To ask how often you’re complimented on your looks

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In particular by people you've just met. Have been out with a very pretty friend who has had men fawning over her/complimenting her whilst I was just ignored as usual. I don't think my physical appearance has ever been complimented by a stranger. Feeling a bit crap. Does this happen to other people?

Very occasionally which is quite nice as I don't consider myself very attractive at all. I'm certainly not photogenic and look awful in pictures. Marginally better in mirrors. Luckily for me I'm not too bothered now I'm well over 40.

This.

Why would you feel like there was something wrong with you for getting lots of compliments?

I miss the compliments, its not nice feeling invisible.

When I was younger I noticed one of my friends got a lot of attention from men regarding her looks, she was beautiful but so were other friends I went out with, so I wondered what was different with her. I clocked that she would give men flirtatious eye contact, which probably gave them the opening to pass comment.

Never, but tbh I look like a mad old bag so it's not very likely. 😆

My son often tells me I'm the most beautiful and kindest mum in the world. The only compliment that makes me really happy. I hate compliments in general because I never know what to say and also lot of them are weird. Like how people would love to see me "fixed up" because I would be so beautiful. Well..thanks. I think I'll just go on being my scruffy old self without makeup and ponytail because I can't be arsed and the only males who count are my dh and sons and they think I'm beautiful the way I am without makeup/botox/duck lips/a brushing/fashionable clothing.

Not by strangers for a good 7-10 years, my DS is very quick with a compliment and usually genuinely observed. I like the pattern on your dress mummy it's pretty, I like your hair today mummy it's looks springy (curly), he is also like a bloodhound and will immediately pick up on a new perfume. It's quite nice!
DH comments if I'm wearing something new or if he can tell I've made an effort even if I'm shattered/feel crap, he also says things like I really like that dress on you, I remember when you wore it when we went to Xy. So maybe that's where DS gets it from.

When I was 38 and most definitely not looking anything special at all, a boy in his late teens (19?) in Asda referred to me as a pretty lady (I can’t remember the sentence but i remember it sounded like a chat up line, which initially took me aback and I thought did I hear right; then when I processed it, I think he was just practicing chat up lines and used I was his first victim 😂 it still baffles me to this day , as I wear a hijab and he was a young white lad(!) I did want to say to him are you taking the piss lol

People tell me I'm pretty fairly regularly, including strangers and I'm nearly 40. It's always been the same since I was a child. A lot less now, but probably once every few months.

I'm mixed raced, with light eyes and people find it fascinating.

Being a beautician doesn't automatically make you beautiful! Most beauticians I've been to are just average women and I often have better skin and nails than they do. The other type of beauticians, are all fake tan, caterpillar brows and a lot of fake "enhancements" going on.

Never. I’ve got a face like a bag of spanners.

Often still (I’m 40). Had one today from a lady in passing. My daughter rolled her eyes 😂

Fairly often. I've had lots of compliments over my lifetime being called beautiful, pretty, sexy, stunning on a regular basis. It's tailing off now that I'm almost 40 but I think I'm also not really putting much effort in these days and I work from home too.

I’m in my 50s and it’s not infrequent but I wear a lot of slightly unconventional clothes so people comment on them

All the time in my 20s - strangers sometimes stopped me in the street to tell me (women as well as men). I suppose it tailed off a bit through my 30s but I was still described as “the pretty one” quite often.

Now, in my mid-40s, fairly rarely I think, unless we count compliments from my DC and my DH! Occasionally from my teen DC’s friends but they are very kind generally, and it’s more than my hair/clothes look nice really. I don’t mind though, it was a lot of my identity when I was young but it isn’t so much now and I feel as if I am taken more seriously generally, and definitely professionally, and I think I look okay “for my age” and that’s okay with me.

I mean, by people I know occasionally. But strangers just approached her? Never seen that with anyone I know.

I'm so curious what these strangers say! 😂 I must not be as pretty as mum says .. this has never happened to me

Not any more. I’ll be honest, I do miss it.

When I was a teenager and perhaps early 20s. Not since! Except my sweet little five year old DS who told me today that I have beautiful knees. 😁

Like a pp said, never

Not sure who all these people are who are constantly telling others they're stunning??

Probably once a week on average.

The posts from @Alwaystryhard are really odd imo. People are answering a question.

I'm not stunning by the way. I think I get compliments because I smile.

My Husband tells me most days, and Friends are very complementary but strangers not so much anymore. I’m aware I get admiring glances but not because I’m beautiful, apparently I’m sexy (CRINGE).

I think most people, rightly, are more cautious talking about how others look now. I find it’s often creepy men that do it to. And women who seem desperate to make friends so it’s like they’re sucking up to you. I have a female relative who seems to look for ways to compliment random women who she passes on the street or sees in the supermarket and it’s very weird and forced.

Literally just a stranger approaching me and commenting in a positive way on my appearance. It does make me feel a bit uncomfortable, especially as I am not one of the beautiful people! Mostly people are just doing it to be nice I guess. I imagine truly beautiful people get it much less as they could look intimidating?

I look fabulous in one of my bathroom mirrors, the woman there is always admiring me

Admittedly the room is painted a very dark colour with vintage type light fitting and bulb, so it’s not a bright light.

I also worry how dusty it is in there, it’s mostly hidden though, so I don’t worry too much .

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