To be fuming at her for this!

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I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

Unless I’m going mad I read this exact same OP a week or two (or three) ago?

Good news!

There was something similar but didn't involve a caravan. A poster and their child were stranded in a flat somewhere, 'friend' had had a bit of a strop and gone home early. Poster had to find her way to airport and negotiate various things before getting home.

It sounds awful OP but I would have kicked her and her kids out the caravan and told them to go find somewhere else to sleep. Awful I know but no way would I have anyone making my child feel that way. She has been incredible selfish, inappropriate and behaving like a spoilt brat. That would be it for me and no way would I have let her drive let alone has headed off at that time of night, especially on those welsh roads. What a selfish cow she is.

No I’ve definitely read this exact OP before. The crying DS, the children’s ages, the friend complaining about the ds to her dh. What’s that all about then? I looked to see if it was an old thread and I hadn’t realised it was active again but no it was posted early this morning and with updates? Very curious.

It has been copied and pasted. I distinctly remember the kids ages 8 8.

Is she paying to get your car cleaned?

It happened week’s ago. It’s old news that for some reason has been re-reposted as new.

This is exactly why I try to be super comforting towards taxi drivers, they have to deal with this shit on a regular basis. Some people just don't appreciate the magnitude of giving someone a lift... In the middle of nowhere... In the middle of the night! That in of itself should get you nothing but thanks yous and sorrys and maybe petrol money too, your friend doesn't seem very appreciative and is ready to "use" you at the first behest of her kids, also why the hell was hubby so angry about sick? Was it his car on a lease agreement or something?

Ya kidding me! People are reposting mumsnet forum posts 🤣

What’s weird is it was posted this morning as if it’s happening in real time (OP’s responses as if they're current) yet this was all done and dusted a few week’s ago. I’ve not come across this type of thing before but maybe it’s a thing?

What's that saying OP? Oh yes:

'No good deed goes UNPUNISHED!'

I'm so sorry that the lovely holiday you were kind enough to offer to share with a friend, ended up being an absolute disaster, which was VERY unfair on you and your son. The woman should be utterly ashamed of herself. What did she say when you left her at her house, did she apologise or anything, and has she tried to contact you since?

As someone with SEVERE emetophobia there is not a cat in hells chance I would have got in that car......3 hours of literal living hell for your son who had no choice, YANBU OP, she's been VERY selfish to make you do this. I hope you and your boy escape the bug xx

If they class it as an undeclared mod but would have insured it at policy inception then they’ll charge the addition premium and settle the claim. It’s only if they wouldn’t have covered it any cost you’ve got a problem.

Hardly. I ran some quotes for a laugh yesterday. Out of the top 25 quotes 18 included DOC, very similar for my wife.

The point is, you need to check whether you’re in the 7 or the 18. You can’t afford to assume. The ratio may be different for higher-risk drivers.

A trigger warning eh! As vomit mentioned cmon stop the nonsense. Get the friend to fook.

You need to know whether you’ve got a problem or not before it’s too late. Hence “you need to check which your insurer does”.
[edit: and it is possible for a policy to be voided on attempting a claim, depending on the insurer and their attitude]

There can be phobias of everything though. Are we just to put TW on every single post, just in case? The TWs around other things are for experiences people have had that have likely caused actual trauma, not irrational phobias.

I can’t imagine wanting to go away with someone else’s 4 kids in the first place. Two adults and five kids in a caravan? Including a 9 month old baby. I can’t imagine how anyone would find that remotely bloody relaxing. Go by yourself next time.

Best not to go in the middle of the night, and if she is sick she shouldn't drive anyway. It's likely if they are all sick you will be too.
The comment about your driving is way beyond The Pale- your caravan is good enough for her (to have a free holiday) but your driving is not?
Well it's done now, but I would never speak to her again- waking me up throwing stuff into my car then insisting one driving even though she is sick?That is not much short of psychotic.

Aren’t all phobias irrational?

Anyway, obviously we can’t have a TW for everything but some of the responses around emetophobia show clearly that we need a better understanding of phobias and how they can impact on mental health.

Yes, I would say phobias are all irrational, and there are so many of them if we were to use TWs for every potential phobia, we’d just be putting them on all posts. TWs are for actual life experiences that cause trauma.

She's only insured if she's named on the policy. Fully comp covers you to drive other cars if the policy says so, not other people to drive your car.

I agree with Tryinghardtobefair. If you don’t like it don’t read it. You can’t be spoon fed your whole life Jumpingthruhoops.

I have emetophobia and I read very tentatively. If Jumpingthruhoops was THAT bad they would have come off the thread in the first couple of sentences of the OP. I even noticed the username first and was cautious about reading the thread.

Hope you didn’t get poorly OP.

The only part I agree with your friend is your son screaming over sick, if I had a friends child screaming because my child was being sick it would annoy me too. You need to speak to your child.

Other than that, she's a CF and you shouldn't be bossed around. Wouldn't surprise me if you were sick in the next few hours. In fact I'd pretend to of been sick so you didn't have to cut the holiday short.