To ask how often you’re complimented on your looks

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In particular by people you've just met. Have been out with a very pretty friend who has had men fawning over her/complimenting her whilst I was just ignored as usual. I don't think my physical appearance has ever been complimented by a stranger. Feeling a bit crap. Does this happen to other people?

I think I can count on one hand the number of compliments from strangers I’ve ever had about my looks, including when being chatted up.

I get compliments on my style / clothes fairly often.

I like being complimented on what I am wearing but I don’t think I would like people regularly commenting on my looks. I don’t need other people passing judgement on what I look like, favourably or unfavourably.

Every day by my husband. My best friend regularly says nice things too x

When I was a dress size smaller - loads. Now a bit chunkier, rarely.

I was recently telling a male friend about a man I really fancy but who has zero interest in me, and he said he was surprised as I'm an intelligent, good-looking woman and he imagined I'd be quite a catch. Forgive me for repeating it here but I'm overweight and in my 60s, the friend is late 40s and it's my first compliment in at least 20 years! Pity it wasn't from the man I fancied but for about 5 minutes I felt attractive again.

I hope someone surprises you with a lovely comment soon, OP.

Used to be all the time, now barely ever after turning 40 and having a child!

It’s usually women complimenting women in bars and clubs these days!

If you want to be complimented, go to the ladies’ loos at a club and touch up your hair/make up in the mirror.

Not going to lie when I make an effort I get complimented a lot. But I really try to look after myself and go to the gym a lot. Am 45

When I was a teenager I was ugly with tons of acne. People were mean about my looks.

Late teens and onward people started being nice to me and I was approached to model. From then on I’ve definitely benefited from pretty privilege and get compliments often.

Having been bullied for being ugly I still carry that shame with me. Generally I feel good in my own skin but when I get super stressed my body dysmorphia goes through the roof.

Occasionally will get complimented on my clothes. My DD is very pretty and it’s eye opening the experience she has. People regularly stop her in the street or come over to tell her how beautiful she is. Often more female than male giving her the compliments but I see men looking at her everywhere she goes.
I have never had that and it blows my mind how different her experience is.

The only people I have EVER garnered random "compliments" from were men who were just trying to get into my knickers. So not genuine compliments, just manipulation.

A PP said: I don’t need other people passing judgement on what I look like, favourably or unfavourably.

I agree with this. Am British but live in a very left-wing American city, and over here it's not really the done thing anymore to pass comment on anyone's exterior. Only if you're close to the person. You might compliment an item of clothing, but only if you're friends. It's a tricky area, and it's generally understood now that no one should be saying anything about others' appearances.

JFC. I hope you told them that beauty is only skin-deep but ugly inside goes all the way through.

That's an odd reaction; the PP works in the beauty industry and presumably her clients want to know what products she uses. People who work in the industry do tend to make the most of what they have and to look good, since they have access to all the products and the incentive to use them regularly. I worked in a dept store as a student and the women in the beauty dept all had amazing skin and well-applied makeup. They were all ages and looked great.

Awww, your DS sounds super-sweet!

Ugh, so the male sex hasn't moved on from leering at young females? That's disappointing. It was rife from when my friends and I were about 14 in the late Eighties. I'd hoped we'd have moved on from that.

Why post that if it made you cringe?

Not often now I am 50 but I really don’t mind and feel better about myself now I am not judged on my looks so much

I’m late 40s. At home, pretty much everyday by my DH 🥰Occasionally by friends, never by strangers.
But we travel quite a bit and I have found that Americans in particular are far more generous with compliments. Just returned from a trip which included one American chap we met literally shouting “you look so fucking hot” at me from about 20 feet away. I think there must have been drink in involved 🤣🤣🤣 I was with my DH, he was with his wife - that is definitely not a British thing!
Other comments on my legs, hair, clothes etc from both men and women - always American.

Weirdly, I’m 50 and still get complimented a lot on my appearance.
In the past week I’ve had:
”I’m not surprised, an attractive blonde woman like you…”
”You look like you are from OK Magazine” (compliment?)
”Your blue eyes are unreal, in fact the whole thing is unfair”

The last two were from women,

I’m very smiley, have my own style. Interested in people, I don’t think it’s that I’m pretty, I think I’m engaging, bit Labrador level enthusiasm

Do you mean apart from when l look in the mirror 😀?

I got told 'I love your jumper' SIX times yesterday! Work colleagues and complete strangers in shops. Thats a record. But that's also my clothes, not me.

Apart from that, rarely, except by DH. And a work colleague who goes on about my 'lovely thick hair' but that's only because she's worried about hers thinning.

I have, however, had random people (mostly men) tell me I'm not attractive.

Up until becoming pregnant, I am occasionally hit on by men when just going about my life. However, it makes me really uncomfortable as it’s much older, creepier men that say quite inappropriate things.

Last weekend I was at a work event, where I didn’t know many people and several people came up to me and said some form of, you’re beautiful / stunning and a unique look.

Which was lovely to receive tbh! I don’t make much effort with myself, but have reached a place I’m very comfortable being me, which I think makes a massive difference - if you feel confident you look it.

oh and I’m 44 (no Botox or anything) 5’6, 80kg and a size 14 so weight & age clearly isn’t a factor!

When I was younger I would get more specific comments about facial beauty. Now in mid 50s the comments have moved to more general comments on the overall look. Get them about once a week.

From DH - every day, I also tell him how gorgeous he is every day - can’t believe my luck sometimes when I look at him.

All the time, I’m fat and I really don’t see it, I hate being on teams calls on camera. Won’t have photo taken ect. When my husband met me 25 yrs ago he said I was dangerous because I talk to anyone! I just say thank you ( without makeup I think I look male) -