fear of sick!? When she was probably knackered and needed some empathy! Being stuck in a tourer with young kids, sickness, a child having a tantrum over the sick people, she had already had enough of your tantruming child (who sounds like he has no coping mechanisms!), and wanted to go home where she would have been less stressed while being poorly.

You need to suck it up, but neither of you sound compatible. She should have been less selfish about driving home in the dead of night, should not have taken your car, and you need to learn some boundaries.

That’s not how it works, unfortunately

Well I was too black-and-white to be wholly accurate across the board, but adding a towbar is required to be notified by many insurers. Some may have a notification fee, but a few also increase the premium. You need to check which your insurer does. If you don’t, and get it wrong, you could be unlucky enough to invalidate your whole policy for violating their conditions. If so and you get pulled or make a claim, you risk points, fines and huge liability for costs. Once it’s on your record, you and your family can be refused future cover or your premiums hiked, for any type of insurance (not just motor).
[Edit: and unless it’s a seven-seater car, you’re invalidated for overloading too]

Wow, in your position ( not wanting to stand up to her) I would have unloaded all her stuff in the street/driveway and just taken off without a word.

However if it had actually been me it wouldn’t have happened, I’d have told her no it’s not happening or fine she can stay in the caravan and you and DS find a bed in a hotel or other caravan on site for the night so she can deal with her sick children herself.

she didn’t want to be in the back of the car because she didn’t want the sick to deal with. No one would get my keys off me and demand she take my car against my wishes unless they were expert car jackers.

Also what idiot drives their sick children for 3 hours! We’ve been in situations with sick children many times, we reduce the travelling and try and stay put to deal with it not make it worse by travelling.

Or… OP could simply not give her the keys and they could leave the next day.

God the drama on this site….

I’d probably start shaking uncontrollably and lock myself in a different room if someone was being sick in the same building as me and I’m 34. I’ve booked hotel rooms when DH has been unwell and slept in my car age 18 when my parent had a stomach bug. I know 2 others with this, including a colleague who once walked out on a classroom of children when someone vomited on the floor. She now has an “immediate swap” agreement with another staff member if vomit is involved. It’s paralysing. I’ve had 3 rounds of CBT which has made it almost manageable. It took me from age 4 (when the phobia began) to age 30 to reach a healthy weight. Nothing cures it and depending on the severity it controls your life. Ever had a panic attack? If that poor little boy you are slagging off has emetophobia he probably felt like he was going to die trapped in that situation.

I have full comp insurance and I can drive other vehicles third party with the agreement of the owner. I've never done it but it's handy for emergencies.

Your policy is unusual nowadays then.

It sounds horrific. I wouldn't continue the relationship after this.

For someone with emetophobia it’s a lot more than disliking it, though. I don’t have it myself but know a couple of people who do. I can never understand why people respond to phobias with ‘nobody likes…’ statements, tbh. Phobias go way beyond not liking something.

To me YABU as you could have said no.

I would have said you have two options 1. You can drive home we will stay here and you can drink the car back in the morning or two stay here till the morning and see if your partner can come and get you as it's not fair on you and your daughter