To feel miffed with my neighbours request?

[Aliceglass]

I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or unreasonable here. My next door neighbour approached me at the weekend to give me dates of their summer garden parties.

For context, We live in a terrace of modern houses and we all have similar sized gardens, enclosed by neighbouring gardens, back and side.

So my neighbour told me about her planned garden parties over the next few months and there were 3 dates confirmed, 2 tbc.

But, she has specifically asked us that we don’t use our garden during the days of these parties.

I was a little take aback and said that we don’t have any scheduled bbqs or parties on those dates so they will be fine. But she said they didn’t want us to use our garden, AT ALL!
Apparently it will spoil the atmosphere if I was to “pop to the bins and empty my recycling” or if they could hear the washing machine on a spin if I left the back door open!

I did laugh at this stage and say well I can’t promise to not access my garden for the whole day.

She went on to say how her friends are “well to do” and they would expect privacy and not to be interrupted by unnecessary noise.

I got a little frustrated at this point and I asked if she was just letting me know or if the neighbours the other side were also being asked this. She assured me that, yes they were and they confirmed they won’t be using their garden or the gate to their garden at the back so as to not disturb her.

Am I being unreasonable to think that this request is unusually controlling?

She needs to go and buy a posher houser in a posher neighbourhood then doesn’t she…..what a twat…xx

Asking you not to jet wash the patio or get out the circular saw might be reasonable but not at all, she's nuts.

how about a nice smokey barbecue or two?

Mown your lawn on those days.

Sounds like it would be a wonderful day to host a childrens’ improvisational music workshop. Get a dozen xylophones, mini trumpets and some saucepan lids, rev them up with sugar and E-numbers and allow them to express themselves all they want. 🎶

This!!! I’d sit out there ALLL day with some music on. Maybe a cheeky bbq

Yessss!!

I'd do something obnoxious, but not in the garden. So you could tell her that you kept to her 'don't go in the garden' and it was just unfortunate that you'd only just had your load of stinky manure delivered/Tarquin had to practice his tuba and violin/Jacinta was rehearsing her voice-recital of spoken-word rap lyrics - all at full volume, but inside the house.

She can't stop you if you're indoors...

Oh I would not be able to resist the wind up!
The paddling pool would be out even if I had to run a hose from the hot water tap!

If she tries it again simply state shame you didn't buy a detached house then!

I had to quickly google a theramin and oh my goodness what a fantastic idea! Extremely creative and I genuinely think I could pull this off!

Is your neighbour Mrs Bucket?!?

This has got to be a wind up - surely no one is that much of an entitled idiot that they expect neighbours to stay inside because they’re having a party. Even as I’m typing this I’m actually laughing at how absurd the request is, and I would have definitely have laughed at her when she mentioned it as I’d assume she was joking.
Does she also want you to make sure your outdoor plants match her colour scheme, or perhaps sell your car because it may not be parked straight enough on the drive.
Maybe she could introduce you as staff, and refer to your house as the servants quarters.
ffs.
Absolute bat shittery at its finest.

Absolutely crazy, use your garden as you please!

Would you like to invite me, your new friend on those days?

I can bring autistic DS, he spent 20minutes chirping in the garden this afternoon. He routinely pretends to be an animal of his choosing, his lion roaring is particularly good. As is his "flying like a dragon". He has a habit of shouting "poo poo i need a poo" when he needs to go, and enjoys an alfresco wee in the garden. He has echolalia so will repeat tunes and sounds repeatedly, we have enjoyed the theme tune to a radio advert for around a year now, though in recent days he's liking the tune to Tom's diner.

My daughter has a real aversion to clothes, if she is anywhere in the vicinity of home the most you will get is pyjamas or a dressing gown. She has various stims, one of which is a bizarre loud slightly creepy laugh.

I can bring a joint, probably borrow my sisters ADHD dog, oh and my friends slightly feral 4yr old. Maybe a paddling pool that's a bit too cold? DS would happily wee over the fence if needed.

We are great fun

Hang on! A manure delivery indoors might be cutting off your nose to spite your face, 😂

A ( inflatable) pool party for kids in those dates sound like a great idea 🤔

Do these people actually exist? I can only imagine telling my neighbours I was having a party if I thought it would disturb them…bloody unreal and I’d be using my garden as usual. Cheeky bastard

This is very good idea.

Peace and quiet don’t come cheap!

I can come round on 3rd May no bother, I’m a right noisy common fucker after some wines

That’s hilarious actually. We have bbqs a lot in the summer and usually knock the neighbours door or text them just so they don’t have their washing out - and they do the same. That’s the end of that exchange. She’s totally crazy

You know what time it is. It's leaf blower time.

Oh I would absolutely find a reason to use my garden. In the most plebby way possible.
Would involve manure, wellies and a radio at full blast.
Or invite some kids round and give them all a super soaker

I would watch for the arrival of cf’s guests and dash out when you see them and usher them into your house, give them a glass of bubbly and ask how their journey was. Tell them the ndn’s will be round soon and then keep them for as long as possible at your house whilst finding out all of cf skeletons in closets.

Well its definitely laundry day for all the smalls that need to go on the washing line.

This all the way. If she wanted a detached house, she should have bought one!

"Accidentally" kick a football over the fence.