Engagement ring

[mulberrybeige]

I got engaged to an man 18 months ago and was lucky enough to be in reciept of a nice engagement ring. Since then I have had a several friends make continual comments about the size of the ring.

My own mother could not believe someone would consider buying it for me, ‘it must be a family ring’. She said she felt her own engagement ring was spectacular but felt deflated upon seeing mines. Another friend just bursts out laughing every time she sees it. I had another one tell me it makes me look like a drag queen. One suggested I did not wear it to work - as it could make people uncomfortable (I ran this one past a couple of friends who said my ring was no more blingy than theirs and thought it was ridiculous).

These comments are from the same people who mocked me in various ways as a thirties single cat lady career woman. I swear they all thought I was ‘on the shelf’ and my only chance for success in romance would be to panic and marry the first man who asked me. In the end I did not panic at all and eventually met a lovely, man who matches me career wise, finacially and ambition wise. I met him through friends and it was all very natural.

The ring matches what we both could easily afford and is in no way ostentacious. I am honestly starting to think their reaction is more to do with the fact I got engaged at all, rather than the ring itself. Its fucking disappointing really that I feel people cannot be happy for me. I just feel instinctively people are trying to ‘burst my bubble’.

YANBU - These people are just jealous / have their own issues
YABU - You should not wear the engagement ring in public just the plain wedding band

I agree with this comment. There is no way that you don’t understand that a 100k 5ct ring is not the norm. It’s a very bold piece of jewellery. That does not give people the right to be mean, of course it doesn’t. But unless your social circle is full of millionaires, then this is going to be out of the ordinary.

Exactly 33 carat Krupp diamond was big

i do want to add though that it’s beautiful and it suits you.

I prefer the photo of the ring on your finger - it suits your hand very well.

It is stunning and suits your lovely slender fingers. As others said- did you accidentally post the wrong photo? Is this the ring?

www.pragnell.co.uk/windsor-182ct-brilliant-cut-diamond-ring_0151145-p

The original picture was a 6 prong. The ring on OP's finger is a 4 prong. They're not the same ring.

Classic engagement ring on steroids, I love it.

I don't have an engagement or wedding ring myself as I'm one of those modern women with a civil partnership and her own surname. However, I do LOVE a flashy cocktail ring! I have a few stones this size which I like to wear all the time, but obviously not a 5c diamond! Yours is a great ring and you'll never get bored of it.

Out of interest, I have only ever known two women who had stones around this size for an engagement ring. One was a boss of mine who had a huge canary diamond; she was a lovely down-to-earth woman who played every sport invented (always with her massive ring on!) The other was a chain-smoking brilliant academic with the biggest, bluest sapphire I have ever seen sparkling on her finger (so big she had to have a custom wedding ring made to fit around it.) Both were intelligent, hard-working, capable women who could carry off their bling with characteristic nonchalance (and husbands who adored them). They weren't flashy people, but somehow their big rings really suited them.

I think your small-minded friends associate a big ring with celebrities and heiresses who can pick any man they want. How dare you get that lucky! They just can't hide their utter surprise and jealousy, it would be hilarious if they weren't being so bloody ignorant and rude.

My DIL has a 4 carat ring. She doesn't wear it abroad anymore after an incident abroad which was frightening. Mind you that can happen in parts of the UK.

I notice on Instagram people are actually buying holiday rings in moissonite? I think it's called.

That's a compass set ring with the prongs in the North, East, West and South positions. OPs is not compass set, hers is set differently at the 2 o'clock, 4 o'clock, 8 o'clock and 10 oc lock positions

How are they "quite different"? The Pragnell ring has 6 claws and OP's has 4 - apart from that they look very similar to me.

It's a lovely ring, OP. I'd ignore all of them.

I would also, however, get that diamond reset as those prongs are very likely not secure enough for a 5c diamond. There should be six and they should be more pointed (claw) prongs. You don't want it to come loose!

editing to add - is yours a Pragnall? That's unusually irresponsible of them to have set it that way.

YANNU- I have learned in my 30s how people can really really surprise you in so many ways . People who you thought you knew well a lot of the time too. Take no notice and be proud of it on this happy occasion. I found it strange wearing my ring at first and people eye balling it but it fades.

OP, next time you use chatgpt to create a photo of a ring on your hand, at least ask it to use the same ring you had posted prior 😉

You will accused of being jealous now

That's OK. I'll ask chatgpt to make me one too.

The pragnell is a beautiful ring and the one on your finger suits you well, whatever it is.

As a PP said I suspect the issue is not with the ring per se but your pretence that it’s not ostentatious. 5ct is in your face bling, I’m a fan but honestly you need to own it.

It can't be this one, it's only 1.82c (OP's is 5c).

It's a beaut OP and looks amazing on your hand 😍

ignore the idiots!

Your ring is lovely OP - I, for other reasons, am almost at the opposite end of the spectrum. I have something quite dinky but it suits me and is what I wanted, I’ve had people go “oh he only got you that”, “where’s the rest of it”, “didn’t you want…”

It makes no odds to me, I love it, it’s comfortable to wear full time and I’m not petrified of losing or damaging it.

Engagement rings are a really personal thing - if you love it and didn’t get into debt for it then crack on!

Oooh, I bet that comes alive in the sunshine!
Congratulations! I hope you and your fiancé have a wonderful life together! And I'm sorry your friends and family are being dicks. ❤️
My friend got her engagement ring from Tiffany and she was so excited about it (as was I, because I think it's cool.) Mine was from Argos. 😅 I've still got the ring but ditched the husband. 😊

Stunning ring OP x

I love big diamond rings.

I have a pear cut diamond solitaire about 0.75 ct. Years ago I had a very rich client at work who also had a pear cut ring. Hers was a massive pear cut stone in the middle surrounded by pear cut stones each able the size of mine! Mine felt puny in comparison 😂

OP, your ring is lovely and classic. But even if I didn’t think that, who cares? You and your fiancé are the only people whose opinion of the ring matters.

Your so-called friends, however, are a waste of space.

Keep the ring and the lovely man, bin the jealous dickheads and have a wonderful wedding. I wish you and your DH a happy married life xx

Is this your first post on MN? 👀

I wasn’t referring specifically to that ring, but to her love of large diamonds in general, of which she had an extensive collection. Hence calling her perfume White Diamonds. I’m not saying the OP’s ring is on a par with a 33c number at all, simply that a large diamond solitaire with a stone the width of your finger is very much Liz’s aesthetic, that’s all.

I’m also not saying that the OP’s friends aren’t being snarky - they probably are. What I mean is that the joke should be on them, not the OP, because Elizabeth Taylor was a glorious fucking icon of a woman, and it’s a comparison I personally would just own and celebrate instead of letting it get to me.

OP isn’t coming back. Fake ring, fake link, fake picture, now called out on it.

if the picture is real of you wearing it though OP I would go get it valued for the insurance and that will tell you whether it actually is a 5ct diamond or not