DD says my snoring keeps her up at night but DH and DS say they can’t hear me

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Hi everyone just very confused right now. DD says my snoring keeps her up at night and she can’t sleep yet DH/DS say they can’t hear me so I am very confused by this. Yes I do snore but if it’s keeping DD up then surely it would affect DH/DS as well.
DH & me sleep separately (but not because of the snoring) DS & DD have their own rooms.
I sleep downstairs bedroom so this has confused me a lot.

Well because one is a purposeful action and two she’s an adult and has free will to live somewhere snore free (good luck) or three ear plugs or sleep headphones exist.

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture and will make people behave bizarrely. This is not difficult to understand.

Funny how that only works for the DD who is purposely ensuing her DM is sleep deprived as well. Although as OP has stated the DD could sleep earlier rather than staying up into the early hours. The OP has also stated that her app has said her snoring level is low, which I’d suggest most people snore at some point and slightly. Does everyone deserve to face abuse in their own home?

It sounds like a horrible household overall, to be fair.

Maybe if DD kept sensible hours she’d sleep better and wouldn’t notice the snoring so much. Maybe it’s time for her to get a job and move out.

Hi everyone just very confused right now. DD says my snoring keeps her up at night and she can’t sleep yet DH/DS say they can’t hear me so I am very confused by this.

They can't hear you because they are already asleep and/or deep sleepers. How is that confusing?

Tbf if you intentionally and unnecessarily keep yourself up half the night, you can’t reasonably complain that other peoplease snoring is keeping you awake when you do eventually decide to sleep. And hasn’t the DD tried earplugs? It’s not like she has a job to get up for - she sleeps until lunchtime.

I can’t believe the amount of people standing up for your DD. Her behaviour in response to your snoring is completely unreasonable.
she sounds like a spoiled brat having a strop.
its your house and at 21 if she doesn’t like it, she can move out

DDs behaviour is awful. But was she taught how to behave and expected to do so in her childhood/young teenagehood? Because if she wasn't, that's on OP and DH. People don't just turn into well behaved adults - they have to be taught.

Some people are deeper sleepers than others. My mother used to moan about how badly I slept, while she slept like a log. I have insomnia and wake up at the smallest noise in the night!

Perhaps your DH and DS are deep sleepers, and your daughter is a light sleeper.

To be fair no-one in the OP's household comes off well.

The OP still hasn't replied why her DD doesn't work.

Until you can find an effective treatment for your snoring, your DD will need to try wearing earplugs (which I appreciate isn't always a solution - I can't personally sleep with earplugs in) or you'll need to shuffle the sleeping arrangements again. It's definitely a location thing and how the sound is carried.

DH and I sleep separately but our bedrooms are next to each other and I don't hear his snoring through the wall. However, I can tell when my neighbour's (adult) grandson is staying with her because I can hear him snoring like a sawmill from next door - across the carpeted staircase and upstairs landing between our bedrooms. There's clearly an acoustic sweet spot around there because I can hear his grunting over my white noise app 😭

(and it's definitely not DH because I've heard it several times while DH has been awake and pottering around downstairs!)

I think this tbh.

She’s got a cheek waking you up at night when you work and she doesn’t.

But I also think you should get your snoring checked out AS SHOULD YOUR HUSBAND for the sake of your own health. If it’s that bad then it might be an indication of a problem.

DD has recently lost her job 4 weeks ago and before she did she slept fine no issues of any of us snoring at all but since she’s been off work past 4 weeks she’s staying up till 2/3 morning playing X Box/phone/facetiming so when she goes to sleep 2/3 she’s waking us up as well as before

And just to add she is sleeping till lunchtime

You are just trolling at this point.

You’ve mentioned that numerous times.

You're such a fantastic family, I wish I lived with you.

Trolling? Cos I said how my daughter doesn’t work? Rampantivy asked why DD doesn’t work so I said why

I hope she finds another job soon.