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Person with MH problems should not be better off no working

581 replies

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 16:54

Just that really. Someone working a minimum wage job full-time should not be worse off than someone not working due to mental health problems and claiming benefits.
I know several people in this situation claiming UC for housing benefit, council tax, ESA, disability top up and PIP. They all have no work record and few qualifications so would probably only get a minimum wage job. But their income would reduce. So they have a financial incentive not to recover.

OP posts:
Riaanna · 13/04/2025 17:31

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 17:04

These are friends. Mental health problems are common you know.

I suspect your friends are depressed and they definitely deserve a high income.

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 17:31

TempestTost · 13/04/2025 17:29

Why are people thinking the OP is saying no one should get disability benefits?

These threads are so frustrating, it's totally reasonable to ask why anyone would have to take a cut in income to work.

And yet inevitably within a few posts people claim that the OP doesn't believe in MH issues, thinks no one should get benefits, that benefits should leave them in abject poverty, and that anyone with MH issues can work. None of which has been suggested.

Thank you!
I have consistently said I know these friends have mental health problems. I believe they can not currently work. I do not think they should get more income than many people working, or than they would likely get working if their mental health improved.

OP posts:
ARichtGoodDram · 13/04/2025 17:31

Quite often on these threads it's interesting how the UC for housing that someone who cannot work gets is counted as their income that they're free to spend, but the UC for housing someone on minimum wage living in the same area would also get is completely ignored.

Almost like it's convenient...

lazyarse123 · 13/04/2025 17:31

You're looking at it from the wrong perspective. Employers should be made to pay a living wage, not the pretend one we currently have. Jobs offering zero hours or less than 24 hours should be outlawed. It's not that benefits are great more that wages are shit.
My son has just been awarded pip to go with his esa he would much rather work than be like a pp said and stay awake all night with the dark suicidal thoughts he has.
He had a dog (which his sister pays the upkeep for incase you were thinking he shouldn't use his benefits to pay for company) unfortunately she had to be put to sleep on Thursday so I have been more stressed than usual worrying about him. But you carry on begrudging him an income.
Unless you have suffered from or witnessed genuine ill mental health you have no fucking clue.

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 13/04/2025 17:31

K8Davidson · 13/04/2025 17:19

People claiming benefits like ESA will have their National Insurance stamps towards their state pension. They can also pay into a SIPP for their retirement, but I’m not sure how common it is for someone on benefits to pay into a SIPP?

For the record, I claim ESA due to my disabilities. I know that my National Insurance stamps are paid and I pay into my SIPP each month because I don’t know when I’ll be well enough to work again. I have a old workplace pension too.

I’ll be back in work someday, and I’ll be able to merge my old workplace pension with whichever pension plan I’ll be contributing to at that time.

And what will the state pension be worth in 15-25 years?

Youcancheck · 13/04/2025 17:31

Maitri108 · 13/04/2025 17:29

What are the details of their circumstances?

Disabilities? How they are affected. What benefits are they on? How much do they get?

Yes I’d be interested to know this too as clearly OP has scrutinised the finances and circumstances of all 3 ‘friends’ before posting about this.

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 17:31

Riaanna · 13/04/2025 17:31

I suspect your friends are depressed and they definitely deserve a high income.

You are wrong.
And depression is common amongst those working.

OP posts:
TempestTost · 13/04/2025 17:32

SquashedSquid · 13/04/2025 17:28

Really? You have no inference skills whatsoever? How odd.

The OP is implying that mental illness is unworthy of PIP/other benefits, so I am sharing a perspective that it can actually be more debilitating than physical disabilities.

I hope that helps you understand.

You have imagined that, the OP said nothing of the sort.

Do you believe that if a person who has some kind of disability is now starting a job they would like to work at, they should have to consider that it might mean loss of income?

Flytrap01 · 13/04/2025 17:32

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 17:28

Why does it have to be a well paid job? Lots of people work minimum wage jobs.

and how many companies will hire you if your honest and say you have mental health issues and may require time off etc

PandoraSox · 13/04/2025 17:33

Oh God, please make these threads stop.

BloodandGlitter · 13/04/2025 17:33

OP "suggested" that people with mental health issues don't want to get better because of the money. I don't see how that is defendable in any way at all. We're all just here happily suffering and unable to function like a normal person because the money is so good apparently.

Maitri108 · 13/04/2025 17:33

Youcancheck · 13/04/2025 17:31

Yes I’d be interested to know this too as clearly OP has scrutinised the finances and circumstances of all 3 ‘friends’ before posting about this.

I'm always surprised at how people know the exact circumstances of their neighbours and 'friends' disabilities and income.

Flytrap01 · 13/04/2025 17:33

lazyarse123 · 13/04/2025 17:31

You're looking at it from the wrong perspective. Employers should be made to pay a living wage, not the pretend one we currently have. Jobs offering zero hours or less than 24 hours should be outlawed. It's not that benefits are great more that wages are shit.
My son has just been awarded pip to go with his esa he would much rather work than be like a pp said and stay awake all night with the dark suicidal thoughts he has.
He had a dog (which his sister pays the upkeep for incase you were thinking he shouldn't use his benefits to pay for company) unfortunately she had to be put to sleep on Thursday so I have been more stressed than usual worrying about him. But you carry on begrudging him an income.
Unless you have suffered from or witnessed genuine ill mental health you have no fucking clue.

my condolences to the dog

Flytrap01 · 13/04/2025 17:34

PandoraSox · 13/04/2025 17:33

Oh God, please make these threads stop.

or please god make people demand better pay from companies

SquashedSquid · 13/04/2025 17:34

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 17:29

@SquashedSquid except I said nothing of the sort.

I didn't say you did. I said you implied it.

Why did you create a goady, ableist thread, when there are so many already in existence? It's getting very tedious.

Hwi · 13/04/2025 17:34

You are on the wrong forum to post this - you will get flamed for stating the obvious, I am afraid.

Miley23 · 13/04/2025 17:34

TempestTost · 13/04/2025 17:32

You have imagined that, the OP said nothing of the sort.

Do you believe that if a person who has some kind of disability is now starting a job they would like to work at, they should have to consider that it might mean loss of income?

They don't have to consider this though. Someone on UC with LCWRA can work and not lose that LCWRA, they are also likely to benefit from the work allowance when they have LCW or LCWRA in place. Someone on ESA who wants to try working can do so without losing any benefits as long as it's within the permitted work earnings limit.

Mumble12 · 13/04/2025 17:34

TempestTost · 13/04/2025 17:21

So you think people who are working should be receiving so little they would be better off not to work?

No one who is able to work is better off not working. They dont just hand out PIP to anyone? And UC is heavily capped for those that don’t earn a minimum amount.

The minimum wage should be higher. Absolutely. The government don’t even consider it a living wage which is why you can claim UC top ups.

But the two aren’t mutually exclusive. I still don’t think we should make our disabled live a life of poverty.

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 17:34

@lazyarse123 I am sorry to hear about your son.
But you have not read the thread. I DO have mental health issues well managed by medication. I know what it can be like. I also have a physical disability. I am glad my mental health issues are better managed.

I think people with mental health issues who can not work should get benefits. I just do not think they should get more than someone working full time on national minimum wage.

OP posts:
Flytrap01 · 13/04/2025 17:35

Hwi · 13/04/2025 17:34

You are on the wrong forum to post this - you will get flamed for stating the obvious, I am afraid.

what about companies stop taking the piss and actually pay better wages

Viviennemary · 13/04/2025 17:35

YourTidyScroller · 13/04/2025 16:54

Just that really. Someone working a minimum wage job full-time should not be worse off than someone not working due to mental health problems and claiming benefits.
I know several people in this situation claiming UC for housing benefit, council tax, ESA, disability top up and PIP. They all have no work record and few qualifications so would probably only get a minimum wage job. But their income would reduce. So they have a financial incentive not to recover.

Yes. Nobody should get more in benefits than a minimum wage job pays.

Livelovebehappy · 13/04/2025 17:35

I also think it’s dependent on the type of MH. Ie, obviously someone with schizophrenia or similar severe MH issues, absolutely cannot work, and should receive financial help. But MH issues which identify as social anxiety or stress should have to seek therapy and follow that therapy, which means confronting your problems and getting help for it. Too many people who say they have social anxiety are not willing to get the help offered, and prefer to stay home claiming benefits, because that’s the easy option.

TempestTost · 13/04/2025 17:36

BloodandGlitter · 13/04/2025 17:33

OP "suggested" that people with mental health issues don't want to get better because of the money. I don't see how that is defendable in any way at all. We're all just here happily suffering and unable to function like a normal person because the money is so good apparently.

I've known people who wanted to take a job but it would mean loss of income. They, reasonably enough, were worried about that loss of income.

So yes, in a way it is a disincentive, especially for people with kids who will be affected.

Flytrap01 · 13/04/2025 17:36

Viviennemary · 13/04/2025 17:35

Yes. Nobody should get more in benefits than a minimum wage job pays.

then tell companies to do better and pay better,

Wishyouwerehere50 · 13/04/2025 17:36

TempestTost · 13/04/2025 17:26

What does this have to do with the question in the OP?

It's relevant because we all know very well it's another goading thread with a very clear sentiment regarding ' lazy benefit sponges '.