Boyfriend has just blocked me

[Namechange2609]

Oh god help please..

my boyfriend of 7 months has just blocked me and ended our relationship based on the fact that this morning he whatsapped me to go and shut the kitchen window whilst he was in the shower. The message didn’t pop up on my phone (must of been signal). He came into the room to say did you not get my message? I said no and I went onto WhatsApp and his message popped up.

he has blocked me because he thinks I turned my notifications off because I must be speaking to other men. He also gave me the silent treatment all day and night and I had no idea why until a couple of hours ago.

i do not deserve this and it’s absolutely disgusting but obviously I’m hurt and taken back and need some tough love!

It’s ok to ask your partner (with politeness and kindly!) to shut the window if you can’t do it due to being in the shower or something. It’s not ok to ask rudely though or anything else this guy did!

Congratulations on acting on the red flags, @Namechange2609. I am so glad for you that you are out of it. Good luck for the future.

Different situation because this is my mother in law but there is often little up with the requests she makes of me or the way she asks them, so 90% of the time I say yes. It's the way she acts when I say 'no' to somethin (always politely and for good reason). She isn't abusive as she knows that would be too obvious but she's passive aggressive, she sulks, she goes around getting suspicious of my 'excuses' and is hell bent on catching me out lying or making sure everyone knows how unreasonable I am. You are better off out as its emotionally exhausting. At least his behaviour is less subtle so you're not left doubting yourself.

Absolutely this! Whew - you've definitely dodged a bullet. One person in this relationship is a "cunt", and you know who! RUN!

So glad you're safe, what a favour he did by blocking you that day xx

Fucking hell OP! thank God you listened to your instinct and the advice of the lovely ladies here.

I hope he is blocked on every single form of SM you have now.

He has seriously done you a favour.

Now take it, run with it and don't look back. The right person for you will appear for you in the future, this isn't it. If you don't leave this person now, he will only make it more difficult to leave him in the future. I know what these manipulative men are like.

Focus on you, making yourself happy and your children. Sometimes it better to be a bit lonely than be with someone who you have to walk in egg shells around.

No contact at all is the only way with people like this, don't feed into anything communication they try to start with you.

I will keep my fingers crossed you have the strength to stay away from this person.

Keep well clear and don't hesitate to go to the Police if after being unsuccessful at wheedling his way back in he starts to be a nuisance. Document everything so it's all ready to handover to them if necessary.

Depressingly your update isn't a huge surprise from someone showing such a lack of very basic respect. Imagine how many more (women) would have the impetus to not get tangled with someone if they had all the information!

Make sure your family and friends are aware of the risk he poses, keep safe and sensible just in case he chooses to take some form of twisted action. Well done 👏

Run, run and then run a bit farther. And block him permanently.

You need to move on. He is a piece of shit.

So many people who don't rtft or at least look at the dates.

The OP said she needed some 'tough love' in her original post! Calm down.

Calm down? You choose to rock up to a 5 week old thread, not bother to read where OP is at in all of this, but instead just hurl vile comments at her? 🙄🙄🙄

*EX-boyfriend. Whatever you do, do not let him back in! I definitely recommend getting some therapy in order to avoid falling into the same patterns again.

That's good really. He sounds awful.

Well done OP for getting out.
He sounds remarkably like my EXH and to my shame I was married to him for 30 years. Very similar behaviour, issued instructions over whatsapp from the pub, woe betide me if I took to long to answer, days and days of silent treatment if I said something in the wrong tone, he was always the victim etc etc
My adult DDs helped me to get out, and within 24 hours of me leaving he set fire to the family home and emptied our account which I had just paid the money from my late mum's estate, to punish me. He was sent to prison for arson and there is now a 15 year injunction protecting me and youngest DD.
As soon as he was released from prison (while he was living in the probation hostel) he got a new girlfriend. As he was still on licence at the time, she got a full Clare's Law disclosure. She still stayed with him anyway and I worried for months about her teenage DDs.
He's very manipulative and if you met him you would probably think he was the nicest guy. He posts all over social media about how he is a victim of parental alienation now.
The reason I'm telling you this is how it can escalate very quickly, CLare's law is very powerful, and should be used by anyone with doubts over a new relationship.

Hahaha what an insecure little tool. No great loss op!

Do wish people would read the updates! 🙄

Anyway, well done OP. Getting that Claire’s Law disclosure must’ve been a horrible shock (or perhaps not…)

You take care, look after yourself & DC, and call 999 if he shows up, and report any forms of communication (harassment) I know you’ve blocked him, but my abusive ex was able to email me, leave voicemails and write a physical letter…that was a few years ago, so maybe all phone companies and email providers have addressed that issue now….
Did you say if you’ve installed a ring doorbell? An absolute must, I’d say.

Lots of Love ♥️

Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction. Lucky escape!

Oh god this turned my stomach and gave me flashbacks.

You are right please don't take him back when he comes crawling because he will and it will happen again and the cycle is endless.
He knows your with your children and wants to make you miserable during that time, it will happen every time the focus is off him.

He's a narcissist just as my ex was.

He’s a fruit that needs to be put back in his basket and in this case he put himself back in the fruit basket so you didn’t have to.

Run & find someone normal. A shock to be ghosted and cruel but better now than with a child or married.

No offense, but everyone here is here for entertainment - its literally what the forums are for.

Why are you here?

Interesting theory I'm here for information and interesting threads not for entertainment.
No one in their right mind would be on a thread about abuse for entertainment apart from you obviously.