Paedophile taking his kid to sports at weekend

[Pumpkin05]

Long story short information has come to light someone I know was convicted and imprisoned for paedophile charges, some 20 years ago (Information is verifiable)
Flash forward he now has a wife and young child and takes said child to sports clubs and matches at the weekend.
AIBU to think this is strange, and not want my child to attend said sports matches with him there? or am I over-reacting?

Paedophiles are everywhere. OP at least you know about this one.

Take precautions to keep your child safe, if you move them to another club they may be another one at the new club, but you don't know about them.

Hes not suddenly magically not a pedophile though. Still a pedophile.

They walk among us OP even if you don’t know who they are. Best thing just keep watch of your child!

You can check with the police he's not breaking the terms of his Sexual Harm Prevention Order if one is in place. Otherwise you just have to be wary and teach your child about safety. The paedophiles you don't know about are potentially more worrying.

We had a guy in our town who had been convicted years ago of raping small boys. He lived next door to a scout hut (coincidence? I think not). Plenty of people knew about him and his house regularly got graffitied and windows smashed. It was horrible for his neighbours. Happily he is now dead.

Someone is knew served time as a paedophile and needs to notify social services each time he has planned contact with other children (he also has a wife and children).

They cannot be rehabilitated. They can make recompense for their offences (if any have been committed, plenty don’t offend) and appear contrite and live a life with no further offending but at the end of the day it is their sexual orientation and nothing can change that.
It’s why a certain section of paedophiles think that they have nothing to be ashamed of and that “paedophilia” should be considered a protected characteristic alongside sexual orientation. I don’t agree by the way.

A paedophile can no more be rehabilitated than the sexual orientation of any individual can be changed at will because they’re told so.

I would tell the club so he can’t volunteer and I’d stay well clear of him

Agree with that - hopefully every volunteer needs to be DBS checked but can never be too sure tbh.

What utter tosh

Even with the best of intentions on his part to refrain from criminal behaviour, he will always be sexually attracted to children and will always be a paedophile. I would not want my children around a paedophile but in society we come into contact with many people and we have no idea who they are and what they have done. He's highly unlikely to do anything at the club so I think as long as he's not in a situation where he's left alone with any child or coming into direct contact with children other than his own I'd probably keep my child at the club.

It’s okay, you don’t have to agree. I am right though. I have worked with and managed enough child sex offenders to know that.

But since you think I’m talking “a load of tosh” would you trust a “rehabilitated” child sex offender to be left alone with your children (real or imagined)?

He's served time in actual prison! Do you know how high the bar is for that?! They do not lock up an 18yo with a 15yo girlfriend.

Depending on the offence, he will certainly have restrictions over where he can work, and quite possibly over where he can visit. Some offenders absolutely are not allowed to attended kids' clubs like this.

I would call the non-emergency police number- they have access to the sex offenders register, and whilst they won't share that information with you, they should take action if he's breaking his conditions.

He’s done his time

It's a paedophile, not someone who was involved in a drunken brawl when young and foolish.

Cool username! My kids sometimes pulls this face that looks so much like him and it really unsettles me🤣

Cool username! My kids sometimes pulls this face that looks so much like him and it really unsettles me🤣

Thank you 😁 that would be extremely unsettling 😂

No, this poster just has common sense like most of us.

OP, if the details of the case are relevant, i.e. same age group, I would inform the club leaders because this is a safeguarding issue.

I thought child sex offenders weren’t allowed to be within a certain distance of schools and places where kids will likely be, for life? If that’s not true I’m surprised - particularly if this one has actually been convicted bc he’d be on the sex offenders register

Sadly pretty much this. There's a convicted paedophile that lives next door to DS' old school (literally) and he sits in the garden and watches them all walk out after school which creeps me out no end- police nor the school could do anything about it. Disgusting though. As has been said all you can really do is take steps to try and protect your child, and if you feel it necessary make the safeguard lead for the club aware.

Thanks everyone for your replies.
I had spoke to some family yesterday who were on the same train of thought of “he’s done his time etc” but I was under the impression that if that’s his sexual preference he’s not going to just change, so was surprised at their reaction.
I agree with you all that they’re everywhere and it’s better that at least now I know and can give him a wide berth!

There are 3 possible sexual orientations - homosexual, heterosexual or bisexual.
Pedophilia is a paraphilia. Some on with that paraphilia can be homo, hetero or bisexual. Please do not mix a paraphilia in with sexual orientation!

If he isn’t on the sex offenders register anymore there isn’t anything legally stopping him going. If he tried to volunteer etc it would show on his DBS which means he wouldn’t then be able to volunteer.

The fact that a hazard may be common doesn't generally mean you don't bother to try and avoid ones you know are there.

I would make an anonymous call to the NSPCC or the Multi Agency Safeguarding Hub in social care, giving the name of the perpetrator and the child and making them aware that the child lives with the perpetrator. They can then do the necessary checks and make sure the appropriate disclosures and risk assessments have been made. I would also make the children's clubs aware of his offending history so he cannot help out or volunteer and they can consider their responsibility to other children - for instance if he were to be part of a lift share arrangement.

It's not true.

When sentencing the judge will make a decision as to how long someone will remain on the register, this doesn't prevent them from doing things - it means they have to register new addresses, holidays and bank details. Some will be on the register for life, most will be 5-10 years.

The Police can apply for other powers such as a Sexual Harm Prevention Order or a Sexual Risk Order - these can come with more specific restrictions but they need to be argued for in court by the CPS for a specific reason, they aren't just handed out.

If he was convicted and went to prison he would have been on licence and managed by the probation service for a time but it's likely in this case to have ended some time ago. Post custody licence includes specific restrictions but this ends when the sentence ends.

My specific concern would be that because the offence was 20 years ago, this man might not have disclosed his history and his partner may be unaware, because comprehensive electronic records would not have been in place at that time