To feel miffed with my neighbours request?

[Aliceglass]

I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or unreasonable here. My next door neighbour approached me at the weekend to give me dates of their summer garden parties.

For context, We live in a terrace of modern houses and we all have similar sized gardens, enclosed by neighbouring gardens, back and side.

So my neighbour told me about her planned garden parties over the next few months and there were 3 dates confirmed, 2 tbc.

But, she has specifically asked us that we don’t use our garden during the days of these parties.

I was a little take aback and said that we don’t have any scheduled bbqs or parties on those dates so they will be fine. But she said they didn’t want us to use our garden, AT ALL!
Apparently it will spoil the atmosphere if I was to “pop to the bins and empty my recycling” or if they could hear the washing machine on a spin if I left the back door open!

I did laugh at this stage and say well I can’t promise to not access my garden for the whole day.

She went on to say how her friends are “well to do” and they would expect privacy and not to be interrupted by unnecessary noise.

I got a little frustrated at this point and I asked if she was just letting me know or if the neighbours the other side were also being asked this. She assured me that, yes they were and they confirmed they won’t be using their garden or the gate to their garden at the back so as to not disturb her.

Am I being unreasonable to think that this request is unusually controlling?

Or big bloomers. 😂

I'd be having an impromptu bbq those days, and not even a fancy one, sun lotion stained shorts, cans of cider and disposable barbecues at the ready. If you've got any friends that take it too far drinking then those are the times to invite them over.

I’d be having a bbq with drum n bass turned up loud those dates.

We're absolutely going to need a post-party update to see what happens when you deign to exist in your own garden on the appointed day (personally I'd fill my wheelie bin with water and bathe in it, beer in hand, a la that video that did the rounds a while ago).

Invite an 8 year old lad around who will do it repeatedly

Organise a raucous Cockney music hall singalong for the loudest, most tone deaf people you know in your garden - with plenty of alcohol.

I'm sure they'd be charmed, whilst discussing the opera, their personal fine art collections and the stock market, being drowned out by drunken renditions of "Roll out the barrel!", "Knocking down the Old Kent Road!" and "'Ave a banaaaaaana!"

I know!! It would be my luck that I get this woman as my next door neighbour! And on the subject of garden colour schemes… when we moved in we had a brief discussion about fences. She said our shared fence belongs to us but as she paid a lot of money a few years back to have her garden landscaped, we are welcome to paint our own fence but it has to be black to match her side. She doesn’t want another colour running through spoiling the look of her uber cool zen garden.

haha your neighbour is as mad as a box of frogs. Politely tell her to stick her pineapple on sticks up her arse.

”Don’t be ridiculous” is the only response I’d have given.

Exactly this. I ricochet between wanting to give certain people a shake and thinking it’s all hilarious.

An epidemic of feebleness. 😆

We can sell you a full drum kit! 😇

Just taking up room in our attic (was one of DPs hobbies that fell by the way side)

I 100% would be playing happy hardcore on these days, drinking Stella and swearing loudly

Oh I'd be out there with my least well to do friends (or at least friends willing to act it), DH at the BBQ in a string vest, loud music on, etc, every single time.

well to do. All well to do somebodies off to you know where

Yes you’re invited!! I think you’d get along perfectly with Mrs Bucket!

I think that’s the day to start painting the fence.

I have a three year old going through a gremlin noise phase, if you're interested?

You know the dates- I’d be arranging a bbq every day, and start smoking the meat at 9am.

Wow! More amazing advice! I’m spoilt for choice now as to whose is the best! Keep ‘em coming!

Oh and hire a hot tub!!!

I’m an annoying gobshite, and happy to help if you’re in the Yorkshire area?

No, no, it has to be all the fetish wear!

Unbelievable! Another here who would not pay any attention to her request.

Ooo yes! I reckon she must have a few to be such a pretentious moron!

I'm a reasonable person and a considerate neighbour......but if my neighbour said that to me I would be in my garden all day mowing the grass and pressure washing the patio!!!

and potentially 5x? i promise she would not return the favor. if it was a one off memorial or something i might get it, but she is bonkers.