Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

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We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

It doesn't stop. But that doesn't mean if people feel OP shouldn't post about it that they shouldn't say it. There are enough posts on this thread to show that people do feel strongly about this subject and that a little reading of the room on the OP's part wouldn't go amiss. I just find it interesting as to why the commenter's feelings and their right to express them don't seem as valid as the OP's feelings and her right to express it.

I get your point. The difference here is that OP invited the comments she has received by asking in her first post if she needed "a reality check".

The whole thread is inviting arguments and envy which is why some posters have questioned if it's real.

Posts about houses, kids etc usually have an actual problem people are asking advice for.
This one didn't.

So do you then think it would also be reasonable for people to be jumped on for some of the example I mentioned.

Op " I am exhausted. I have a newborn who just won't sleep, and 3 older children so I can't sleep when they do

Other posters "I can't have children. Read the room. You don't know how lucky you are. I can't even have 1 child"

Or

Op " DH and I can't choose between house A and house B (both of which cost 750k. I have seen this plenty of times on here). What would you go for?

Other posters" I will never be able to buy my own home. How cuntish of you to post about your lavish new home when some of us can't even get on the ladder"

For transparency I personally will never own my own home for various reasons, namely bad luck in some parts of my life. I still wouldn't berate the person in the second example even though that would be my absolute dream.

That's a fair point with the reality check comment. The op is in a very fortunate position and shouldn't have gone to her mil. I just don't think she deserves the absolute roasting she has received from lots of others.

This is the type of post that really begs for some level of emotional intelligence. I can't belive such simplistic and ingenuous thinking. But anyway, there have been posts of situations between friends where one is going on about her pregnancy or newborn ,and the other friend feels she cannot handle it. And readers generally have empathy for the OP's feelings. The thing hers is that you are trying to shut down readers' expression of their feelings even though OP explicitly asked for in put on whether she is being unreasonable, which seems rather odd. Also equating infertility with a 4th or 5th holiday for the year as life's problems that require equal amounts of empathy is odd too.

Now look who is being rude. I am not saying infertility is equal to not going on holiday. My point is where do we stop telling people what they can or cannot post about? We all have things in our lives that trigger us. The op has money. Some don't. Some people post about their children. Some can't have them. We cannot instruct people to not post about things and call them cuntish because their circumstances are more favourable.

The op is sad about not having something she values. Whether you think it's a diamond shoes are too tight situation or not, she is entitled to post this despite others circumstances. She should be disagreed with of course where others feel that's appropriate but not insulted and told she should never have posted. A public forum is exactly that.

See? You are entitled to feel that I was rude (even though I wasn't) and express it. So let readers feel what they feel and express themselves. Let's put it in simple language, if readers feel that the OP should not have posted such a problem, let them say so. It doesn't mean OP cannot still post, of course she can. But she should be prepared for the responses she gets. If you don't agree with the response, then say so, as you have. If I don't agree with you disagreeing, them I'm saying so. I hope that was simple enough.

I'd tell him to walk out. Holidays are a must.

My mouth legitimately dropped open when I read your post.

You have no idea how lucky you are.

Why do 11-14 nights again. Sounds like two separate ones a year works better for you - like you say you then have something to look forward to sooner.

Fuck my life 🙄

I have never said "OP you can't post about this!". I was responding to a comment saying we were telling OP she was unreasonable for going abroad. I was pointing at the fact that's not what we're saying. What we're saying is complaining about not having a 5th holiday in the year is insensitive and triggering (I used the word cuntish, bit strong, just love how it sounds 🤣).
So I've never said who should or shouldn't post what. 🤷‍♀️

I work p/t for the NHS so I am currently on 10 days off work, I could have gone away, UK or abroad, but my husband doesn't have half as much holidays as I have! So I am stuck here, now that is unfair!

No you didn't. Others have though

Have to agree with this. And as in another thread she's currently booking up to more than two years in advance, MIL should watch that holiday entitlement too

Well, boo-hoo for you. Poor little princess can't have everything her own way? Our last break was a week touring Scotland in 2010. We can afford UK holidays but DP's mental health issues preclude going anywhere. And now I've spoiled the biggest hanky in the world, crying for your horrid disappointment.

To be fair I book holidays in advance, I have already booked Feb 26 and am eying up July 26 as well

Leave him at home and go on your own

He'd be happy for me to do that and has suggested it. His MH is such I don't think he'd manage alone. Chronic depression and suicidal tendencies mean I wouldn't take the chance.

So for 15 years you haven't left him to go on holiday, he is still as depressed? Never mind a holiday you need a bloody medal

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the cause, lol. But thank you, it can be challenging at times.

I feel like you can't be happy at home OP, to always want to get away from it!

You managed when Covid was on, we all did.

Absolutely you are being unreasonable.
Well, maybe not to think it but to put it out there and sound like a privileged princess and quite possibly like a rich twat to some of us....

Go by yourself?