Boyfriend has just blocked me

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Oh god help please..

my boyfriend of 7 months has just blocked me and ended our relationship based on the fact that this morning he whatsapped me to go and shut the kitchen window whilst he was in the shower. The message didn’t pop up on my phone (must of been signal). He came into the room to say did you not get my message? I said no and I went onto WhatsApp and his message popped up.

he has blocked me because he thinks I turned my notifications off because I must be speaking to other men. He also gave me the silent treatment all day and night and I had no idea why until a couple of hours ago.

i do not deserve this and it’s absolutely disgusting but obviously I’m hurt and taken back and need some tough love!

Oh OP sounds like you have made 100% the right decision, well done for being strong

Are you able to elaborate OP or would that be too outing?

Well done to you for walking away as soon as this behaviour started. I stayed in a relationship like this for 10 years and it almost destroyed me.
you will meet someone who deserves you x

My God, OP, even without the Clare's Law application, it sounds like you've dodged a serious bullet there! Were it not for his age, and the fact that I KNOW that my abusive ex boyfriend (from back in my late teens/early 20s) is definitely in a LTR, I would have thought it was him. Nasty bit of work. Well done for getting out of the relationship quickly.

Stay safe xx

Well done x

Well, that makes it even more of a relief that you’re through with him, but at the same time why look it up after you’ve parted ways?

You should leave this behind and forget about even thinking about him, not looking further into his background and keeping him in your mind.

Dont give him any more headspace!

So glad you got out OP....I wish my DD would, she has a dreadful life.

Did you do the Clare's Law as you were missing the good bits and second guessing your decision?

Either way I'm really glad it has given you the information you need OP.

I did it because I needed the clarity he’s a bad man in moments of weakness. I’m not allowed to disclose information and I wouldn’t for my safety but he’s a dangerous man and has markers against his name for the most serious form of DV.

That’s sexual assault/ rape .
You have saved yourself years of misery and stopped. A man from breaking you .
Ask many women on here how they have such good advice sadly they too went through it .
Yours sounds like my ex .

Never doubt yourself @Namechange2609!
Glad you got the information you needed, but sorry you had to go through that.
Stay safe and stay strong 💐

Op, I’m sorry. I didn’t realise this was an old thread.

with best wishes to you for the happy future you deserve. 💐

That must have been such a fright to read, so pleased you are out and safe.

Because society is so fragmented nowadays you often don't have the setting of knowing the other's family and friends when you meet someone.

This

I once dated a bloke who live 40 miles away (neither of us drive,i worked and he was on the dole)

Every single second we where apart,I was shagging someone else

He'd randomly phone me and if I didn't answer in 2 rings,I was fucking someone else (if I did answer in 2 rings,he'd give it half hour and phone back-rince and repeat until it got to the 3rd ring)

He tried to make me 'prove' I was shopping/working/at home with the kids-and then I'd still be a liar

He'd think nothing of catching the bus over to my town and go to where I said I'd be (god help me if I wasnt) and follow me around and still accuse me of shagging about (even though he had no proof)

I once had a week of shit because I spoke to the window cleaner

All backed up by his family who where convinced I was doing whatever he said I was

I managed to break free and hes tried everything he could to blacken my name

And it turned out,it wasn't me shagging about-in 3 years,he'd fucked over 20 women and got two pregnant

3 years of hell, but it was me humping any bloke who looked at me

my watsapp is similar its like the phone puts it into power saving mode and its only when i go on the phone that sometimes the messages etc come through

Wow, so glad you're out of it, OP.

He sounds slightly deranged. I don't understand why you need help? Help has just landed in your lap, in the form of a thunderbolt of clarity that your boyfriend is a paranoid, controlling, insecure nutjob and overgrown child and you are better off without him.

Thank your lucky stars you are only seven months in and removing yourself should be easy.

Well done OP. That was a close escape.

On the subject of unreceived Whatsapp messages, for some reason I don't always get WA notifications any more and I only see the message if I open WA to send a message myself. I thought it was something to do with my settings having been accidentally changed, but then someone else said the same thing was happening to them.

What a horrible man. It will take time to recover but you'll do it. Good luck.

He has done you a favour by ending it, he sounds absolutely horrible. Stay single for a bit, OP, and take good care of yourself.

Terrifying that these dangerous men are able to just choose their next victim when one relationship ends. Glad you’re out safe OP, you know to contact the police now if he reappears, report him for harassment straight away if he ever contacts you again.

How chilling op.

• please always remember that a man blowing hot and cold is always a red flag.
• A man who constantly accuses you of cheating may very well be projecting as they’re cheating themselves
• a man who gets you to prove things and doesn’t trust you is laying the foundations of Dv
• a man who gaslights, manipulates and changes the narrative is emotionally abusing you
• a man that calls you names is abusing you

it seems that he was kick starting the abuse cycle. And it started with emotional abuse.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read up on domestic abuse and the signs to be able to spot it in the future. Big well done on you for doing the Claire’s law