Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

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We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

I get why you love the holidays. If I had a bit more disposable income, I'd be off all over the place too. It's nice to be physically removed from all aspects of work, so all you can do is relax and there is nothing as lovely as a warm beach, a kindle and good food and drink.

Just take the kids away yourself on a package holiday. It will be fun!

You are in an extremely fortunate position - why do you need something booked go look forward to do you not still have the 3 uk breaks to look forward to?? Not many employers would be happy that an employee was already over their hol allowance and their partner is hinting they might take further time off

She's come to Mumsnet to ask if this is a valid thing to complain about and it isn't.

We went to Marrakesh in 2019 and since then have been abroad once, to Portugal in May 2023 with our youngest. Just DH and I managed to get a weekend break in the Lake District in for our anniversary last year. This year we've got a long weekend in Cornwall with both kids and a few days in Lapland over Christmas. We feel very bloody lucky to be having so many holidays, considering the difficulties many families are having just to pay for the essentials.

I would love to spend several weeks a year holidaying abroad, I'm sure we all have a lovely sense of peace. It's not unique or special to really like being on holiday. It's insanely out of touch to say you "prioritise" holidays, as if the rest of us are spending our money on designer clothes rather than food, mortgage, bills.

It's not wrong to have enough money to have a lot of holidays. Complaining because you've only got 4 rather than 5 this year is though.

I completely agree she will get flamed, I personally would be a bit gutted to only go away once a year (because I don't do much other than travel) but I wouldn't ask a load of strangers if it's reasonable because I know the backlash I would get.

I just hate how angry everyone is, so quick to jump on people, we all know fine well if it was a friend in real life we would just chuckle at her and tell her to give her head a wobble. Online people are fuming 🙄

That's online discussion for you! 🙂

You'll get a lot of posts from people who can't afford to go abroad on holiday. Personally, I'd feel the same as you, abroad or not, I need 2 long-ish holidays. I can't switch off in a long weekend, I'd need another week in August too.

But working for the family business will never give you that much leave. I know, my parents have their own business and cannot take more than 2 weeks a year. I prefer being an employee in a big company I don't give much of a shit about so I can have my 25 days a year.

My god, the venom on this thread! And the assumptions? Just awful.
We have multiple foreign holidays per year and yes, I’d be disappointed if we could only go once. Does that mean I don’t realise I’m fortunate? No, of course not, but I am allowed to be disappointed. Does it really have to be a race to the bottom?
We had many, many years when any kind of holiday was unattainable. We have inherited nothing, been given nothing, both state educated, and we’ve both worked our arses off to get where we are. I understand you op, but the responses on here show exactly why I keep my private life very private.

Yabu

Peak MN. The rest of the country haven't got a pot to piss in anymore.

So out of touch.

Sounds like you already have plenty of holidays to look forward to.
I think YABU and if your DH didn't work for family then by the sounds of it he wouldn't be having all the holiday time he currently has with you as you say he has already gone over the number of days he's allowed. Would he really ask another employer for more time off and is it because it's family he felt able to? Also remember extra days off are taken as unpaid in the real world.

Perfectly sumed up xx

I wouldn't be happy with only one foreign holiday in a year, so YANBU for that. We are used to 4/5.

I can't decide if this post is a wind-up or not, so I'll leave it there.

Must be a wind up

Only 52 percent of brits will go on a foreign holiday.

To be fair, some of the remaining 48% choose not to. I hate going abroad for holidays.

Bloody hell. Get a reality check OP. Who on earth needs 3 UK breaks? If you’re so desperate for another abroad holiday then just cancel one.

Perhaps you could start a GoFundMe?

Diddums

Why don't you change one of your THREE UK breaks to an abroad one.

Out the box thinking must be tricky on your high horse.

Did a search. Op has only posted a couple of other thread recent, one almost as likely to cause a bun fight about an ND child. And before then hadn’t posted since 2020. What a way to make a comeback.

Could you go abroad on your own or with friends later in the year?

I think in your position I'd be reflecting on what's so unbearable about my day to day life life that I always have to have the next escape lined up?

I like holidays but they're a nice bonus. I would still be happy without them because my day to day life is fulfilling. It's nice to get away, but I don't need to leave my life, because it's basically pretty good as it is.

If you are feeling this down about waiting a year to go abroad (which really isn't long at all - especially when you have THREE more holidays booked between now and then!)... then what's wrong with your day to day life that needs changing?

I was initially surprised by the responses, though I do understand people will think you sound entitled.

However, I get what you mean. As someone who loves travel and almost lives to travel, I get the feeling of wanting more things planned abroad. It’s exciting. At least you have learnt for next time. I usually go away for 14-16 days and it’s sad to think I have to wait another year. Though this year I have three international trips and it does feel great to have it in the calendar.

Not everyone is the same, some people couldn’t care less about being in a different country, but if you do, it’s almost addictive and we are lucky to have the money/savings to do it!

Definitely don’t agree that day to day life must be missing something to want to be abroad. You obviously haven’t sat on the edge of the Grand Canyon or drifted in a hot air balloon in Capadoccia 😅

@butterflycr LOL. People like a treat and something to look forward to. Just because I look forward to my chocolate mousse tonight doesn't mean the chicken dinner is bad. But the chocolate dessert is a treat. Something different, sweet, that I can't have for breakfast lunch and dinner.

Same with holidays. I like variety. I like stuff to do. Different places to see and go. Day to day stability and routine is fine but then when I get annual leave I want to do something with it.

Just because someone loves a good holiday and loves having something to look forward to, doesn't mean they're unhappy.

Entitled or what? They have a business to run, suck it up buttercup!

Hahahahah … we haven’t been abroad for 25 years, come to think of it we’ve only been ‘away’ on uk breaks a couple of times in that time too! We are lucky that we live in a lovely part of the country so the fact that ‘proper’ holidays are just too expensive for is fine by us, we enjoy the time together closer to home.

Each to their own and all that, but I think the OP will survive till next year.