Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

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We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

I’ve only been on holiday abroad three times in my entire 28 years of life - the last time I went on holiday whether abroad or in this country was when I was 20.

I can’t afford one holiday a year, let alone multiple. Yes people have different financial incomes and priorities but I think it’s pretty snobby to play depressed because you can’t go on holiday more times than you do

But she isn’t exactly sad she can’t do it in a sort of sad but accepted way. She went behind her husband’s back to his employer to hint that he’d be taking more time off despite already booking all his holiday time, and then went as far as to say he’d take it unpaid then. You don’t go to your husband’s employer and do that; doesn’t matter if it is family.

She just wants her own way.

Oh, boo phookin' hoo

OP do you have any depth to your soul - or is this just it?

This is the last day of our first holiday in nine years. My heart bleeds for you 🙄

I've a colleague who also always says she "has to" have something booked to look forward to. I worry about her in that sense, that she seems to find it hard to appreciate and enjoy the present, and find joy in the ordinary humdrum of everyday life -like lots of small pleasures are passing her by. She's perpetually on to the next thing, and, once a holiday or break away is done and dusted, she really doesn't hang about or dwell on it. It's as if she resets to zero as soon as its over and doesn't have the capacity to bask in the pleasant after-glow of the time away and savour the memory for any amount of time. I don't fly for climate reasons, but do holiday in the UK, and find that I feel recharged and replenished for quite a while after my break is over, and the memories and new experiences feel fresh for a long time.

As the new arrangement looks likely to continue, I wonder whether there is anything you can try to help manage your expectations so you don't get the blues before the break you're actually on is even over? Perhaps some mindfulness practice (I know, I know, mindfulness gets a bad rap when done half-heartedly) or gratitude mindset work might give you a new perspective?

Well just look at stats and you will feel better. Only 18 percent of the human population have a foreign holiday each year. Only 52 percent of brits will go on a foreign holiday. Only 6% of the worlds population have been on a plane. So with your one holiday, you are still in a very privilaged few.

Yeah that wasn't good idea, should have been a discussion between the couple then DH could ask parents if he felt it was appropriate to ask.

But the wish itself isn't so far beyond sympathy. We all have things we love doing and wish we could do more!

Wot only 3 more holidays to look forward to this year but none abroad? How awful 🎻

You are indeed deprived, you poor thing.

Had your husband’s employer been someone other than a relative, would you have informed them that you were going to take another holiday? His mother is absolutely right, that it’s not a question of taking unpaid leave; businesses simply cannot operate without the staff to do so.

How would you manage if he had no family business to work in?

this has got to be a wind up, nobody is this entitled

This has to have been posted purely just to wind everyone up right? 😂

Just to clarify I didn’t go behind his back he was there with me when we asked her

I mean this is first first world problems. We don't go abroad even once a year let alone twice. Hope that helps.

My heart is bleeding for you 😆

A yearly week's holiday does us. Yabu.

This is the saddest thing I’ve read all year. However will you cope OP?

Go away on your own for a week.

Wow. People can’t even afford 1 uk holiday smh

You will be flamed on here but I know exactly how you feel.

I prioritise and adore going abroad, my heart most definitely doesn't belong in the UK and when I am away I feel a happiness and contentment I just can't feel in the UK.

When you get used to going away and have the money to do so it does feel a long time if your waiting another year.

I hope you manage to work something out x

Hang on, I just need to find my tiny violin.

Bloody hell that was cheeky to say that to your MIL!

Bloody hell! Entitled or what??

Yeah. YABU.