To feel miffed with my neighbours request?

[Aliceglass]

I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or unreasonable here. My next door neighbour approached me at the weekend to give me dates of their summer garden parties.

For context, We live in a terrace of modern houses and we all have similar sized gardens, enclosed by neighbouring gardens, back and side.

So my neighbour told me about her planned garden parties over the next few months and there were 3 dates confirmed, 2 tbc.

But, she has specifically asked us that we don’t use our garden during the days of these parties.

I was a little take aback and said that we don’t have any scheduled bbqs or parties on those dates so they will be fine. But she said they didn’t want us to use our garden, AT ALL!
Apparently it will spoil the atmosphere if I was to “pop to the bins and empty my recycling” or if they could hear the washing machine on a spin if I left the back door open!

I did laugh at this stage and say well I can’t promise to not access my garden for the whole day.

She went on to say how her friends are “well to do” and they would expect privacy and not to be interrupted by unnecessary noise.

I got a little frustrated at this point and I asked if she was just letting me know or if the neighbours the other side were also being asked this. She assured me that, yes they were and they confirmed they won’t be using their garden or the gate to their garden at the back so as to not disturb her.

Am I being unreasonable to think that this request is unusually controlling?

That would be the day when I would dry all of all of our underwear out in the garden!

I love how you're lulling her into a false sense of security and starting your mission at 4pm.

Here for the updates 🍸

I think I might be planning my own , very exclusive, mini Glastonbury. Clearly too late to actually get any of the big names to attend, but you can play their music and cut out a few look a likes out of cardboard, then rustle up a few flags on very long poles, throw a few giant beach balls around (“ So sorry Audrey, do you mind throwing it back!”), put a bucket in your garden shed for a toilet ( if you have a compost heap meals visitors can pee on the compost but no pooing.) Cook up some bbq, invite friends with children round for a childrens day, facepainting , parachute games, giant bubbles etc and all the adults dressed as clowns.

I bloody love you OP!!! And your mates sound ace!! Enjoy your sunny day in your garden -blare out vengaboys from me!

Have fun OP. Please post back later and let us know how it all goes

This.

Do you know anyone who plays the bagpipes? They are bloody loud! (I'm married into a bagpipe playing family).
They don't need to be able to play well.
Even better if they have a friend to play the snare drum.
They don't need to be able to play well.

Remember to get the telly out and put the FA cup final on! Come on Palace!

This is brilliant!

Maybe the weather will turn rainy and her events will be cancelled.
There may even be some puddles.

Failing that: a piano accordion.

if you were local to me, I’d offer your garden to the local corps of drums to practice in.

Have a lovely afternoon.

OP, if you're having Karaoke then you need to invite me round. I am the worst singer known to mankind and can empty a room with my rendition of 'Titanium'. As a bonus, if I sing outside, all the local dogs join in.

The kids really need water balloons.....

It’s on the list!! Love vengaboys 😂

Please do lots of noisy recycling, put your sprinklers on, water pistol fight, borrow a yappy dog, have a bonfire, maybe even a rave and do some Dom Jolly style talking on your mobile phone on these dates.

What a daft woman she is.

Make sure you sort the glass recycling…get the wine bottles and beer bottles making the most noise possible.

Also just start shouting random kids names every so often (ones she might find a bit common)

Update on the last hour!

NDN has a total of 7 guests and from what we have gathered from our well positioned ear wigging, some of these friends are from the tennis club. DH has been snooping on the cars, a few Hondas, one Tesla and one old school Jag.

There was an obvious surprised gasp of “ooo!” When I turned the hosepipe on for the paddling pool. One on my friends cackled in response and I could feel NDNs eyes burning at the back of my head accompanied with a loud pointing cough. I’m for it tomorrow!

DH has repositioned the bbq near the boundary, we have a brief westerly breeze today so I’m hoping they like the smell of hotdogs 😂

Jesus, I've just seen this thread for the first time today, can't believe the bloody cheek of her!

It's bouquet! You've got me howling with this thread. She is actually asking for it.

Honda - well to do??? 😂
Hmm here in aus they known as cheap shitboxes lol

And the Eurovision at 8pm 🎶 🎵

Loving your work.

You are an absolute heroine, OP! 🌟 Surely there must be a Mumsnet award for you. 🏆