‘D’ H really upset me regarding wedding pics and not looking the like the same person anymore

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I’m not sure if I’m being sensitive here but just visiting my parents with my H and kids and my H picked up our wedding album.

I did immediately think, ah why look at it now.

he said to my DD, come and look at when mummy ‘ was ‘ a princess. He then looked up and said ‘ emphasis on ‘ was ‘’.. and did a nasty little laugh. I let it go.

then he was looking at the pics and my dad came by and he said ‘ who is this woman in these pics, I don’t recognise her ? ‘ and laughed. He said it a few times.

I lost him and told him to F off and took the book out of his hands.

he knows how much I struggle with how my body has changed after two kids. He knows how much I’m fighting to look like myself again. He knows how much it hurts every single day and how much I hate myself.

is this really something to laugh about in front of my family ?

I just feel like it’s a massive betrayal.

I think he's scared of what your changes might mean for him.

People behave in weird and wonderful ways when their partner loses a significant amount of weight. Some relationship don't survive it unfortunately. Some men even leave their newly slim partner for a heavier woman. Some people (usually women) realise they deserve more.

I think he has a poor self esteem and wants to pull yours down as well. I'm sorry he's dragged your kids into his mess.

Read this again.

You are talking about staying silent to avoid him being nasty.

You are talking about trying to manage the emotions of a grown man who is supposed to love and respect you, to avoid him lashing out.

That is the mindset of someone in an abusive relationship. Please don't give your daughter the impression that it is okay for men to act this way.

You deserve better than this (and him).

It’s not true in all cases but it’s alarming how many men do seem to hate women & need them to be a certain way at a certain time in their life.

How on earth do we move on from this mentality??

What a horrible comment. He joked with his Dad too.
I’m sorry

Princess? What a twattish thing to say. I suppose he looks like Brad Pitt or whoever the equivalent bloke is these days does he. I’d have taken the album off him and lamped him with it.

Me exH was like this. Made awful comments and made me feel ugly and fat. He doesn't sound a nice person.

Look at when mummy was a princess and married a handsome prince... But when she kissed the handsome prince, he turned into a frog.

Really mean thing for him to say. Nasty and tactless.

Playing devil's advocate, maybe he's trying to gently nudge you (as is suggested here MANY times when people say DH has gained weight etc)
Maybe he thinks you were happier/more energetic etc

That doesn't make sense as she's already lost a lost of weight and is nearly at goal

Oh sorry I completely missed that. Unbelievably vile so

Just think how amazing you’ll look in the divorce photos. (Even if nothing physically changes, i guarantee a weighted cloud will have lifted! 😉

I’d be accidentally on purpose dropping that wedding album in the bath so no one gets to look at it again.

Why on earth do you feel you hate yourself just because you’ve put on some weight? That’s a really unhealthy attitude to have. You’re exactly the same person as you always were. You have grown two people, ABs that changes your body.

Please treat yourself more kindly.

And dump your h. He’s a cunt.

What a pig