Things in life you never thought you would recover and move on from, but you did…

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Mine… a termination in my early thirties at five weeks. Absolutely devastated me. It genuinely felt like the world had switched its lights off and nothing would feel ok again. And to some extent it didn’t feel the same again, I was different, but I was still ok. I laughed again and was happy.

Later in life my child’s father left me while o was pregnant due to a breakdown. It was truly a horrendous time. He now sees our DD and things are very different again but at the time I did not see how I could put one foot in front of the other.

I think these things are really powerful to remember when hard times arrive.

I’ve experienced abuse as an adult and a child which I like to think I’ve dealt with but I don’t think you can 100%.

Watching my 28 week old premature baby fight for her life was the worst thing. I would have gone through all the other abuse ten times over rather than watch her in that box with wires. Waiting for a call from the hospital wondering if she’d passed when I wasn’t there. Her father also decided to go off the rails ( talking to other women and gambling)just before her birth and continue to do so while she was in hospital so it was a rather isolating time too. I ended up leaving.

But she’s now my daughter is doing well. She’s a happy six year old. She has a good relationship with her dad and so do I- we even go on holidays together! Never thought I’d see that happen!

Bipolar. Diagnosed last year at age 50, following a very bad hyper manic episode.

I thought I had wrecked everybody and everything in my life. I nearly did.

But dh and I made it through, kids are happy and I am well again.

Hugs for you 🤗

Lost my wonderful, wonderful mum in August. I’ve fundamentally changed as a person

If is wasn’t for my kids I would probably follow her. I don’t have a huge amount to offer anyone anyway tbh, poorly controlled depression has left me a useless lump who just wants her mum back

Hugs🤗

My partner from 20 years ago taking his own life
Delivering my stillborn son
My mum dying of dementia

My DF had terminal lung cancer but he had chemotherapy, then he had 'trials' in London. It was 4 years of ups and downs. To me (and I know this is wrong) but he died the day of his diagnosis. I grieved. The trials was just prolonging the agony. He was a fighter though and I'm proud of him for that. Changed me though. It scored my heart for sure.

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Sending hugs to you. You're absolutely not useless, you're grieving. And you will come through it, I promise x

Yes, there are a couple of them 🙂 specific to countries I think but I find them all helpful just for relatable content and knowing I'm not alone.

2024, I didn’t think I would be able to get through it and still have days where I wonder how .
Got cancer in feb
Ex broke 5 ribs in March
April had operation but they wasn’t able to put me to sleep because of broken ribs
8 hospital admissions
Partial paralysis from cancer treatment where all my right side was paralysed. Had a lengthy stay in hospital , ex didn’t bring my kids to see me nor came himself . When discharged had to get taxi home . When got home Ex kicked me out and made me homeless as he had met somebody else.
spent 9 weeks in a hotel homeless , had a breakdown and had to go stay at a crisis house . Spent a night on the streets with a suitcase in one hand and a crutch in the other .
lost being with my sons as they wanted to stay with ex .
spent Christmas Day on my own .
It was a truly horrific year and it broke me

@Ella31 So sorry for your losses 🙏My boy was stillborn at full term it's been 4 yrs, of course it gets easier as time goes on...the first year is the hardest. After that the run up to the death anniversary is hard but once it passes the clouds lift. Congratulations I hope you have a easy pregnancy and birth and a healthy child 🙏 the fear after a loss is unshakable but do try to focus on this pregnancy and hope for best 🙏

Being SAd when I was 13, I was pretty suicidal for a long time but didn't feel like I could tell anyone, or tell them why.

Rip roaring pnd when ds was born, that I was deeply in denial over but as much as I adore him, having an unplanned baby at three days into being 23 felt almost like a bereavement

Failing my a levels

I'm OK now though, for the most part

My young nephew killed himself. He was trans and had been bullied at school, he felt like he would never be accepted.

I've yet to come out the other side. I constantly think I should have done more to help him and I'm in this awful cycle of reading all the trans-hate threads on here to punish myself.

I'm so sorry to read this. When someone dies like that it is so difficult to process, I hope you are getting help for this

I am going through it now and I honestly don't know if I can survive this. 😭 I made a stupid but horrible mistake by not reading the rules properly that got my daughter suspended from doing the sport she had worked for years to achieve so much in and that she had such high (and achievable) goals in. I am absolutely wrecked with guilt and wanting to go back in time and it doesn't appear like anything I try to resolve it is working. I'm completely devastated and it breaks my heart for my daughter so much as she still continues to work so hard even though she's not allowed to compete and watches videos of everyone else competing where she should have been 😭 I know it may sound like not such a big deal in comparison to other problems people had on this thread but I am feeling suicidal over it and simply can't see a way I can make this ok.

I’m sorry to hear this. But you will get through. Too err is to be human.

Name changed for this.

Losing my entire family in a car crash when I was 9 years old. My parents, my 3 younger sisters and 2 dogs. We were on our way to our camping holiday.
Volvo estate fully loaded plus trailer on the back.

I was the only survivor, although left paralysed from the waist down.

This was in the 70s before seat belts.

Spent 3 years in hospital. Then went to live with my elderly grandparents who couldn't care for me properly but nobody else wanted a paralysed child.

Oh my goodness. So sorry.

Will she be able to un-suspended and go back to it? This sounds so hard.

Being brutally attacked and hospitalised by my partner when pregnant and the shitstorm that followed: termination, court case, stalking, bit of a mental breakdown. To anyone going through hard times ; the sun does come out again , hang in there x

My mum died when I was 12.

I think I can cope with anything in life now - the only worse thing to happen would be the loss of a child.

I am resilient and strong, been told I have steel at my core and think it’s true. Other bereavements, break down of long term relationships, any troubles in fact, pale into insignificance.

Losing my sister, then husband having a stroke then a heart attack..fast forward a few years after my dad died, to my mum dying, being diagnosed with a rare disease in the space of a month, and then finding out my husband was cheating a few months after this, going through a divorce and finding out I have breast cancer..I’m surviving still…but it’s bloody hard and I’m waking with headaches every morning at the moment. Saying that I’m in my own house and enjoying the me time.

You poor, poor woman. I am so very sorry for your loss, you must be absolutely stunned. Hand hold from me x