To regret moving DP in to my house

[JadeySmiles]

Hi all, the previous topic isn’t accepting new posts so I thought I’d update here.

We have had the conversation about split of
chores, DP said he can chip in ‘as and when needed’ but he didn’t have a suggested split as I hoped which was frustrating.

He says he feels a bit awkward with getting stuck in given he doesn’t own the house and thinks he will be more comfortable once he is on the Mortgage and asked me when that will be. I said I want to wait and see how things go over the next few months as we get used to living with each other.

He was a bit funny with this and suggested I’m backtracking on an agreement. But we didn’t ever set a timeline. He says his Mum has
told him the funds she/his Dad are gifting are currently in a low paying interest account and if he doesn’t take them soon they’ll fix them for a year so he needs to hurry up if he wants them.

I said this doesn’t change my feelings and we need to see how things go. He seems to be sulking now and has been on his games console in the spare bedroom since dinner, which he criticised and said he’s getting fed up with the same vegan meals. I told him he’s welcome to cook for us tomorrow!!

There is a reason some women lose friends as they age.
In the face of 99 good solutions, they always go for the 1 idiot option, only drawing more drama upon themselves.

They really shouldn't be surprised that friends and family back away from them, fatigued by their poor judgement and just don't want to be around it.

Leaving your own home in these circumstances is one such scenario.
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I've had my doubts about whether this is real or not but I post anyway because it might be useful to someone else.

Ignoring advice is the OP's MO, which she is completely within her rights to do, but it also conveniently sets things up for the next installment.

Let's see how the house is tomorrow.

Your job to clean up HIS vomit? Jesus Christ 🤢🤢🤢 I know we haven't gone easy on you in here, but I hope you can now understand why....you deserve so much better. Enjoy your lovely home all by yourself x

Had she stayed, she could have cleaned up the vomit and kitchen mess using his clean t shirts and underpants then packed them at the bottom of his bags with clean work clothes on top and chucked him out in the morning. I'd probably be delighted he unwittingly gave me this golden opportunity to fuck him over.

Sometimes it's best to just go when you've been told you're no longer welcome.

What? You shouldn't have left the house with him there. You don't know what he's capable of! He could damage and destroy it further. Let alone steal things/go through your things. Wtf were you thinking leaving the house to him for the night?? You keep making really dumb decisions, sorry but you do. I would have kicked him out regardless of where he goes. Make him homeless and sleep in the gutter, make him suffer!

He can't have it both ways. If it's your house and he's just a guest, he leaves the moment he's asked to.

Defo do not put him on the mortgage. I find it worrying that he needs to be on the mortgage to do a chore.

He’s trashed the house and been asked to leave.

We await the next installment

How are you this morning OP? Have you made it back to your house yet?

Thanks. I missed that bit not sure how as I thought I had clicked on all the OP posts.

My God, what is it with men these days? Do they never grow up? Absolutely pathetic excuses for men. Many of them seem to want a substitute mummy, who will cook and clean for them (and clean up after them), but one they can also fuck. Oh and you must also contribute at least 50/50 financially. So ladies you must stay compliant, sympathetic, indulgent and supportive, but also remain sexy and solvent. The old trope about the perfect wife being a mute nymphomaniac who runs a pub, has a ring of bitter truth about it.

It has to be their upbringing, and sad as it is to admit, many parents of boys, and often it's the mothers, are far too indulgent. This losers mother has been cleaning his flat for him! A grown man!

I'm so glad you've seen him for what he really is before getting in too deep OP.

'and it will embarrassing in front of the neighbours.'

most ridiculous reason not to call the police !

It reads more and more like fiction tbh, nobody is that dim.

Thought he was a "man"

Tell him he has the rest of the fkin day, to gather his shit, the locks are being changed on Tuesday. He's not welcome, clear your shit and go. Today.

Ahhh, @JadeySmiles, I'm so sorry he has turned out to be such an arse. You were more than fair in giving him the opportunity to clean up his act around the house, and the fact that instead of helping to keep the home tidy, he has completely trashed it says a lot about him and just how lacking in simple respect he is. If anyone should be embarrassed, it's him - what grown man would ever think this was an acceptable way to behave?

I'm sorry this has happened, but at least it's come to a head now rather than in a year when you've got him on the mortgage. Keep this break up quick and clean, you owe this disgusting minger nothing. Enjoy your lovely, clean home!

Really hope you’re house isn’t in a mess today 🙏🏻🙏🏻

I am never sure.
There was a whole bunch of threads about an awful husband who’d gone on a stag night to Blackpool with his football team. Whole cast of characters.
It got taken down in the end.
It is hard when you want to support someone but this one….
Takes no notice of 90 per cent of the very decent advice.

Wow. This has got to be the most ridiculous thread I’ve ever read. OP has left her home to give a disgusting man-child a bed for the night. Why? Just why? I hope to god the house hasn’t been trashed and turned over. But what’s the likelihood it’ll be clean and tidy when OP returns?

OP you need to get this man out of your house and your life. You also need to get some therapy to uncover why your bar is so low.

@ophow are things? I’ve been thinking about you. Please let us know how things are.

There was a whole bunch of threads about an awful husband who’d gone on a stag night to Blackpool with his football team.

Those threads were ridiculous. I was surprised anyone was taken in by such obvious fiction.

@JadeySmiles are you ok today? Did he leave? Please let us know you're ok x

Is this for real?!