Paedophile taking his kid to sports at weekend

[Pumpkin05]

Long story short information has come to light someone I know was convicted and imprisoned for paedophile charges, some 20 years ago (Information is verifiable)
Flash forward he now has a wife and young child and takes said child to sports clubs and matches at the weekend.
AIBU to think this is strange, and not want my child to attend said sports matches with him there? or am I over-reacting?

At least you know I suppose, and can make sure he’s never around your child unsupervised. There’s sadly likely to be paedophiles everywhere you go but it’s impossible to tell who they are!

If it’s a matter of public record, I’d be telling everyone to avoid the depraved nonce. They may have ‘done their time’ but they’re still scum of the earth who don’t deserve to live happily in decent society.

All these on here that think he’s done his time and let him be are shocking. I’ve lived with the fall out from my ex stepdad abusing me as a little child and then my mother for covering it up and sending me to his house in the school holidays with his son (my baby half brother). He was married to my mum, had sex with my mum to produce my brother but still wanted a six year old on the side! It’s life changing when you’re abused in anyway shape or form. I’m so pleased a lot of you have never had to be in that position to live a life after abuse and just see it as a crime that is easily rectified if the person has done the time for it.

I would take your children out if worried

Who the fuck is this woman who has had a child with a pedo, how could anyone do that and feel safe.

I would talk to the coaches, say what you know and ask if they have any guidance on how to proceed. I wouldn't stop my child from doing the sport, switch days or times if I can but I would 100% be watching my child, and him, like a hawk.

Although I would want to know what the actual charge pertains to, if he was 18 and his gf 15 then I don't think I'd be as fussed, if he molested a young child tbh I may just brazenly approach him and say considering his history you don't feel comfortable etc, then he might stop. Edit to add I just RTFT, I'd be calling him out or speaking to the wife based on that charge. Sicko

Pedos can not do their time, they're fucked up and nothing can fix them. A waste of air and resources tbh

Well how does it start? When might it start?

I've worked with countless SO's myself and I'd bet a kidney that you can't rehabilitate a paedophile.

Make sure you are watching, all the time. Leopards don't change their spots.

The best thing you can do if you have concerns is raise it with the police. He may not be required to be on the sex offenders register anymore. Depending on the length of his sentence depends on whether he will be on the register indefinitely.

The reason I urge you to tread cautiously is for the child and wife who are innocent of this mans crimes and do not deserve to have their lives destroyed.

This.

I can’t write here what I’d hope would be the end result for him as the post would be deleted. They’re the fucking worst and don’t deserve to ever be tolerated in society. Whether it’s one day or one hundred years after conviction, they don’t deserve anything from anyone.

The only non-threatening paedophile is a dead one.

I would have a word with the club’s safeguarding officer. And with any club or activity involving children:

• is it well organised and professional?
• is the safeguarding information on the website up to date?
• be wary of lift sharing etc.
• make sure you’ve had the correct conversations with your child.

Where there are children, there will be paedophiles. Whether it’s a school, football club, scout group, church youth group, whatever. The safeguarding has to be watertight to make it clear to potential offenders that this is not an environment in which they can operate, and to never give them the opportunity.

Logically I accept that paedophiles are everywhere so the risk posed by this individual isn’t that significantly high.

However I wouldn’t be comfortable in this situation and would likely move my child to another sports club.

Not a paedophile , to my knowledge, but poor Rosie Batty was told to allow her ex to attend her sons cricket practice. She's English but was Australian of the year.
I'd be keeping every dodgy man ( paedo, record of violence, has an AVO etc) well away from kids sports.
I regularly think of this poor young boy and the people that were there but just a minute too late as he'd taken him to the side of the oval.😧

It sounds like downloading and sharing images rather than actually abusing a child? The crime of making images doesn't mean he took the photos it literally means making a copy of a file by downloading it. Which is obviously still despicable but I don't think all men who download images go on to offend in person, and the terms of his probation seem to allow him contact with children. I would never leave my child with someone who had done that, or spend time with them socially but I probably wouldn't leave the football club over it or prevent my own child from playing.

I thought that paedophiles after a prison sentence still had restrictions on who they could live with after their release? Certainly when I was fostering I knew of a woman who lost her kids because she refused to throw out the paedophile she had brought into her home. I would have thought he would still be on the sex offenders register.

surely there ate conditions around his release that would include not being around other children. I'd contact the police and ask them if any conditions are in place and whether they're being followed.

Honestly. You're overthinking this. He's not a risk to your child. You aren't leaving your child unattended with him.

You would be shocked at how many people your child comes into contact with on a daily basis that are on a sex offenders register, many children in school are also on it I have two in my class!
Your next door neighbour might be. At least you know about this one

The people minimising what this piece of scum did because he wasn’t convicted of physically touching a child and just possessing, making and distributing images should be ashamed of themselves. You halfwits are acting like he may have just accidentally opened a link and was horrified. The OP clearly states he made the abuse images and distributed them.

Yes and he went to prison for whatever he did, we know how lenient sentences can be for sexual offences so to go to jail says something

You can always do a right to tell (not ask) Sarah's law request and police will disclose to the sports club if necessary

I’ve worked in forensics and a lot
of our patients were paedophiles. They absolutely cannot be rehabilitated despite the claims of some in this post- it’s one the main reasons why that sector has such a poor staff retention rate.

In your situation- I would ensure that everyone who possibly can know what he is, does know what he is.

I know, right? There is no 'only' anything when it comes to child sexual abuse. Ludicrous.

I hate this 'he's done his time' when it comes to convicted paedophiles.

What about the victims, have they done their time, or is this something they will need to deal with for the rest of their lives?

The damage done is irreversible and can't (IMO) be made ok by a jail stint.

Some posters mentioned that "making" in this context in the law means making a copy (for example by downloading from the internet), not creating the image.

https://www.olliers.com/news/what-does-making-indecent-images-mean/

Which really shifts it. I'm not saying it isn't disgusting, just that the risk to a real child at football aren't that high as if he harmed a child personally.

This is what I was going to say.

So much depends on the actual circumstances. I am aware of a local lad who has ended up on the sex offenders register because when he was 18 at a party he had sex with a girl he thought was his age. Turns out she was 15 and the parents got the police involved.

He behaviour was inappropriate not predatory, but he is stuck with this for life.