Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

[Lifestooshort1542]

We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

It's up to your husband and his employer aka his family, I think.

Bloody hell Princess, are your diamond shoes too tight as well?!

Yes you are being massively unreasonable and I can’t believe you had that conversation with your MIL.

YABU

Seriously?

This seems precision engineered to be a wind-up post, but to answer your post in good faith: YABU

If it's what you are used to and something you look forward to, then I imagine it will be 'hard'.
Good on his Mum for standing her ground.

How about you go on holiday by yourself? Then your DH can keep working.

Haven't been on an "abroad" holiday in 8 years and won't be going this year, either...Yes, it's possible not to go without dying.

It’s disappointing but is also very much a first world problem OP! We’re not getting away this year at all, as we are skint after a very big holiday last year, and a load of work on our house. I’d love to go away on holiday, but some years, something has to give and you can’t do everything! Sounds like your ILs are of a similar mindset.

Will you be able to take the leave? Or is that not a factor for you?..

You're going to get quite a few nearly comments on this I think. We haven't had an abroad holiday for 5 years and won't be having a proper one ever again due to both of us being immunocompromised and not feeling it safe to fly. We have no idea when we will be able to take a UK break due to family circumstances. We are still waiting to have a fabulous honeymoon - we were married in 2016.

We are in the very lucky position to be able to afford a holiday at all - many can't.

Having said that - I do know how you feel, it is really important to me to have something to look forward to - my things to look forward to are just a lot smaller than yours!

Suck it up buttercup!

Yes, it must be terribly hard for you and poor DH, working a well-paid job for Mummy and Daddy and having to cope with only having 4 holidays instead of the usual 5. I'm sure all the families who can't afford any holidays most years will be heartbroken to hear your story. Get a grip.

How awful not to be able to go on a second foreign holiday on top of your 3 UK breaks.

My heart bleeds for you OP.

You’ve set the bait and you’re going to get bitten @Lifestooshort1542

You are very lucky and sound ungrateful for what you already have.

Many people haven’t had an abroad holiday in years let alone multiple and uk breaks.

count your blessings.

Hang on a sec, let me find my tiny violin OP 🎻

YABU. Spoilt child comes to mind.

Do you work?

I really hope you’re joking about the abroad holidays and being disappointed. One long abroad holiday and 3 uk this year? We’re having a shorter abroad holiday and 2 uk ones and I know we’re a lot luckier than a lot of people.

OP I think you should NOT do 11-14 days next April and have 2 holidays next year instead. Shorter, more frequent holidays seem to work better for you so better to stick to that.

Another option is to do a long weekend in Portugal or somewhere closeish but still sunny over August bank holidays.

Would that help?

Do you work? If he is over his allowance then you must be too. Unless you don’t work, which explains your utter disregard for a business actually needing its employees to show up and do their work.

I'm going to answer in good faith.

Not everyone can afford abroad holidays so the main thing is to have breaks booked not the "abroad" element.

I think your mistake was blowing your holiday wad at Easter. Should have held out til May.

Suggest booking a short break, either a long weekend with DH if he can swing a few extra days, or go with friends. October would be a good time for a city break. I've got older friends who have teen dc they can leave easier so push iff to lanzerote on a cheap deal for 4 days in term time. Do that!

Getting the smallest violin out for you, OP.

YABU, op.

FWIW it sounds like your dh’s parents have had enough of their son taking the proverbial

I think a lot of posters are missing the point, though. You can both be grateful for what you have and feel sad you can't do something you love for another year because you planned something you thought would work but didn't.

This. I’m lucky if I get a day to myself!