Engagement ring

[mulberrybeige]

I got engaged to an man 18 months ago and was lucky enough to be in reciept of a nice engagement ring. Since then I have had a several friends make continual comments about the size of the ring.

My own mother could not believe someone would consider buying it for me, ‘it must be a family ring’. She said she felt her own engagement ring was spectacular but felt deflated upon seeing mines. Another friend just bursts out laughing every time she sees it. I had another one tell me it makes me look like a drag queen. One suggested I did not wear it to work - as it could make people uncomfortable (I ran this one past a couple of friends who said my ring was no more blingy than theirs and thought it was ridiculous).

These comments are from the same people who mocked me in various ways as a thirties single cat lady career woman. I swear they all thought I was ‘on the shelf’ and my only chance for success in romance would be to panic and marry the first man who asked me. In the end I did not panic at all and eventually met a lovely, man who matches me career wise, finacially and ambition wise. I met him through friends and it was all very natural.

The ring matches what we both could easily afford and is in no way ostentacious. I am honestly starting to think their reaction is more to do with the fact I got engaged at all, rather than the ring itself. Its fucking disappointing really that I feel people cannot be happy for me. I just feel instinctively people are trying to ‘burst my bubble’.

YANBU - These people are just jealous / have their own issues
YABU - You should not wear the engagement ring in public just the plain wedding band

She's probably having a massive row with her soon to be ex fiance. If she really believed it was the same ring as the first pic 🤣

Whenever there are threads on Style&Beauty regarding diamonds there is always a backlash against them in the favour of LabGrown , or Moissanite or antique because of the atrocities connected with Blood Diamonds

So maybe that's what the friends are aghast about .
Not the "how could she wear/afford such a huge an expensive stone" but a "how can someone be so blinkered and unaware?"

Maybe for some a diamond ( mined) is on a par with wearing fur?

(I ran this one past a couple of friends who said my ring was no more blingy than theirs

You have more than one friend who also has a 5 carat £100,000+ engagement ring?!

Your ring is stunning. Enjoy every second you wear it and ignore the jealous numpties!

And still people commenting how beautiful it is and wear it with pride lol
People are so gullible 😁

One suggested I did not wear it to work - as it could make people uncomfortable

Really?

Absolutely beautiful. Pictures always make a ring look far bigger although regardless of size it's stunning. You should wear it forever & be happy. It's hard to be on the receiving end of jealousy but it says more about them than you.

Oh damn, I skipped to the end cos I thought it was bollocks anyway when she said about being told not to wear it to work 😁👀

OK, my comment is now geared towards anyone who has been in a genuine situation where a ring has caused jealousy. It does happen.

Your ring is beautiful.
wear it and enjoy it - it is the symbol of his love for you and should be cherished.
your mother and others who have called you Elizabeth Taylor are just toxic and cruel. envy is the their of joy and they clearly have their own warps idea of how to live life. Set a boundary around yourself and don’t allow anyone to abuse you again.

Congratulations OP, lovely ring and ignore the haters.

It's way ott and ostentatious for me but I'm not wearing it.

I think I would have said its lovely and wow its big then got on with my life.

My eyes just nearly popped out of my head. That’s absolutely gorgeous! 😍

Cut, colour, clarity? Size isn't everything when it comes to diamonds.
It definitely isn't the Pragnell ring, but you can get a 5C ring for a far more modest price. It just won't be a high quality one.
The important thing is that the wearer loves it.

It’s glorious. My most beautiful and classiest friend has a similar one! Lucky you - enjoy every second of wearing it xx

Op this is gorgeous 😍 rise above the jealousy, it hurts the mean girls more than us happy girls 🥰💖

It's a beautiful ring. Congratulations OP. Find new friends but I guess you're stuck with your mother. They're all just mean spirited and jealous. Move on and leave the dross behind.

Congratulations on your engagement.
Your ring is absolutely beautiful and looks perfect on your hand. Please ignore all those horrible snakes making jealous and unkind comments. I agree with everyone else, it is pure jealousy. Please just fade these people out of your life and go forward and enjoy your future with your fiancé.

It’s a bloody lovely ring, and therein lies the problem. They are absolutely green with envy.

I’d start wearing it on my middle finger and every time someone said something I’d stick my finger up and ram it in their face.

I usually think engagement rings can be a bit tacky, but this one is absolutely stunning! I think they're feeling a little jealous!

That’s because it’s not the same ring,

It's a beautiful ring OP, the reactions are pure jealousy.

Stunning OP. I was expecting something completely different.

My goodness, that is a stunning ring, it looks gorgeous 😍😍😍

The comments are coming from jealous people feeling bad about themselves; ignore and enjoy your lovely life.

@mulberrybeige I met my now husband in my 40s. Was a single lady for all the years before.
I have an unusual engagement ring and I love it.

Forget the miserable comments, and enjoy your life. Btw your ring is beautiful x