Engagement ring

[mulberrybeige]

I got engaged to an man 18 months ago and was lucky enough to be in reciept of a nice engagement ring. Since then I have had a several friends make continual comments about the size of the ring.

My own mother could not believe someone would consider buying it for me, ‘it must be a family ring’. She said she felt her own engagement ring was spectacular but felt deflated upon seeing mines. Another friend just bursts out laughing every time she sees it. I had another one tell me it makes me look like a drag queen. One suggested I did not wear it to work - as it could make people uncomfortable (I ran this one past a couple of friends who said my ring was no more blingy than theirs and thought it was ridiculous).

These comments are from the same people who mocked me in various ways as a thirties single cat lady career woman. I swear they all thought I was ‘on the shelf’ and my only chance for success in romance would be to panic and marry the first man who asked me. In the end I did not panic at all and eventually met a lovely, man who matches me career wise, finacially and ambition wise. I met him through friends and it was all very natural.

The ring matches what we both could easily afford and is in no way ostentacious. I am honestly starting to think their reaction is more to do with the fact I got engaged at all, rather than the ring itself. Its fucking disappointing really that I feel people cannot be happy for me. I just feel instinctively people are trying to ‘burst my bubble’.

YANBU - These people are just jealous / have their own issues
YABU - You should not wear the engagement ring in public just the plain wedding band

Awkward. That is not the linked ring at all.

I’m sad I’m going to sleep now as I’ll probably miss the deletion post.

OP your ring is beautiful.

I tried on a ring when my husband was choosing my ring ( I am a control freak and wanted to make sure it was right) that was what I thought was my dream ring, like yours but with more diamonds around it and as I have small hands it swapped me, I can say that I was gutted.

I wear my ring which is 4 carats with pride and I love people said to me not to wear it as it could be rubbing peoples faces in it, funnily enough they never say that to my husband when he wears his very expensive watch or drives his expensive cars. Make that what you will.

But what about the ring in the original photo?! Do you have two?

Loving the irony of the above comments about the claws coming out

This is just fucking rude!! That's not a friend.....frenemy through and through. Please don't put up with this behaviour. I thought it might have been a colleague you didn't get on with, but you've said 'friend'.... I'm stunned. That's just NASTY.

I don’t like it 😐

Good thing you don’t have to wear it then 😐

It’s a nice ring, it’s not a Pragnell though.

If I had a diamond the size of my entire finger I’d be pretty annoyed if people didn’t notice it, tbh. I mean, you don’t choose that size of stone for subtlety, OP, come on.

Lovely ring, looks pretty normal to me, I was expecting to see a monstrosity!

Ignore them and Congrats!

😯😯😯

£135k?!?!?! Wowser!!
sorry but not sorry I snooped on the website

All i can hear in my head now is led zeppelin whole lotta love ❤️

That man has a whole lotta love for you - Congrats!!

They are clearly salty and jealous. (Your ring is beautiful and classic btw)

They are jealous ! It’s a stunning ring .

That’s my ring!

So did you post the first pic as an example of the style of ring! They are quite different!

It looks lovely on your hand. It's not my personal style, but that's the point isn't it....it's not MY ring! We all have different tastes and it's not anyone's place to sneer or make snide comments. I was expecting something totally outrageous, but it's absolutely fine. I don't get the drama and over the top reactions, it's a very classic, beautiful engagement ring. Ignore them.

I agree with one of the very first posters... the only correct response to anyone showing you their engagement ring is "congratulations, what a beautiful ring"

Your ring is beautiful- tell all those with something to say to get a life.

I don’t even think you could get away with saying “well it’s a Pragnell but I had it customised” as a face saver or something…

OP you know some f-ing odd people. I can't imagine any of my friends or workmates saying anything judgy at all about someone's ring (regardless of what they thought of it). Did they never grow out of being 13?

Whatever anyone thinks of your ring, it's bloody rude to give anything other than a flattering comment. Everyone knows that.
No one should be taking the piss out of it, whoever they are. If they do, they're not a true friend.

It’s a nice ring and even if it wasn’t, people shouldn’t be rude about it. I

But you’re being disingenuous to say that a 5 carat diamond solitaire, which would have cost £100K-150K, is ‘in no way ostentatious’. You know full well that it’s a massive, statement ring that is intended to be noticed and lets everyone know the wearer has a lot of money.

There’s nothing wrong with that at all, and I’m pleased you’re lucky enough have a ring (and more importantly a fiancé!) that you really love. But don’t try and suggest that it isn’t a big, ostentatious and bold piece of jewellery. The Liz Taylor comparison is neither unfair nor insulting - it’s spot on; she’d have loved it. Liz Taylor was an absolute legend of a woman, so do what she did and just own your style and enjoy it.

Congratulations on your engagement! It's a beautiful ring. As others have said, they are jealous which is sad but it says it all about them.

if you like it and love him and want to be engaged sod them all. Ill mannered at best downright catty at worst.

It does @mulberrybeige has lovely long slim fingers.

Er no, the Elizabeth Taylor comparison isn't "spot on" at all - it's snarky. ET's engagement ring from Richard Burton was 33 carats and sold for almost $9m after her death - there's no comparison at all.