‘D’ H really upset me regarding wedding pics and not looking the like the same person anymore

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I’m not sure if I’m being sensitive here but just visiting my parents with my H and kids and my H picked up our wedding album.

I did immediately think, ah why look at it now.

he said to my DD, come and look at when mummy ‘ was ‘ a princess. He then looked up and said ‘ emphasis on ‘ was ‘’.. and did a nasty little laugh. I let it go.

then he was looking at the pics and my dad came by and he said ‘ who is this woman in these pics, I don’t recognise her ? ‘ and laughed. He said it a few times.

I lost him and told him to F off and took the book out of his hands.

he knows how much I struggle with how my body has changed after two kids. He knows how much I’m fighting to look like myself again. He knows how much it hurts every single day and how much I hate myself.

is this really something to laugh about in front of my family ?

I just feel like it’s a massive betrayal.

FYI we got married 7 years ago, so it’s not like a life time or anything.

I'd have walloped him round the head with the album for that. What an arsehole.

Yeah, that’s mean.

I would be pointing out all the ways in which he has changed for the worse over those 7 years.
Or was he always this unpleasant?

Yeah that's nasty of him. Does he look the same?

That’s really shitty.

My husband probably thinks it, which upsets me enough, but he would never say it.

That's really nasty. I'm not surprised you told him to fuck off.

Is he always so horrible?

7 years is a perfect time to divorce

The more threads I read on MN, the more I'm convinced that men actually just hate women.
He's a spiteful cunt OP. I'm sure there are numerous ways he had changed since his wedding day (including becoming a nasty twat obviously) and you haven't sat and pointed them out. Maybe you should.

I'd have said at least I haven't turned into a sarcastic cunt.

I’m so surprised. He never ever says stuff like this, he also never comments negatively on how I look. He knows how unhappy I am and how much I try to do about it.

It’s very upsetting isn’t it?

My DH would never say anything like that to me. It’s really cruel.

What an absolute twat.

He's being really vile. It has happened that my DH has said that I was a real beauty in my twenties (now 45). I don't really care (he's not trying to be hurtful or anything, just clueless) it doesn't get to me but for good manners I tell him that I remember when he had more hair and a flat belly.

You have the wrong DH OP - a decent one wouldn’t have said that . Sending you a massive hug . You deserve better .

What a hurtful thing to say.

Well he is an ass

like I said, I’m really surprised because he wouldn’t usually say this kind of thing.

the only thing I was thinking when he picked it up- was - if I tell him to leave it, he’ll say how pathetic and sad it is that I don’t even want to look at our wedding album.

so I thought to myself, stay cool. He’s not going to say anything nasty. Don’t tell him not to look at him because that’s when he’ll say something nasty.

he then kept saying how his hair has changed etc too and it wasn’t a big deal. But he’d laid his bed by that point.

Oh fuck off. My baby moved a rib or two out of position and they’ve never gone back. My abdominal muscles no longer meet in the middle. Of course having a baby changes your body!

Watch out OP - you say "He never ever says stuff like this"... until now. Is this the start of him trying to grind you down until your self-esteem is in barely visible tatters? Why? Please keep your wits about you. Have there been any other changes in his behaviour?

Has he looked in the mirror recently?

I know ! That’s why I am so ashamed. I’ve tried everything. I am on ozempic and have lost a lot of weight. I’m really really working on it.

I am trying so fucking hard.

Are you going to let him get away with it? I’d be ripping him a new arsehole for that.

Tell me you’ve never had kids without telling me you’ve never had kids.
DFOD.