Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

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We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

It’s a wind up

Is your wallet too small for your fifty quid notes as well Op?

FFS read the current room

Is this a joke post?!

I get it that you’re not having your normal 2 holidays a year but it’s really hard to sympathise when you’re incredibly lucky to get 2 holidays normally.

I'm not surprised you didn't have a vote option, but yeah ybvu.

Nope 🤷🏻‍♀️

If there is no holiday days left then you will just have to wait to go anywhere. The last time we went on "holiday" was 5½ years ago & it was 2 nights in a beachside hotel 1 hour from home. The last time I went abroad was 36 years ago. It might be frustrating to have the money there but not have the time off but you'll manage, you have something to look forward to.

YABVVU, entitled, and a spoilt madam. You're only having 4 holidays this year instead of 5? Get an actual grip.

There are some really shitty replies on this thread.
I can't say that not having a holiday has ever been day/month/year devastating for me. I'vr never been able to take my daughters away within the UK, let alone abroad. So, I can't really get down with OP's sense of 'loss'.
I'm on benefits and the money I receive goes on whatever my DC need, not fucking 'holidays', BUT I can semi-objectively see the absence of a bi-annual foreign holiday could be upsetting to someone if that's what they are used to?
Why is it that people are shot down on MN for having a particular quality of life?
How very dare anyone venture abroad when other members of society are struggling to get by?!

Of all the entitled first world problems to have....this has to be top.
Please get some perspective OP. Maybe spend a week volunteering at a food bank in August instead. It'll do you good.

I completely get it! Holidays are my thing I am so tight day to day but not with holidays and looking forward to them is as much part of the enjoyment. Couldnt you cancel one of the uk trips and do a 3/4 night break in Italy/ Spain? I love a little 3 night away its so easy with minimal packing but get a few days in the sun to recharge.

To be more constructive, can you book a night away (at a weekend) or book some concert /theatre tickets as things to look forward to.

I completely get not having things to look forward to and post holuday blues, (although you do have the short uk breaks booked) so maybe having more frequent , but smaller "events" will help...?

And I would start planning next years holidays if you can’t squeeze one in this year make sure next years plans are extra special

On I'll bite just a little because I'm feeling a bit rough and tired. I'm assuming this was posted as click bait but...
I've not had a holiday for about fifteen years. I'm pretty sure there are more than a few people reading this who are in the same position. Any holiday is a privilege, and you can't expect your DH to just be able to leave the family business for extra days just because you want another holiday.
I think most folks are going to struggle to have a lot of sympathy for you.

I'm with you, @GymBergerac , although I think your first point is probably accurate.
Some people are actually defending her, because they feel she's missing out on her usual lifestyle choices, I think.

Fair enough. I was just trying to empathise - I didn't say others have to share the same view - just that I don't get it as I can see why she feels the way she does. Yes, there's reading the room - but there's plenty of high earners on here so maybe she thought others would be in the same boat. I'm probably naive to consider that people could empathise with the concept (something she usually looks forward to not happening) rather than fixating on why she shouldn't complain (even if it's true). People can still disagree and phrase things kindly.
If that makes me lack intelligence then so be it!

Just take the kids away without your husband

Intelligence and emotional intelligence (the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you) are two different things. And it proves my point rhat you hope people who feel upset by OPs post will express themselves kindly...why? OP expressed what she feels without regulating it as to how others may feel about it, and yet readers should tone down their feelings in response to it?. Feelings goes both ways. I wouldn't call it naive, more like disingenuous. I think most high earners in OPs shoes would understand how it might make others' feel and refrain.

It's not "how dare they go abroad" it's "how insensitive and spoilt it is to moan about it on a public forum". So many people are struggling and suffering, and this kind of posts can be triggering and frankly a bit cuntish.

Looking at things from a business point of view, most people get between 20 and 30 days paid leave a year plus bank holidays. By the time you allow for say 5 days total taken over and above the bank holidays over Christmas & New Year, the odd day off for birthdays, household issues like the plumber coming in, duvet days etc most people end up with a maximum of maybe 10-15 days to have their breaks, so 2-3 weeks. Anything over and above that and tough, you do without. Companies tend to be staffed according to their needs, and being short staffed in a particular role can be a real pain. So though most bosses try to be as flexible with staff as they can be, obviously the business need comes first.

Then look at the work he does. Obviously it depends on his role in the company, but people being off can put a big strain on other staff and in smaller companies potentially affect the bottom line. If he works on the financial side maybe bills are getting paid late, work is invoiced late etc which impacts cash flow. If he works in a customer facing role, maybe customers have complained he's never around & taken business elsewhere, or problems haven't been resolved. Or important work has been delayed in the past because he isn't there to sign off on stuff. Who has to cover for him when he is off?

I wouldn't be surprised if your MiL has decided that it's finally time to give your DH a wake up call as to how a business owner should behave, because presumably he will be taking over when his parents retire.

I don't begrudge anyone holidays or their lifestyle but I do wonder at the thought process behind posting this type of thread in the first place.
Unless you were posting it for a reality check?

I haven't had an abroad holiday since 2019 and probably won't be getting a decent holiday this year either.
Does that help?

Bluntly, OP, if you can only tolerate your day to day life by continually counting down to your next holiday, there’s something wrong with your day to day life. Maybe channel energy into making some changes.

Oh come off it. It is exactly that. A public forum. There will always be things that people find triggering, annoying, outrageous or just silly. You just ignore those. When I was skint I simply would not have clicked on the holiday threads because they would not have been relevant or interesting to me. I certainly would not have gone on them to berate the op for having a different life to mine

What is next. Invading style and beauty to have a go at those wanting a new dress or a once in a lifetime handbag? Where exactly does this stop?

If OP posts on a public forum why shouldn't readers express their views that OP is BU. It is an AIBU after all? It is incongruous that you berate people for expressing their feelings in response, but defend OP for expressing hers.

You can disagree of course. That's what a public forum is all about. But people are saying the op shouldn't be posting about it at all due to col. That it's "cuntish" because she is not considering people who are struggling. But you can apply that 'logic' elsewhere then too. Can't post about your children as some people are infertile. Can't post about buying a home as some people are homeless. Where does it stop?

Talk about first world problems. My heart bleeds.