To feel miffed with my neighbours request?

[Aliceglass]

I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or unreasonable here. My next door neighbour approached me at the weekend to give me dates of their summer garden parties.

For context, We live in a terrace of modern houses and we all have similar sized gardens, enclosed by neighbouring gardens, back and side.

So my neighbour told me about her planned garden parties over the next few months and there were 3 dates confirmed, 2 tbc.

But, she has specifically asked us that we don’t use our garden during the days of these parties.

I was a little take aback and said that we don’t have any scheduled bbqs or parties on those dates so they will be fine. But she said they didn’t want us to use our garden, AT ALL!
Apparently it will spoil the atmosphere if I was to “pop to the bins and empty my recycling” or if they could hear the washing machine on a spin if I left the back door open!

I did laugh at this stage and say well I can’t promise to not access my garden for the whole day.

She went on to say how her friends are “well to do” and they would expect privacy and not to be interrupted by unnecessary noise.

I got a little frustrated at this point and I asked if she was just letting me know or if the neighbours the other side were also being asked this. She assured me that, yes they were and they confirmed they won’t be using their garden or the gate to their garden at the back so as to not disturb her.

Am I being unreasonable to think that this request is unusually controlling?

My parents neighbours (not even next door, but several houses away) once came with a similar request and my dad who is also well to do/well brought up actually told them to piss off. I was amused. It’s just so entitled!

Usual witchcraft ceremonies 😂 that made me laugh that because when she was talking to me she looked at me as if she was half scared to be talking to me in a really condescending way!

I wonder if the neighbour reads Mumsnet, and if so, whether she will recognise herself. Hope so!

Presssee the wrong vote!!! Sorry. You are Def not bring unreasonable. She is!!

Oooh Deja vueeeee
weed smoking mates
music
stinking bbq.
and a pretend your drunk pretend major row with OH

they never bothered us with their plans again.

Jesus, I wonder of your neighbour is related to mine.

They leave their dogs (6 of them) out 24/7 to bark like mad and then had the nerve to yell at me cos my dog barked all night on the front yard...my dog was 2 miles away with my parents and I was on a dirty weekend with a new bloke.

I am afraid I am not as polite as you though, mine got told that when she dealt with her fucking dogs and stopped them barking 24/7/365 then she could start moaning about other people's noise.

She also whinged that there was too much noise from my house (victorian terrace with poor noise insulation) and she could hear my dd screaming all night...dd had been at her dad's 5 miles away and I had been at work. She then proceeded to have her tv so loud I can watch the same show on mute cos it's clear as day and she had the worst rows with her dh (who is actually lovely) at 2am when she is pissed. Ir the all.night garden parties with loud drum & base music, swearing and drugs...they are in their late 50's so we aren't talking young kids here!

I may have retaliated to a week of such twatish behaviour from them by allowing dd to practice her trumpet without the silencer in. When she sent her dh round he got told firmly why his wife could go to hell. They have been surprisingly quiet ever since. Dd gave up trumpet but we still have it just in case 🤣

time to get really drunk and pass out in your garden after asking your neighbours guests if you can bum a smoke and if they wanted some lambrini!!

I'd have laughed in her face and told the fucking bitch to go and fuck off.

As for her party dates, I would go out of my way to be an obnoxious cunt and cause all sorts of noise and mayhem just to piss her off.

Dont pander to cunts like her.

Get all your saucy undergarments into the high washing line. Nurse and French maid uniforms too!

@Aliceglass you need to keep an eye out for the Onslow, Daisy and Rose relatives and befriend them. Then invite them to yours for a BBQ on the party days.

Me too and hang loads of washing out, have washer on making as much noise as possible

What would be brilliant of course is if all the guests turn up and are just like all the guests that turn up to Hyacinth Bucket's various candle light suppers. Badgered into attending, desperate to leave and trying to make their escape at every opportunity. Bonus points if there is an Elizabeth.

This, with the washer running and the radio up high 🤣

I'd light the BBQ and chuck on an old tyre! Thick black smoke and the smell from hell should see them all gone in minutes.

Perhaps your palm could be greased OP? A nice afternoon out with an early dinner so you will be out but tell the CFs no parking in front of your house or on your drive. She has asked but you can decline. Well to do bollx.

Imagine! I’m hoping I’m in the clear here because she never married nor had kids!

Well I think you should comply fully! Don’t use your back garden during her party. Instead you should use your FRONT garden. Deckchairs, maybe some washing draped over a couple of clothes horses. Do you have (or know) small DCs? They could build a “fort” out if Chris and blankets. I’m sure her posh guests would love that greeting them as they arrive….

Op, this is hilarious. Id be outside sunbathing in my best bikini!

Keep us updated..

I would honestly say to her 'If you wanted to ensure we weren't in our garden during your events, the easiest way to do that would have been to invite us to yours. As you didn't, and as you've made it clear you consider us to be lower than you on the social scale, we'll do exactly what we choose in our own garden.'

I'd definitely have a chat with your other neighbours and invite them round for a drink outside if the weather's good.

Have a big bonfire on that day. Burn old tyres, asbestos and the like. And get your neighbours to do the same.

Two words and the second is ‘off’.

DH just suggested you pressure wash your house that day! 🤣🤣

Hang some tacky knickers on the line 😂

I'd get all my mates round and have a pajama party.

She's as mad as box of frogs but somewhat less charming.