Am I being a stroppy princess?

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I’m very happy to be told IABU…

I went through a divorce 4 years ago. Following divorce, I sold my large 5bed family home (very sad) downsized and bought a small new build on my own (with my children). It’s lovely, just on the small side.

Since then, I have climbed the career ladder and I earn very very well. I can afford the mortgage easily now and things are comfortable.

My partner (of 3 years) moved in with me, 18 months ago to my house and sold his. He pays a good contribution towards bills etc (I have no complaints on this, he’s very lovely, generous, buys food etc)

We are all blissfully living happily together. However I do feel a bit squashed in here and have the desire to move in 2-3 years, pool our finances and buy something together. (He also has a son, so there are 5 of us living together in this small new build house)

It’s a nice house, but it feels very busy and gets messy quickly with 3 children.

Partner has no desire to move house. But I feel disappointed that 5 years ago I was living in a very comfortable 5 bedroom with lots of space and garden and now I feel so squashed into a 3 bed new build.

We could get a joined mortgage and easily afford something bigger. But he says he doesn’t want to move again and it’s comfortable here.
I feel like I am being a bit of a princess… This house size wise was fine with myself and two kids. But now there are 5 of us… it fees claustrophobic.

AIBU to say that we need to consider moving. Not urgently, but in the next couple of years at least?

Am I being a stroppy princess?
Perhaps he just doesn’t see a future with me so doesn’t want to tie himself in? (I don’t think this is the case…)

I think you need to think about what is best for you and your children. This is their only childhood and it could be uncomfortable living with a man and his son in their house.
At this time in their life you might want to make your girls your top priority.
Have your boyfriend and move out. It sounds like a sweet deal for him but no so much for you and your family.
Still date him, but he needs to get his own place to live. Where did he live before he met you?

I imagine this has well and truly gone down the tubes by now

My partner (of 3 years) moved in with me, 18 months ago to my house and sold his.

Where is the money from his house sale?

This is the most relevant point. Where is the proceeds from selling his property? He's got a nice little pot of savings to my way of thinking. It's not a financially balanced relationship. He's not paying rent or a mortgage so he's in a very good position financially. You are supporting him and his child to their benefit

You are being a stroppy princess because you won’t listen to what people are saying.
You boast about your high income but seem unwilling to acknowledge that you are being taken advantage of.

What do your girls think of the situation? Are they blissfully happy or is it just you?